RE: a reconfirmation that bpd is an intractable....

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Anuria wrote:

" It seems that not only is our nada's memory deteriorating rapidly (nada accused

Sister of only seeing her once a year: nada doesn't remember the recent

out-of-state trip she and Sister took together, or their Thanksgiving visit,

among other visits) nada also accused Sister of being " a shark " and being

untrustworthy and undeserving to be the executor of nada's will....

" My nada is experiencing paranoia and delusions (even hallucinations?) more

frequently now; Sister says that nada smells smells that aren't there and sees

people that aren't there, and nada is now convinced that Sister is neglecting

her and is after her money. "

This is my experience to a T. The outside world doesn't understand that while

encroaching dementia is a sad thing in any old person, in a BPD person it just

seems to take symptoms they already had and make them worse and worse and worse.

My BPD mother accused my husband this month of trying to steal her money and her

house. Nothing could be farther from the truth. I said, " You've known him for

thirty years, has he ever seemed even slightly interested in money, especially

yours? " He hasn't, but she in Suspicion Mode now. Also the hallucinations,

seeing people in the house who aren't there.

She falsely accused her daily helper guy of elder abuse, and I had to step in

and keep the hospital from investigating him....