Uncomfortable around angry people

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Wondering if anyone else feels on edge when people around them are being

grumpy/angry?

I know this is likely from being around BPD nada for so many years (30ish to

be close to exact) and I have to realize that other people are NOT nada,

which of course I do, but there's still something built into me that makes

me nervous when people around me are being angry/grumpy.

Example, fiance has his kids this weekend. His 4 year old son has just been

so grumpy & angry and fiance is reacting grumpily too. To top it off, when

fiance plays one of his computer games, he tends to do the " guy thing " and

yell at it when things don't go his way. This always puts me on edge.

The kids were fighting over the wii and of course he got on their case, told

them to shut it off, etc. 4 year old starts screaming... ugh. Makes me so

damn uncomfortable.

Plus fiance has been super down lately and part of me feels very helpless.

I have been there. I guess that is his issue. When I was there, I had to

pull myself out. I can cheer him on but he has to do the work.

Maybe the angriness thing is effecting me more than usual right now because

of the upcoming surgery on Tuesday, but yes, I do generally feel very

uncomfortable around angry people. I know this is MY issue and I do

understand where it stems from, so I guess I " m just wondering a couple of

things. 1 - am I alone? and 2 - anyone have any tips on how I can stop

feeling this way?

I mean, if fiance wants to yell at his computer, he has a right to. But it

makes me uncomfortable, so yes, my issue not his.

Mia