Guest guest Posted August 23, 2004 Report Share Posted August 23, 2004 , Somewhere I read this line: " There is a hole in my soul, and all of the joy is leaking out. " Losing your beloved husband is a terrible blow. I wish that there were some magic words to comfort you, but I know that nothing can change how you feel. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. Sharon > Just wanted to let all of you know that my husband passed away > tuesday evening(8/17),at home,with all of our children and I at his > side.People ask how I feel and I find it a very rediculous question > that has no answer.I am empty,he was the love of my life, my > partner,my rock,my anchor,my best friend,the wind beneath my > wings.The funeral was yesterday,exactly 1 year since his first chemo > treatment. I could not bring myself to send this message until > now.The house is so quiet tonight,the 3 older children all left this > afternoon and the other relatives as well,so my 13 yr old son and I > are alone for the first time.Somehow,with God's help,we will get > through this. > While I miss him so very much,I can not wish him back as he was in > so much pain and suffering so.I know he is in heaven and will watch > over us still.I am thankful for all the wonderful years we had > together(21+)and all the memories we will always cherish. > I also want to thank my cyber friends for all of the help and > support you've given me throughout this journey. > Hugs & Prayers, > H Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 23, 2004 Report Share Posted August 23, 2004 , Somewhere I read this line: " There is a hole in my soul, and all of the joy is leaking out. " Losing your beloved husband is a terrible blow. I wish that there were some magic words to comfort you, but I know that nothing can change how you feel. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. Sharon > Just wanted to let all of you know that my husband passed away > tuesday evening(8/17),at home,with all of our children and I at his > side.People ask how I feel and I find it a very rediculous question > that has no answer.I am empty,he was the love of my life, my > partner,my rock,my anchor,my best friend,the wind beneath my > wings.The funeral was yesterday,exactly 1 year since his first chemo > treatment. I could not bring myself to send this message until > now.The house is so quiet tonight,the 3 older children all left this > afternoon and the other relatives as well,so my 13 yr old son and I > are alone for the first time.Somehow,with God's help,we will get > through this. > While I miss him so very much,I can not wish him back as he was in > so much pain and suffering so.I know he is in heaven and will watch > over us still.I am thankful for all the wonderful years we had > together(21+)and all the memories we will always cherish. > I also want to thank my cyber friends for all of the help and > support you've given me throughout this journey. > Hugs & Prayers, > H Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 23, 2004 Report Share Posted August 23, 2004 , My thoughts are with you as you move from the path of caregiving to the road of grieving. The right words don't exist, but I'm so sorry for your loss. May you find peace as well. Maeve --- In colon_cancer_support , " mlhilbrand " <mlhilbrand@y...> wrote: > Just wanted to let all of you know that my husband passed away > tuesday evening(8/17),at home,with all of our children and I at his > side.People ask how I feel and I find it a very rediculous question > that has no answer.I am empty,he was the love of my life, my > partner,my rock,my anchor,my best friend,the wind beneath my > wings.The funeral was yesterday,exactly 1 year since his first chemo > treatment. I could not bring myself to send this message until > now.The house is so quiet tonight,the 3 older children all left this > afternoon and the other relatives as well,so my 13 yr old son and I > are alone for the first time.Somehow,with God's help,we will get > through this. > While I miss him so very much,I can not wish him back as he was in > so much pain and suffering so.I know he is in heaven and will watch > over us still.I am thankful for all the wonderful years we had > together(21+)and all the memories we will always cherish. > I also want to thank my cyber friends for all of the help and > support you've given me throughout this journey. > Hugs & Prayers, > H Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 23, 2004 Report Share Posted August 23, 2004 , My thoughts are with you as you move from the path of caregiving to the road of grieving. The right words don't exist, but I'm so sorry for your loss. May you find peace as well. Maeve --- In colon_cancer_support , " mlhilbrand " <mlhilbrand@y...> wrote: > Just wanted to let all of you know that my husband passed away > tuesday evening(8/17),at home,with all of our children and I at his > side.People ask how I feel and I find it a very rediculous question > that has no answer.I am empty,he was the love of my life, my > partner,my rock,my anchor,my best friend,the wind beneath my > wings.The funeral was yesterday,exactly 1 year since his first chemo > treatment. I could not bring myself to send this message until > now.The house is so quiet tonight,the 3 older children all left this > afternoon and the other relatives as well,so my 13 yr old son and I > are alone for the first time.Somehow,with God's help,we will get > through this. > While I miss him so very much,I can not wish him back as he was in > so much pain and suffering so.I know he is in heaven and will watch > over us still.I am thankful for all the wonderful years we had > together(21+)and all the memories we will always cherish. > I also want to thank my cyber friends for all of the help and > support you've given me throughout this journey. > Hugs & Prayers, > H Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 23, 2004 Report Share Posted August 23, 2004 , My thoughts are with you as you move from the path of caregiving to the road of grieving. The right words don't exist, but I'm so sorry for your loss. May you find peace as well. Maeve --- In colon_cancer_support , " mlhilbrand " <mlhilbrand@y...> wrote: > Just wanted to let all of you know that my husband passed away > tuesday evening(8/17),at home,with all of our children and I at his > side.People ask how I feel and I find it a very rediculous question > that has no answer.I am empty,he was the love of my life, my > partner,my rock,my anchor,my best friend,the wind beneath my > wings.The funeral was yesterday,exactly 1 year since his first chemo > treatment. I could not bring myself to send this message until > now.The house is so quiet tonight,the 3 older children all left this > afternoon and the other relatives as well,so my 13 yr old son and I > are alone for the first time.Somehow,with God's help,we will get > through this. > While I miss him so very much,I can not wish him back as he was in > so much pain and suffering so.I know he is in heaven and will watch > over us still.I am thankful for all the wonderful years we had > together(21+)and all the memories we will always cherish. > I also want to thank my cyber friends for all of the help and > support you've given me throughout this journey. > Hugs & Prayers, > H Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 23, 2004 Report Share Posted August 23, 2004 , what can I say? It's all been said and somehow, words just don't seem adequate enough. Take comfort in those wonderful years that you did have with him and know that some day you will see him again. My heart goes to you and I am so sorry. Monika > Just wanted to let all of you know that my husband passed away > tuesday evening(8/17),at home,with all of our children and I at his > side.People ask how I feel and I find it a very rediculous question > that has no answer.I am empty,he was the love of my life, my > partner,my rock,my anchor,my best friend,the wind beneath my > wings.The funeral was yesterday,exactly 1 year since his first chemo > treatment. I could not bring myself to send this message until > now.The house is so quiet tonight,the 3 older children all left this > afternoon and the other relatives as well,so my 13 yr old son and I > are alone for the first time.Somehow,with God's help,we will get > through this. > While I miss him so very much,I can not wish him back as he was in > so much pain and suffering so.I know he is in heaven and will watch > over us still.I am thankful for all the wonderful years we had > together(21+)and all the memories we will always cherish. > I also want to thank my cyber friends for all of the help and > support you've given me throughout this journey. > Hugs & Prayers, > H Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 23, 2004 Report Share Posted August 23, 2004 , what can I say? It's all been said and somehow, words just don't seem adequate enough. Take comfort in those wonderful years that you did have with him and know that some day you will see him again. My heart goes to you and I am so sorry. Monika > Just wanted to let all of you know that my husband passed away > tuesday evening(8/17),at home,with all of our children and I at his > side.People ask how I feel and I find it a very rediculous question > that has no answer.I am empty,he was the love of my life, my > partner,my rock,my anchor,my best friend,the wind beneath my > wings.The funeral was yesterday,exactly 1 year since his first chemo > treatment. I could not bring myself to send this message until > now.The house is so quiet tonight,the 3 older children all left this > afternoon and the other relatives as well,so my 13 yr old son and I > are alone for the first time.Somehow,with God's help,we will get > through this. > While I miss him so very much,I can not wish him back as he was in > so much pain and suffering so.I know he is in heaven and will watch > over us still.I am thankful for all the wonderful years we had > together(21+)and all the memories we will always cherish. > I also want to thank my cyber friends for all of the help and > support you've given me throughout this journey. > Hugs & Prayers, > H Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 23, 2004 Report Share Posted August 23, 2004 , my sincere condolences to you and your family on your loss. I pray God will lift your spirit with your husband's memory and the knowledge that he is resting and at peace finally. Sheila Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 23, 2004 Report Share Posted August 23, 2004 Oh , I am so sorry to hear about your husband. May God hold and keep you safe. Joyce > Just wanted to let all of you know that my husband passed away > tuesday evening(8/17),at home,with all of our children and I at his > side.People ask how I feel and I find it a very rediculous question > that has no answer.I am empty,he was the love of my life, my > partner,my rock,my anchor,my best friend,the wind beneath my > wings.The funeral was yesterday,exactly 1 year since his first chemo > treatment. I could not bring myself to send this message until > now.The house is so quiet tonight,the 3 older children all left this > afternoon and the other relatives as well,so my 13 yr old son and I > are alone for the first time.Somehow,with God's help,we will get > through this. > While I miss him so very much,I can not wish him back as he was in > so much pain and suffering so.I know he is in heaven and will watch > over us still.I am thankful for all the wonderful years we had > together(21+)and all the memories we will always cherish. > I also want to thank my cyber friends for all of the help and > support you've given me throughout this journey. > Hugs & Prayers, > H Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 23, 2004 Report Share Posted August 23, 2004 > Just wanted to let all of you know that my husband passed away > tuesday evening(8/17),at home,with all of our children and I at his > side. , my most sincere condolances on the loss of your husband. My prayers are with you at this sorrowful time. Cheri Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 23, 2004 Report Share Posted August 23, 2004 ---, Please accept my deepest condolences on the loss of your beloved husband. Hug your son for me. This is such a tender age to lose a parent. Of course, it's NEVER easy to lose a parent, but for a son to lose his father at 13 years of age is so very sad. Please take care of yourselves, and may God hold you and your son close and comfort you in your time of grief. ..... Baylee In colon_cancer_support , " mlhilbrand " <mlhilbrand@y...> wrote: > Just wanted to let all of you know that my husband passed away > tuesday evening(8/17),at home,with all of our children and I at his > side.People ask how I feel and I find it a very rediculous question > that has no answer.I am empty,he was the love of my life, my > partner,my rock,my anchor,my best friend,the wind beneath my > wings.The funeral was yesterday,exactly 1 year since his first chemo > treatment. I could not bring myself to send this message until > now.The house is so quiet tonight,the 3 older children all left this > afternoon and the other relatives as well,so my 13 yr old son and I > are alone for the first time.Somehow,with God's help,we will get > through this. > While I miss him so very much,I can not wish him back as he was in > so much pain and suffering so.I know he is in heaven and will watch > over us still.I am thankful for all the wonderful years we had > together(21+)and all the memories we will always cherish. > I also want to thank my cyber friends for all of the help and > support you've given me throughout this journey. > Hugs & Prayers, > H Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 23, 2004 Report Share Posted August 23, 2004 Since losing my mum a month ago, these posts struck me as summing feelings correctly The loss -------- " There is a hole in my soul, and all of the joy is leaking out. " From: " mlhilbrand " <mlhilbrand@y...> " I am empty " The last days ------------- " Dad is not the same anymore. He doesn't hardly talk and never smiles. He just lays there and stares. " Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 23, 2004 Report Share Posted August 23, 2004 Since losing my mum a month ago, these posts struck me as summing feelings correctly The loss -------- " There is a hole in my soul, and all of the joy is leaking out. " From: " mlhilbrand " <mlhilbrand@y...> " I am empty " The last days ------------- " Dad is not the same anymore. He doesn't hardly talk and never smiles. He just lays there and stares. " Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 23, 2004 Report Share Posted August 23, 2004 I saw this carved on a rock one time: " If love could have saved you, you would have lived forever. " I wish there were ways to carry the pain for you. I am sorry. -Priscilla CCNetwork www.colorectal-cancer.net __________ " Snoopy Walks to End Colon Cancer " October 17, 2004, Washington DC, 5k Walk/Run www.colorectal-cancer.net (Info) https://www.racepacket.com/snoop.html (Online Registration) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 23, 2004 Report Share Posted August 23, 2004 I saw this carved on a rock one time: " If love could have saved you, you would have lived forever. " I wish there were ways to carry the pain for you. I am sorry. -Priscilla CCNetwork www.colorectal-cancer.net __________ " Snoopy Walks to End Colon Cancer " October 17, 2004, Washington DC, 5k Walk/Run www.colorectal-cancer.net (Info) https://www.racepacket.com/snoop.html (Online Registration) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 23, 2004 Report Share Posted August 23, 2004 I saw this carved on a rock one time: " If love could have saved you, you would have lived forever. " I wish there were ways to carry the pain for you. I am sorry. -Priscilla CCNetwork www.colorectal-cancer.net __________ " Snoopy Walks to End Colon Cancer " October 17, 2004, Washington DC, 5k Walk/Run www.colorectal-cancer.net (Info) https://www.racepacket.com/snoop.html (Online Registration) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 24, 2004 Report Share Posted August 24, 2004 ......... my heart goes out to you and your family. Just as you have no answer to those who ask how you feel ...... there are no words we can really say to ease your pain. But God can provide you with the strength to get through this ..... so I will send extra prayers for that. Just know that we are here and that we care. God Bless You ...... Donna > Just wanted to let all of you know that my husband passed away > tuesday evening(8/17),at home,with all of our children and I at his > side.People ask how I feel and I find it a very rediculous question > that has no answer.I am empty,he was the love of my life, my > partner,my rock,my anchor,my best friend,the wind beneath my > wings.The funeral was yesterday,exactly 1 year since his first chemo > treatment. I could not bring myself to send this message until > now.The house is so quiet tonight,the 3 older children all left this > afternoon and the other relatives as well,so my 13 yr old son and I > are alone for the first time.Somehow,with God's help,we will get > through this. > While I miss him so very much,I can not wish him back as he was in > so much pain and suffering so.I know he is in heaven and will watch > over us still.I am thankful for all the wonderful years we had > together(21+)and all the memories we will always cherish. > I also want to thank my cyber friends for all of the help and > support you've given me throughout this journey. > Hugs & Prayers, > H Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 24, 2004 Report Share Posted August 24, 2004 ......... my heart goes out to you and your family. Just as you have no answer to those who ask how you feel ...... there are no words we can really say to ease your pain. But God can provide you with the strength to get through this ..... so I will send extra prayers for that. Just know that we are here and that we care. God Bless You ...... Donna > Just wanted to let all of you know that my husband passed away > tuesday evening(8/17),at home,with all of our children and I at his > side.People ask how I feel and I find it a very rediculous question > that has no answer.I am empty,he was the love of my life, my > partner,my rock,my anchor,my best friend,the wind beneath my > wings.The funeral was yesterday,exactly 1 year since his first chemo > treatment. I could not bring myself to send this message until > now.The house is so quiet tonight,the 3 older children all left this > afternoon and the other relatives as well,so my 13 yr old son and I > are alone for the first time.Somehow,with God's help,we will get > through this. > While I miss him so very much,I can not wish him back as he was in > so much pain and suffering so.I know he is in heaven and will watch > over us still.I am thankful for all the wonderful years we had > together(21+)and all the memories we will always cherish. > I also want to thank my cyber friends for all of the help and > support you've given me throughout this journey. > Hugs & Prayers, > H Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 24, 2004 Report Share Posted August 24, 2004 ......... my heart goes out to you and your family. Just as you have no answer to those who ask how you feel ...... there are no words we can really say to ease your pain. But God can provide you with the strength to get through this ..... so I will send extra prayers for that. Just know that we are here and that we care. God Bless You ...... Donna > Just wanted to let all of you know that my husband passed away > tuesday evening(8/17),at home,with all of our children and I at his > side.People ask how I feel and I find it a very rediculous question > that has no answer.I am empty,he was the love of my life, my > partner,my rock,my anchor,my best friend,the wind beneath my > wings.The funeral was yesterday,exactly 1 year since his first chemo > treatment. I could not bring myself to send this message until > now.The house is so quiet tonight,the 3 older children all left this > afternoon and the other relatives as well,so my 13 yr old son and I > are alone for the first time.Somehow,with God's help,we will get > through this. > While I miss him so very much,I can not wish him back as he was in > so much pain and suffering so.I know he is in heaven and will watch > over us still.I am thankful for all the wonderful years we had > together(21+)and all the memories we will always cherish. > I also want to thank my cyber friends for all of the help and > support you've given me throughout this journey. > Hugs & Prayers, > H Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 24, 2004 Report Share Posted August 24, 2004 , You may not remember me; I joined this group about 6 months ago, when my husband was just diagnosed. You were one of the first to welcome me, and offer me hope. Sadly, my husband Max passed away shortly thereafter - his struggle was brief but intense. So, it has now been 5 months since Max's death. I remember that you were also among those who offered their condolences. I wish that you were not in this position now, but I would like to offer you my condolences now. I still hate that evil cancer, but I am struggling towards a kind of peace knowing that Max is watching over us. I hope you and your children can find a peace too. What we have been through is so immense that it takes an awful long time to grasp its meaning. I have found lots of help at a message board for young widow/ers, and would recommend you check out whatever resources you can. Again, may you find some peace... Chelle Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 24, 2004 Report Share Posted August 24, 2004 Chelle, I am so sorry that you lost your husband to this disease. There are far too many families torn apart by this. Funders argue with me that this is not a family issue. They need to pay more attention to the results. I wish you peace and health, -Priscilla CCNetwork > > > Date: 2004/08/24 Tue PM 09:35:27 EDT > To: colon_cancer_support > Subject: Re: Hubby is at peace > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 24, 2004 Report Share Posted August 24, 2004 Chelle, I am so sorry that you lost your husband to this disease. There are far too many families torn apart by this. Funders argue with me that this is not a family issue. They need to pay more attention to the results. I wish you peace and health, -Priscilla CCNetwork > > > Date: 2004/08/24 Tue PM 09:35:27 EDT > To: colon_cancer_support > Subject: Re: Hubby is at peace > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 25, 2004 Report Share Posted August 25, 2004 : It is a month since my Nick wnet home to is maker and there is a void that all the love of family and friends doesn't fill. But I know that he is not suffering now and that is a relief. yesterday they put the stone in and we had a small tribute. Yes the tears flowed,they will for a while, his words were Miss me,but not to much. I somtimes see something,read something or during a conversation I find myself turning around sayong honey do you...well there is no honey. I have gone back to work,part time. I have a beautiful,loving caring family,friends and co-workers but as you so aptly put it,you soul mate is a once in a lifetime partner and we were blessed with 44 yeras,4 children,four grandkids and many friends. I don't think the hole will ever go away,but I know this is a new chapter in my life,and I will follow where it leads. Words won't erase the pain,the lonely feeling in the middle of the night, or hold me when I need support. My memories are like Ivory Soap 99 and 44/100 th great. Your son will find comfort in you and you in him and you will go on. I pray that God will grant you peace and health and that in time you will once again move with the rythm of life. Peace is a gift,and your husband is at peace and I take pleasure in getting up earlt,looking out at the last wink of the moon or a twinkling star and I feel his presence. I feel it in the rain,the wind,and in the breeze. He loved nature,in all it's phases and that's a gift that I can enjoy. I am truly truly sorry that things ended this way. I read last night about a breaktrhough for rheumatoid arthritus sufferers and I pray that one day this nemisis that took both our beloved husbands will also be conqueored. I will say a pray for his soul and for your peace and for good health so you can take care of your son and in him see the man your hsband was/ Love and lots of hugs Jane M Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 25, 2004 Report Share Posted August 25, 2004 : It is a month since my Nick wnet home to is maker and there is a void that all the love of family and friends doesn't fill. But I know that he is not suffering now and that is a relief. yesterday they put the stone in and we had a small tribute. Yes the tears flowed,they will for a while, his words were Miss me,but not to much. I somtimes see something,read something or during a conversation I find myself turning around sayong honey do you...well there is no honey. I have gone back to work,part time. I have a beautiful,loving caring family,friends and co-workers but as you so aptly put it,you soul mate is a once in a lifetime partner and we were blessed with 44 yeras,4 children,four grandkids and many friends. I don't think the hole will ever go away,but I know this is a new chapter in my life,and I will follow where it leads. Words won't erase the pain,the lonely feeling in the middle of the night, or hold me when I need support. My memories are like Ivory Soap 99 and 44/100 th great. Your son will find comfort in you and you in him and you will go on. I pray that God will grant you peace and health and that in time you will once again move with the rythm of life. Peace is a gift,and your husband is at peace and I take pleasure in getting up earlt,looking out at the last wink of the moon or a twinkling star and I feel his presence. I feel it in the rain,the wind,and in the breeze. He loved nature,in all it's phases and that's a gift that I can enjoy. I am truly truly sorry that things ended this way. I read last night about a breaktrhough for rheumatoid arthritus sufferers and I pray that one day this nemisis that took both our beloved husbands will also be conqueored. I will say a pray for his soul and for your peace and for good health so you can take care of your son and in him see the man your hsband was/ Love and lots of hugs Jane M Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 25, 2004 Report Share Posted August 25, 2004 Dear Jane, 44 years of memories...how blessed you were. karima Re: Hubby is at peace : It is a month since my Nick wnet home to is maker and there is a void that all the love of family and friends doesn't fill. But I know that he is not suffering now and that is a relief. yesterday they put the stone in and we had a small tribute. Yes the tears flowed,they will for a while, his words were Miss me,but not to much. I somtimes see something,read something or during a conversation I find myself turning around sayong honey do you...well there is no honey. I have gone back to work,part time. I have a beautiful,loving caring family,friends and co-workers but as you so aptly put it,you soul mate is a once in a lifetime partner and we were blessed with 44 yeras,4 children,four grandkids and many friends. I don't think the hole will ever go away,but I know this is a new chapter in my life,and I will follow where it leads. Words won't erase the pain,the lonely feeling in the middle of the night, or hold me when I need support. My memories are like Ivory Soap 99 and 44/100 th great. Your son will find comfort in you and you in him and you will go on. I pray that God will grant you peace and health and that in time you will once again move with the rythm of life. Peace is a gift,and your husband is at peace and I take pleasure in getting up earlt,looking out at the last wink of the moon or a twinkling star and I feel his presence. I feel it in the rain,the wind,and in the breeze. He loved nature,in all it's phases and that's a gift that I can enjoy. I am truly truly sorry that things ended this way. I read last night about a breaktrhough for rheumatoid arthritus sufferers and I pray that one day this nemisis that took both our beloved husbands will also be conqueored. I will say a pray for his soul and for your peace and for good health so you can take care of your son and in him see the man your hsband was/ Love and lots of hugs Jane M Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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