Re: Comparing my FOO to a a colony of bees

[Guest guest]

Yes, yes, yes, thank you for the saying, it is something I am constantly working

on, to not get riled up.

And I love that metaphor. I think of nada & other PDs and their triggers that

get inserted into me, as a nest of wasps full of stings.

To be detached is so hard. I struggle with a PD boss at work. I have it now,

that the only way she can reach me is via email, and I practice ignoring her

emails. I still get a little reaction, keeping my defenses calm is the hard

part!

Thanks for this quote, I will hang it up to remind me to remain calm around the

PDs of this world...

WTH

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> I am ignoring my ringing telephone from nada this past few days. I just don't

want to deal with anything at all like a beehive. We've had snow to keep us

home this past few days, and I am trying to heal with daily meditation and

compassion practices.

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> I hope this reading from my Al-anon program today, may bring perspective and

peace for someone besides myself. It was so beautiful I had to share.

> Detachment is key to recovering from foo issues, it is such a small

practice, it is amazing to me that just like meditation, it works when done

regularly and humbly.

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> " Early one morning, I stopped to watch a colony of bees. A little intimidated

by the frenzied motion and intense buzzing, I reminded myself that if I didn't

poke my nose into their hive, I wouldn't get stung. If I chose to maintain a

safe distance from a dangerous situation, I would be fine.

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> To me, this is exactly the lesson that detachment teaches. The choice is

mine. When I sense that a situation is dangerous to my physical, mental, or

spiritual well-being, I can put extra distance between myself and the situation.

Sometimes this means that I don't get too emotionally involved in a problem;

sometimes I may physically leave the room or end a conversation. And sometimes I

try to put spiritual space between myself and another person's emotional

addiction or behavior. This doesn't mean I stop loving the person, only that I

acknowledge the risks to my own well-being and make choices to take care of

myself.

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> Today's Reminder

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> Now I know how to end an argument by simply refusing to participate, to turn

to my Higher Power for help with whatever I'm powerless to change, to say, " No, "

when I mean no, and to step back from insanity rather than diving into it.

Detachment is a loving gift I continue to give to myself and to others.

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> " If a man carries his own lantern, he need not fear darkness. " Hasidic saying

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[Guest guest]

I liked that metaphor too, except that I'd change it to a hornet's nest.

(Hornets are large wasps.) Regular bees aren't mean or aggressive and they do

make lovely honey for us, but hornets... well, to me, they're just dangerous and

easily triggered into attacking.

-Annie

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> Yes, yes, yes, thank you for the saying, it is something I am constantly

working on, to not get riled up.

> And I love that metaphor. I think of nada & other PDs and their triggers that

get inserted into me, as a nest of wasps full of stings.

>

> To be detached is so hard. I struggle with a PD boss at work. I have it now,

that the only way she can reach me is via email, and I practice ignoring her

emails. I still get a little reaction, keeping my defenses calm is the hard

part!

>

> Thanks for this quote, I will hang it up to remind me to remain calm around

the PDs of this world...

> WTH

[Guest guest]

I liked that metaphor too, except that I'd change it to a hornet's nest.

(Hornets are large wasps.) Regular bees aren't mean or aggressive and they do

make lovely honey for us, but hornets... well, to me, they're just dangerous and

easily triggered into attacking.

-Annie

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> Yes, yes, yes, thank you for the saying, it is something I am constantly

working on, to not get riled up.

> And I love that metaphor. I think of nada & other PDs and their triggers that

get inserted into me, as a nest of wasps full of stings.

>

> To be detached is so hard. I struggle with a PD boss at work. I have it now,

that the only way she can reach me is via email, and I practice ignoring her

emails. I still get a little reaction, keeping my defenses calm is the hard

part!

>

> Thanks for this quote, I will hang it up to remind me to remain calm around

the PDs of this world...

> WTH