Guest guest Posted January 14, 2011 Report Share Posted January 14, 2011 When I was a kid, nada would get so angry & lay the FOG on thick when it came to doing anything around the house. Everyone would have to help and even then it wasn't enough. Well, some of that FOG has carried over into my adult life, but I caught it today. Fiance & his brother were taking down the Christmas tree (finally hehe). I said I could probably run the vacuum to help and fiance said he didn't want me to over do it so he asked me not to. I was suddenly filled with guilt for not being able to help take the tree down due to my surgery. Well I caught it. I thought to myself, " Ok Mia... why are you upset? Don't you have a legitimate reason to be sitting on your rear end right now? Wouldn't you be helping if you could? " I was then able to put it in perspective & realize that it was FOG making me feel that way and the guilt subsided. I caught it fast and put it to rest. It's a small victory, but I'll take it! Mia Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 14, 2011 Report Share Posted January 14, 2011 That is great! Its true: I believe that its those *seemingly* small epiphanies: such things as being able to realize *in the moment*, " Hey! Wait a second! This isn't *me* (or, " this isn't true " ), this is a nada-tape playing in my head! " are the building blocks or steps toward real emotional healing. I mean, its good to realize *after the fact* that something was a nada-ism or a flea behavior, but when it gets to the point where you're realizing it *while its happening* or in the moment, and do a reality-check on yourself *in the moment*, THAT is big! The closest thing I can liken it to is when you're studying a foreign language and after a while, you realize that sometimes when you dream, you are *dreaming* in the foreign language! Its a big step, it means you're really absorbing the foreign language and *thinking* in it. Its becoming an integral part of you. So, anyway, congrats! -Annie > > When I was a kid, nada would get so angry & lay the FOG on thick when it > came to doing anything around the house. Everyone would have to help and > even then it wasn't enough. > > Well, some of that FOG has carried over into my adult life, but I caught it > today. > > Fiance & his brother were taking down the Christmas tree (finally hehe). I > said I could probably run the vacuum to help and fiance said he didn't want > me to over do it so he asked me not to. I was suddenly filled with guilt > for not being able to help take the tree down due to my surgery. Well I > caught it. I thought to myself, " Ok Mia... why are you upset? Don't you > have a legitimate reason to be sitting on your rear end right now? Wouldn't > you be helping if you could? " I was then able to put it in perspective & > realize that it was FOG making me feel that way and the guilt subsided. > > I caught it fast and put it to rest. It's a small victory, but I'll take > it! > > Mia > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 14, 2011 Report Share Posted January 14, 2011 That is great! Its true: I believe that its those *seemingly* small epiphanies: such things as being able to realize *in the moment*, " Hey! Wait a second! This isn't *me* (or, " this isn't true " ), this is a nada-tape playing in my head! " are the building blocks or steps toward real emotional healing. I mean, its good to realize *after the fact* that something was a nada-ism or a flea behavior, but when it gets to the point where you're realizing it *while its happening* or in the moment, and do a reality-check on yourself *in the moment*, THAT is big! The closest thing I can liken it to is when you're studying a foreign language and after a while, you realize that sometimes when you dream, you are *dreaming* in the foreign language! Its a big step, it means you're really absorbing the foreign language and *thinking* in it. Its becoming an integral part of you. So, anyway, congrats! -Annie > > When I was a kid, nada would get so angry & lay the FOG on thick when it > came to doing anything around the house. Everyone would have to help and > even then it wasn't enough. > > Well, some of that FOG has carried over into my adult life, but I caught it > today. > > Fiance & his brother were taking down the Christmas tree (finally hehe). I > said I could probably run the vacuum to help and fiance said he didn't want > me to over do it so he asked me not to. I was suddenly filled with guilt > for not being able to help take the tree down due to my surgery. Well I > caught it. I thought to myself, " Ok Mia... why are you upset? Don't you > have a legitimate reason to be sitting on your rear end right now? Wouldn't > you be helping if you could? " I was then able to put it in perspective & > realize that it was FOG making me feel that way and the guilt subsided. > > I caught it fast and put it to rest. It's a small victory, but I'll take > it! > > Mia > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 14, 2011 Report Share Posted January 14, 2011 That is great! Its true: I believe that its those *seemingly* small epiphanies: such things as being able to realize *in the moment*, " Hey! Wait a second! This isn't *me* (or, " this isn't true " ), this is a nada-tape playing in my head! " are the building blocks or steps toward real emotional healing. I mean, its good to realize *after the fact* that something was a nada-ism or a flea behavior, but when it gets to the point where you're realizing it *while its happening* or in the moment, and do a reality-check on yourself *in the moment*, THAT is big! The closest thing I can liken it to is when you're studying a foreign language and after a while, you realize that sometimes when you dream, you are *dreaming* in the foreign language! Its a big step, it means you're really absorbing the foreign language and *thinking* in it. Its becoming an integral part of you. So, anyway, congrats! -Annie > > When I was a kid, nada would get so angry & lay the FOG on thick when it > came to doing anything around the house. Everyone would have to help and > even then it wasn't enough. > > Well, some of that FOG has carried over into my adult life, but I caught it > today. > > Fiance & his brother were taking down the Christmas tree (finally hehe). I > said I could probably run the vacuum to help and fiance said he didn't want > me to over do it so he asked me not to. I was suddenly filled with guilt > for not being able to help take the tree down due to my surgery. Well I > caught it. I thought to myself, " Ok Mia... why are you upset? Don't you > have a legitimate reason to be sitting on your rear end right now? Wouldn't > you be helping if you could? " I was then able to put it in perspective & > realize that it was FOG making me feel that way and the guilt subsided. > > I caught it fast and put it to rest. It's a small victory, but I'll take > it! > > Mia > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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