Re: Hello everybody - aspiring IE here!

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Hi ,

Nice to "meet" you. Glad you found this group. You will learn a lot here. Something I've learned is that this process is very slow and their are lots of baby steps. I hope you will find some helpful tips out of this group!

Barb

To: IntuitiveEating_Support Sent: Saturday, December 17, 2011 2:24 PMSubject: Hello everybody - aspiring IE here!

Hello everybody! I'm new to IE and looking for a friendly community to share my experiences and thoughts with I ended up here :)I'll try to keep my story short for two main reasons: I don't know where to start, and I myself have trouble in telling it - so many pieces I still can't fit!My name is , I'm from Italy and I'm 17 (almost 18) years old.As a child I've always been overweight, reaching the maximum weight of 120kg (265 lbs) two-three years ago. I had tried to eat better many times, but it never worked.Then, suddenly, at the beginning of the year 2010, I decided it was time to do it for good, and I started studying nutrition and got serious about dieting. Result: I "magically" lost all that fat, with a great deal of self-control and willpower, getting down to about 70kg in autumn.When I tried to "stop" dieting and maintain my weight, I failed. I have always been a perfectionist, so I kept avoiding "forbidden

foods", becoming what the book calls a "pseudo-dieter". I ate more and more "good foods", but I would always be very careful and count calories, and I kept losing weight. I did strength training throughout, but it obviously didn't work as expected because I was still in an energy deficit.When I got tired of counting calories, I tried to eat "normally" for a while, but I lost even more weight, getting to a minimum of 60kg in winter. My parents and friends started getting worried, and pushed on me to make me eat more.Result: from orthorexia to some sort of anorexia, I decided to really eat more, and binge eating started. Every time I would really eat more, I'd feel bad and then restrict for one or two days. What happened here is excellently described in the book as the "seesaw effect": the guilt would then slowly fade while hunger rose, another binge would happen and I was back at the beginning, every time.With ups and downs, this has been

going on from the beginning of 2011 until now.In the last months I've decided to ditch my pride and seek help - my friends and family are now with me and they know everything I do, every little step, and it's been helping me a lot.Some days ago, last Sunday I think, I stumbled upon this book, and I - well - devoured it. Not literally, thankfully ( ), but it fascinated me as it looked like my biography! Every little paragraph, every thing, was about me. It was like learning about me, and having my life perfectly analysed by two complete strangers, the authors, which happened to know everything about me.So, my IE journey started. I'm still in the first phase though, so I find it difficult to "Feel my fullness" when I'm eating foods I had been restricting, but I'm working on it ;)I tend to eat a light, "standard" breakfast, then eat a lot at lunch and find myself still sated at dinner, so I usually keep it light too. I think

this pattern still doesn't really work, because at lunchtime, every time, I find myself starving, but at least I'm not bingeing anymore. I eat lots of bread, lots of pasta, but as soon as I'll convince myself that I can eat them whenever I want, I won't feel the need to stock up on them while my mind allows them. I think I'm much like the alley cat the book talks about.However, it looks like I failed in keeping my story short - sorry for the wall of text!Thanks to everybody for being there - your presence alone helps me a lot!

[Guest guest]

Wow, ! Thank you for writing your story. Definitely not "too long" -- it's a big story, no way to cut it short and no reason to either. I think all of us can relate to it. Thank you for joining!Ellie To: IntuitiveEating_Support Sent: Saturday, December 17, 2011 2:24 PM Subject: Hello everybody - aspiring IE here!

Hello everybody! I'm new to IE and looking for a friendly community to share my experiences and thoughts with I ended up here

I'll try to keep my story short for two main reasons: I don't know where to start, and I myself have trouble in telling it - so many pieces I still can't fit!

My name is , I'm from Italy and I'm 17 (almost 18) years old.

As a child I've always been overweight, reaching the maximum weight of 120kg (265 lbs) two-three years ago. I had tried to eat better many times, but it never worked.

Then, suddenly, at the beginning of the year 2010, I decided it was time to do it for good, and I started studying nutrition and got serious about dieting. Result: I "magically" lost all that fat, with a great deal of self-control and willpower, getting down to about 70kg in autumn.

When I tried to "stop" dieting and maintain my weight, I failed. I have always been a perfectionist, so I kept avoiding "forbidden foods", becoming what the book calls a "pseudo-dieter". I ate more and more "good foods", but I would always be very careful and count calories, and I kept losing weight. I did strength training throughout, but it obviously didn't work as expected because I was still in an energy deficit.

When I got tired of counting calories, I tried to eat "normally" for a while, but I lost even more weight, getting to a minimum of 60kg in winter. My parents and friends started getting worried, and pushed on me to make me eat more.

Result: from orthorexia to some sort of anorexia, I decided to really eat more, and binge eating started. Every time I would really eat more, I'd feel bad and then restrict for one or two days. What happened here is excellently described in the book as the "seesaw effect": the guilt would then slowly fade while hunger rose, another binge would happen and I was back at the beginning, every time.

With ups and downs, this has been going on from the beginning of 2011 until now.

In the last months I've decided to ditch my pride and seek help - my friends and family are now with me and they know everything I do, every little step, and it's been helping me a lot.

Some days ago, last Sunday I think, I stumbled upon this book, and I - well - devoured it. Not literally, thankfully ( ), but it fascinated me as it looked like my biography! Every little paragraph, every thing, was about me. It was like learning about me, and having my life perfectly analysed by two complete strangers, the authors, which happened to know everything about me.

So, my IE journey started. I'm still in the first phase though, so I find it difficult to "Feel my fullness" when I'm eating foods I had been restricting, but I'm working on it

I tend to eat a light, "standard" breakfast, then eat a lot at lunch and find myself still sated at dinner, so I usually keep it light too. I think this pattern still doesn't really work, because at lunchtime, every time, I find myself starving, but at least I'm not bingeing anymore. I eat lots of bread, lots of pasta, but as soon as I'll convince myself that I can eat them whenever I want, I won't feel the need to stock up on them while my mind allows them. I think I'm much like the alley cat the book talks about.

However, it looks like I failed in keeping my story short - sorry for the wall of text!

Thanks to everybody for being there - your presence alone helps me a lot!

[Guest guest]

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Hello everybody! I'm new to IE and looking for a friendly community to share my experiences and thoughts with I ended up here

I'll try to keep my story short for two main reasons: I don't know where to start, and I myself have trouble in telling it - so many pieces I still can't fit!

My name is , I'm from Italy and I'm 17 (almost 18) years old.

As a child I've always been overweight, reaching the maximum weight of 120kg (265 lbs) two-three years ago. I had tried to eat better many times, but it never worked.

Then, suddenly, at the beginning of the year 2010, I decided it was time to do it for good, and I started studying nutrition and got serious about dieting. Result: I " magically " lost all that fat, with a great deal of self-control and willpower, getting down to about 70kg in autumn.

When I tried to " stop " dieting and maintain my weight, I failed. I have always been a perfectionist, so I kept avoiding " forbidden foods " , becoming what the book calls a " pseudo-dieter " . I ate more and more " good foods " , but I would always be very careful and count calories, and I kept losing weight. I did strength training throughout, but it obviously didn't work as expected because I was still in an energy deficit.

When I got tired of counting calories, I tried to eat " normally " for a while, but I lost even more weight, getting to a minimum of 60kg in winter. My parents and friends started getting worried, and pushed on me to make me eat more.

Result: from orthorexia to some sort of anorexia, I decided to really eat more, and binge eating started. Every time I would really eat more, I'd feel bad and then restrict for one or two days. What happened here is excellently described in the book as the " seesaw effect " : the guilt would then slowly fade while hunger rose, another binge would happen and I was back at the beginning, every time.

With ups and downs, this has been going on from the beginning of 2011 until now.

In the last months I've decided to ditch my pride and seek help - my friends and family are now with me and they know everything I do, every little step, and it's been helping me a lot.

Some days ago, last Sunday I think, I stumbled upon this book, and I - well - devoured it. Not literally, thankfully ( ), but it fascinated me as it looked like my biography! Every little paragraph, every thing, was about me. It was like learning about me, and having my life perfectly analysed by two complete strangers, the authors, which happened to know everything about me.

So, my IE journey started. I'm still in the first phase though, so I find it difficult to " Feel my fullness " when I'm eating foods I had been restricting, but I'm working on it

I tend to eat a light, " standard " breakfast, then eat a lot at lunch and find myself still sated at dinner, so I usually keep it light too. I think this pattern still doesn't really work, because at lunchtime, every time, I find myself starving, but at least I'm not bingeing anymore. I eat lots of bread, lots of pasta, but as soon as I'll convince myself that I can eat them whenever I want, I won't feel the need to stock up on them while my mind allows them. I think I'm much like the alley cat the book talks about.

However, it looks like I failed in keeping my story short - sorry for the wall of text!

Thanks to everybody for being there - your presence alone helps me a lot!

[Guest guest]

Welcome ! How wonderful to read that IE is finding its way world wide. Bravo

for you to embrace this for yourself and so young in life too. Your story is

'perfect' too - one many of us here understand from personal experience also.

What came to my mind as I read your post was how happy I am that you are

discovering this so young in life. I think you will have a very good chance of

making positive changes because you have less 'baggage' than we who have many

more years of banging our heads against the dieting wall :-) One thing I would

like to suggest is to allow yourself as much time as you need to add changes to

your eating habits. IE is NOT A RACE. There is no prize for doing IE the

'quickest' or 'best' - the reward you seek is simply to return to eating as YOUR

body needs - period.

And regarding perfectionism, its like much in life - it has good and bad in it.

Putting great effort into one's goals is admirable, but when the goal becomes

all that is important, it takes more than what one would be best served by to

accomplish that end. As you will be learning, 'good' and 'bad' are relative - in

foods, exercise, and life in general. As another member reminded us - baby steps

are wonderful and progress we can be proud of too.

I am looking forward to reading more posts from you - long or short. How

fabulous that your family is supporting you also. That is great and will be so

helpful too. Glad to have your join us here too.

BEST to you, Katcha

IEing since March 2007

>

> Hello everybody! I'm new to IE and looking for a friendly community to share

my experiences and thoughts with I ended up here

>

> I'll try to keep my story short for two main reasons: I don't know where to

start, and I myself have trouble in telling it - so many pieces I still can't

fit!

>

> My name is , I'm from Italy and I'm 17 (almost 18) years old.

> As a child I've always been overweight, reaching the maximum weight of 120kg

(265 lbs) two-three years ago. I had tried to eat better many times, but it

never worked.

> Then, suddenly, at the beginning of the year 2010, I decided it was time to do

it for good, and I started studying nutrition and got serious about dieting.

Result: I " magically " lost all that fat, with a great deal of self-control and

willpower, getting down to about 70kg in autumn.

> When I tried to " stop " dieting and maintain my weight, I failed. I have always

been a perfectionist, so I kept avoiding " forbidden foods " , becoming what the

book calls a " pseudo-dieter " . I ate more and more " good foods " , but I would

always be very careful and count calories, and I kept losing weight. I did

strength training throughout, but it obviously didn't work as expected because I

was still in an energy deficit.

> When I got tired of counting calories, I tried to eat " normally " for a while,

but I lost even more weight, getting to a minimum of 60kg in winter. My parents

and friends started getting worried, and pushed on me to make me eat more.

> Result: from orthorexia to some sort of anorexia, I decided to really eat

more, and binge eating started. Every time I would really eat more, I'd feel bad

and then restrict for one or two days. What happened here is excellently

described in the book as the " seesaw effect " : the guilt would then slowly fade

while hunger rose, another binge would happen and I was back at the beginning,

every time.

> With ups and downs, this has been going on from the beginning of 2011 until

now.

> In the last months I've decided to ditch my pride and seek help - my friends

and family are now with me and they know everything I do, every little step, and

it's been helping me a lot.

>

> Some days ago, last Sunday I think, I stumbled upon this book, and I - well -

devoured it. Not literally, thankfully ( ), but it fascinated me as it looked

like my biography! Every little paragraph, every thing, was about me. It was

like learning about me, and having my life perfectly analysed by two complete

strangers, the authors, which happened to know everything about me.

>

> So, my IE journey started. I'm still in the first phase though, so I find it

difficult to " Feel my fullness " when I'm eating foods I had been restricting,

but I'm working on it

>

> I tend to eat a light, " standard " breakfast, then eat a lot at lunch and find

myself still sated at dinner, so I usually keep it light too. I think this

pattern still doesn't really work, because at lunchtime, every time, I find

myself starving, but at least I'm not bingeing anymore. I eat lots of bread,

lots of pasta, but as soon as I'll convince myself that I can eat them whenever

I want, I won't feel the need to stock up on them while my mind allows them. I

think I'm much like the alley cat the book talks about.

>

> However, it looks like I failed in keeping my story short - sorry for the wall

of text!

>

>

> Thanks to everybody for being there - your presence alone helps me a lot!

>

[Guest guest]

Welcome ! How wonderful to read that IE is finding its way world wide. Bravo

for you to embrace this for yourself and so young in life too. Your story is

'perfect' too - one many of us here understand from personal experience also.

What came to my mind as I read your post was how happy I am that you are

discovering this so young in life. I think you will have a very good chance of

making positive changes because you have less 'baggage' than we who have many

more years of banging our heads against the dieting wall :-) One thing I would

like to suggest is to allow yourself as much time as you need to add changes to

your eating habits. IE is NOT A RACE. There is no prize for doing IE the

'quickest' or 'best' - the reward you seek is simply to return to eating as YOUR

body needs - period.

And regarding perfectionism, its like much in life - it has good and bad in it.

Putting great effort into one's goals is admirable, but when the goal becomes

all that is important, it takes more than what one would be best served by to

accomplish that end. As you will be learning, 'good' and 'bad' are relative - in

foods, exercise, and life in general. As another member reminded us - baby steps

are wonderful and progress we can be proud of too.

I am looking forward to reading more posts from you - long or short. How

fabulous that your family is supporting you also. That is great and will be so

helpful too. Glad to have your join us here too.

BEST to you, Katcha

IEing since March 2007

>

> Hello everybody! I'm new to IE and looking for a friendly community to share

my experiences and thoughts with I ended up here

>

> I'll try to keep my story short for two main reasons: I don't know where to

start, and I myself have trouble in telling it - so many pieces I still can't

fit!

>

> My name is , I'm from Italy and I'm 17 (almost 18) years old.

> As a child I've always been overweight, reaching the maximum weight of 120kg

(265 lbs) two-three years ago. I had tried to eat better many times, but it

never worked.

> Then, suddenly, at the beginning of the year 2010, I decided it was time to do

it for good, and I started studying nutrition and got serious about dieting.

Result: I " magically " lost all that fat, with a great deal of self-control and

willpower, getting down to about 70kg in autumn.

> When I tried to " stop " dieting and maintain my weight, I failed. I have always

been a perfectionist, so I kept avoiding " forbidden foods " , becoming what the

book calls a " pseudo-dieter " . I ate more and more " good foods " , but I would

always be very careful and count calories, and I kept losing weight. I did

strength training throughout, but it obviously didn't work as expected because I

was still in an energy deficit.

> When I got tired of counting calories, I tried to eat " normally " for a while,

but I lost even more weight, getting to a minimum of 60kg in winter. My parents

and friends started getting worried, and pushed on me to make me eat more.

> Result: from orthorexia to some sort of anorexia, I decided to really eat

more, and binge eating started. Every time I would really eat more, I'd feel bad

and then restrict for one or two days. What happened here is excellently

described in the book as the " seesaw effect " : the guilt would then slowly fade

while hunger rose, another binge would happen and I was back at the beginning,

every time.

> With ups and downs, this has been going on from the beginning of 2011 until

now.

> In the last months I've decided to ditch my pride and seek help - my friends

and family are now with me and they know everything I do, every little step, and

it's been helping me a lot.

>

> Some days ago, last Sunday I think, I stumbled upon this book, and I - well -

devoured it. Not literally, thankfully ( ), but it fascinated me as it looked

like my biography! Every little paragraph, every thing, was about me. It was

like learning about me, and having my life perfectly analysed by two complete

strangers, the authors, which happened to know everything about me.

>

> So, my IE journey started. I'm still in the first phase though, so I find it

difficult to " Feel my fullness " when I'm eating foods I had been restricting,

but I'm working on it

>

> I tend to eat a light, " standard " breakfast, then eat a lot at lunch and find

myself still sated at dinner, so I usually keep it light too. I think this

pattern still doesn't really work, because at lunchtime, every time, I find

myself starving, but at least I'm not bingeing anymore. I eat lots of bread,

lots of pasta, but as soon as I'll convince myself that I can eat them whenever

I want, I won't feel the need to stock up on them while my mind allows them. I

think I'm much like the alley cat the book talks about.

>

> However, it looks like I failed in keeping my story short - sorry for the wall

of text!

>

>

> Thanks to everybody for being there - your presence alone helps me a lot!

>

[Guest guest]

Welcome ! How wonderful to read that IE is finding its way world wide. Bravo

for you to embrace this for yourself and so young in life too. Your story is

'perfect' too - one many of us here understand from personal experience also.

What came to my mind as I read your post was how happy I am that you are

discovering this so young in life. I think you will have a very good chance of

making positive changes because you have less 'baggage' than we who have many

more years of banging our heads against the dieting wall :-) One thing I would

like to suggest is to allow yourself as much time as you need to add changes to

your eating habits. IE is NOT A RACE. There is no prize for doing IE the

'quickest' or 'best' - the reward you seek is simply to return to eating as YOUR

body needs - period.

And regarding perfectionism, its like much in life - it has good and bad in it.

Putting great effort into one's goals is admirable, but when the goal becomes

all that is important, it takes more than what one would be best served by to

accomplish that end. As you will be learning, 'good' and 'bad' are relative - in

foods, exercise, and life in general. As another member reminded us - baby steps

are wonderful and progress we can be proud of too.

I am looking forward to reading more posts from you - long or short. How

fabulous that your family is supporting you also. That is great and will be so

helpful too. Glad to have your join us here too.

BEST to you, Katcha

IEing since March 2007

>

> Hello everybody! I'm new to IE and looking for a friendly community to share

my experiences and thoughts with I ended up here

>

> I'll try to keep my story short for two main reasons: I don't know where to

start, and I myself have trouble in telling it - so many pieces I still can't

fit!

>

> My name is , I'm from Italy and I'm 17 (almost 18) years old.

> As a child I've always been overweight, reaching the maximum weight of 120kg

(265 lbs) two-three years ago. I had tried to eat better many times, but it

never worked.

> Then, suddenly, at the beginning of the year 2010, I decided it was time to do

it for good, and I started studying nutrition and got serious about dieting.

Result: I " magically " lost all that fat, with a great deal of self-control and

willpower, getting down to about 70kg in autumn.

> When I tried to " stop " dieting and maintain my weight, I failed. I have always

been a perfectionist, so I kept avoiding " forbidden foods " , becoming what the

book calls a " pseudo-dieter " . I ate more and more " good foods " , but I would

always be very careful and count calories, and I kept losing weight. I did

strength training throughout, but it obviously didn't work as expected because I

was still in an energy deficit.

> When I got tired of counting calories, I tried to eat " normally " for a while,

but I lost even more weight, getting to a minimum of 60kg in winter. My parents

and friends started getting worried, and pushed on me to make me eat more.

> Result: from orthorexia to some sort of anorexia, I decided to really eat

more, and binge eating started. Every time I would really eat more, I'd feel bad

and then restrict for one or two days. What happened here is excellently

described in the book as the " seesaw effect " : the guilt would then slowly fade

while hunger rose, another binge would happen and I was back at the beginning,

every time.

> With ups and downs, this has been going on from the beginning of 2011 until

now.

> In the last months I've decided to ditch my pride and seek help - my friends

and family are now with me and they know everything I do, every little step, and

it's been helping me a lot.

>

> Some days ago, last Sunday I think, I stumbled upon this book, and I - well -

devoured it. Not literally, thankfully ( ), but it fascinated me as it looked

like my biography! Every little paragraph, every thing, was about me. It was

like learning about me, and having my life perfectly analysed by two complete

strangers, the authors, which happened to know everything about me.

>

> So, my IE journey started. I'm still in the first phase though, so I find it

difficult to " Feel my fullness " when I'm eating foods I had been restricting,

but I'm working on it

>

> I tend to eat a light, " standard " breakfast, then eat a lot at lunch and find

myself still sated at dinner, so I usually keep it light too. I think this

pattern still doesn't really work, because at lunchtime, every time, I find

myself starving, but at least I'm not bingeing anymore. I eat lots of bread,

lots of pasta, but as soon as I'll convince myself that I can eat them whenever

I want, I won't feel the need to stock up on them while my mind allows them. I

think I'm much like the alley cat the book talks about.

>

> However, it looks like I failed in keeping my story short - sorry for the wall

of text!

>

>

> Thanks to everybody for being there - your presence alone helps me a lot!

>

[Guest guest]

Together with my eating habits I'm trying to correct other aspects of my life

too, and perfectionism is one of them. I've read a lot about it, I recognize

many things I do are driven by it - like ending something you only wanted to

taste, or writing something on a piece of paper, making a mistake and starting

it all over - but they are so entrenched in my habits that when I actually do

them, I don't recognise them.

One important thing is that I'm trying not to focus on the goal - i.e. getting

rid of those habits - but on the process of doing so. It is, alone, a step

forward, isn't it?

As regards my age, I know I'm lucky, but I have to say that I'm doing it more

for my (future) children than for me.

I know how much I suffered living in a family with no eating rules whatsoever,

and that is the last thing I would want for my own family.

Actually, now that I think about it, many things I do are projected way far in

the future, like my studies and my fascination for self-improvement. Maybe this

is some sort of perfectionism too... seems like I've got quite some work to do!

>

> Welcome ! How wonderful to read that IE is finding its way world wide.

Bravo for you to embrace this for yourself and so young in life too. Your story

is 'perfect' too - one many of us here understand from personal experience also.

>

> What came to my mind as I read your post was how happy I am that you are

discovering this so young in life. I think you will have a very good chance of

making positive changes because you have less 'baggage' than we who have many

more years of banging our heads against the dieting wall :-) One thing I would

like to suggest is to allow yourself as much time as you need to add changes to

your eating habits. IE is NOT A RACE. There is no prize for doing IE the

'quickest' or 'best' - the reward you seek is simply to return to eating as YOUR

body needs - period.

>

> And regarding perfectionism, its like much in life - it has good and bad in

it. Putting great effort into one's goals is admirable, but when the goal

becomes all that is important, it takes more than what one would be best served

by to accomplish that end. As you will be learning, 'good' and 'bad' are

relative - in foods, exercise, and life in general. As another member reminded

us - baby steps are wonderful and progress we can be proud of too.

>

> I am looking forward to reading more posts from you - long or short. How

fabulous that your family is supporting you also. That is great and will be so

helpful too. Glad to have your join us here too.

>

> BEST to you, Katcha

> IEing since March 2007

[Guest guest]

>

> . . . perfectionism is . . . so entrenched in my habits that when I actually

do [it], I don't recognise [that I'm doing it] . . .

> One important thing is that I'm trying not to focus on the goal - i.e. getting

rid of those habits - but on the process of doing so. It is, alone, a step

forward, isn't it?

htha

Yes, its seem usual that we are blind to our own actions which makes it

difficult to change what you don't 'see'. What has worked for me is to aim for

awareness. Just noticing is a good beginning point and a baby step that has

helped many of us get started with IE.

> As regards my age, I know I'm lucky, but I have to say that I'm doing it more

for my (future) children than for me.

I found that I do IE for myself and those near me benefit by my being a happier,

more stable person. I also would like to share that one of the things that

helped me most was seeing how IE promotes INternal over EXternal when it comes

to our eating. We begin life as our own experts and surrender choices by

learning to NOT trust ourselves in lieu of 'expert' judgment. If one can't trust

one's own body that is very very sad and probably life defeating too?

> I know how much I suffered living in a family with no eating rules whatsoever,

and that is the last thing I would want for my own family.

IE encourages a 'no rules' attitude when it comes to eating. Dieting is all

about rules, failure and subjecting one's self to an ideal that could well be

impossible if not extremely difficult to achieve & maintain. Get IE for and

let the family manage in its own way, which is honoring really.

> Actually, now that I think about it, many things I do are projected way far in

the future, like my studies and my fascination for self-improvement. Maybe this

is some sort of perfectionism too... seems like I've got quite some work to do!

>

Lastly, here's another concept that I think makes IE different in a great way -

encouragement of making this as FUN a process as you can make it! Enjoy your

food, don't beat yourself up over 'failures' - say OK, learn from the experience

and know you can choose to do it different another time!

Ciao! Katcha

IEing since March 2007

[Guest guest]

>

> . . . perfectionism is . . . so entrenched in my habits that when I actually

do [it], I don't recognise [that I'm doing it] . . .

> One important thing is that I'm trying not to focus on the goal - i.e. getting

rid of those habits - but on the process of doing so. It is, alone, a step

forward, isn't it?

htha

Yes, its seem usual that we are blind to our own actions which makes it

difficult to change what you don't 'see'. What has worked for me is to aim for

awareness. Just noticing is a good beginning point and a baby step that has

helped many of us get started with IE.

> As regards my age, I know I'm lucky, but I have to say that I'm doing it more

for my (future) children than for me.

I found that I do IE for myself and those near me benefit by my being a happier,

more stable person. I also would like to share that one of the things that

helped me most was seeing how IE promotes INternal over EXternal when it comes

to our eating. We begin life as our own experts and surrender choices by

learning to NOT trust ourselves in lieu of 'expert' judgment. If one can't trust

one's own body that is very very sad and probably life defeating too?

> I know how much I suffered living in a family with no eating rules whatsoever,

and that is the last thing I would want for my own family.

IE encourages a 'no rules' attitude when it comes to eating. Dieting is all

about rules, failure and subjecting one's self to an ideal that could well be

impossible if not extremely difficult to achieve & maintain. Get IE for and

let the family manage in its own way, which is honoring really.

> Actually, now that I think about it, many things I do are projected way far in

the future, like my studies and my fascination for self-improvement. Maybe this

is some sort of perfectionism too... seems like I've got quite some work to do!

>

Lastly, here's another concept that I think makes IE different in a great way -

encouragement of making this as FUN a process as you can make it! Enjoy your

food, don't beat yourself up over 'failures' - say OK, learn from the experience

and know you can choose to do it different another time!

Ciao! Katcha

IEing since March 2007

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>

> . . . perfectionism is . . . so entrenched in my habits that when I actually

do [it], I don't recognise [that I'm doing it] . . .

> One important thing is that I'm trying not to focus on the goal - i.e. getting

rid of those habits - but on the process of doing so. It is, alone, a step

forward, isn't it?

htha

Yes, its seem usual that we are blind to our own actions which makes it

difficult to change what you don't 'see'. What has worked for me is to aim for

awareness. Just noticing is a good beginning point and a baby step that has

helped many of us get started with IE.

> As regards my age, I know I'm lucky, but I have to say that I'm doing it more

for my (future) children than for me.

I found that I do IE for myself and those near me benefit by my being a happier,

more stable person. I also would like to share that one of the things that

helped me most was seeing how IE promotes INternal over EXternal when it comes

to our eating. We begin life as our own experts and surrender choices by

learning to NOT trust ourselves in lieu of 'expert' judgment. If one can't trust

one's own body that is very very sad and probably life defeating too?

> I know how much I suffered living in a family with no eating rules whatsoever,

and that is the last thing I would want for my own family.

IE encourages a 'no rules' attitude when it comes to eating. Dieting is all

about rules, failure and subjecting one's self to an ideal that could well be

impossible if not extremely difficult to achieve & maintain. Get IE for and

let the family manage in its own way, which is honoring really.

> Actually, now that I think about it, many things I do are projected way far in

the future, like my studies and my fascination for self-improvement. Maybe this

is some sort of perfectionism too... seems like I've got quite some work to do!

>

Lastly, here's another concept that I think makes IE different in a great way -

encouragement of making this as FUN a process as you can make it! Enjoy your

food, don't beat yourself up over 'failures' - say OK, learn from the experience

and know you can choose to do it different another time!

Ciao! Katcha

IEing since March 2007