Re: Re: I'm so discouraged...me too...

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Yep, you are doing great, Sandarah. And like someone else commented here a while ago, don't try harder, "try softer." Being good to yourself is crucial and you are doing it.

Mimi

Subject: Re: I'm so discouraged...me too...To: IntuitiveEating_Support Date: Saturday, December 3, 2011, 9:23 PM

I just went shopping for something to wear to a Christmas party this work. It's the first relatively formal occasion I've been to in a long time. I was flabbergasted when I saw how awful I looked in the three-way mirror in the dressing room - and had to fight my raging negative self-talk as I shopped.I was also the urge to reflex into thinking about how to "lose this stinking weight". I managed to work my way through the mental and emotional barrage but bought several outfits not really able to concentrate well enough to know whether or not I actually liked what I bought. Got home and ate - and noticed how it felt but continued past full but not to the point of being stuffed. Now I've settled in a bit and am waiting for some tea.All of that said, I too do not plan to diet. And, I have been making progress, it's just not the kind that's resulted in achieving a diet goal. I did manage to think about the various IE women on this

site while shopping and it was comforting to know that I'm not alone with these feelings and the struggle to break free of thinking that got me fat in the first place.I don't know how to "work" IE any harder or better than I am because effort only creates resistance and backlash. So working harder, maybe means being easier on myself for being me and being the victim of a social standard that serves no one except those who profit off of our desire to look good. I refuse to wear too-tight clothes too. It's just not worth it to be uncomfortable. Thanks for sharing.Sandarah