Nada tried to come over today

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I have been discussing a plan with my therapist for severing my relationship

with Nada. My last contact with Nada was Monday (6 days ago). During my brief

visit, she made several concerning comments such as:

1) You're treating us (she and my enmeshed step-dad) like axe-murderers. (Due

to the boundaries my husband and I have set).

2) Is your husband's real reason for confronting me to get me to commit suicide?

She also added that she was not suicidal. (My husband told her that he wasn't

going to put up with her baloney anymore.)

3) She accused my husband of being the kind of guy who has the potential to

murder you and your family, or commit suicide himself if given the right

circumstances. (This is so far from reality! He's a great, compassionate,

empathetic guy. I think she has demonized him out of anger or is trying to come

between us.)

I e-mailed my step-dad and relayed these concerning comments because he was at

work. I told him that I was concerned for her mental state as these several

comments were violent in nature. I suggested that she may need an psychiatric

evaluation to assess her for safety.

I got no response from my step-dad about the e-mail. My Nada showed up at the

door today and asked to come in. I asked my husband not to let her in or call

me to the door, and I kept my children hidden in a back room. Anyhow, she did

not apologize for her comments. She kissed my husband on the cheek and said, " I

love you and I love my daughter. " Then she left.

I hope that she saw her therapist. This just seems like more manipulation to

draw me back into the cycle. Aaaargh! This is so frustrating because she is so

persistent. But, I am more convinced that I am doing the right thing by

protecting my family from further craziness or harmful comments and behavior.

Thanks for letting me vent!