Guest guest Posted January 4, 2012 Report Share Posted January 4, 2012 Yea Katcha! How great that you felt so attractive which Im sure you were and it sounds like it gave you the confidence to set some boundaries and handle a tough situation which led you to eat intuitively. Sounds like a great day. Hope there are many more days like that coming your way! Alana Sent from my Verizon Wireless Phone --- Original Message --- Sent: January 4, 2012 1/4/12 To: IntuitiveEating_Support Subject: Re: A good day  Katcha, What a great day you had! I think when we look and feel good, it does help to not overeat, at least in my case. I hope you have another day today, just like yesterday! To: IntuitiveEating_Support Sent: Tuesday, January 3, 2012 9:35 PM Subject: A good day  Its seems like such a little thing and hardly worth mention, but I realized that I had a pretty good day today. A big credit goes toward my dressing nicely - makeup and jewelry too - which resulted in my feeling like I looked good too. I hesitated to wear the outfit I had selected because I felt that I would probably feel 'larger' in it than I wanted to. But it turned out that I was comfortable as well as having a nice appearance - hooray! Another smile maker was that I was able to defend something that I wanted handled with more care than the person I had brought it to (for color example) did. And I wasn't an angry person about it - just appropriately concerned and politely requesting of thoughtful courtesy. So lovely to be taken serious without a hassle or begging either. Perhaps those bits of personal comfort helped me to enjoy and stop about 1/2 way thru a lovely lunch. I was a bit over hungry when we ordered (favorite restaurant) but as I knew I was getting satisfied and continuing to eat was only because I was THINKING how much I loved the taste, it was time to stop. Besides if I had eaten more I wouldn't have had enough for a little dinner later - where I get to enjoy this once again :-) What a fabulous way to start off my New Year and NOT to be thinking about shoulds like weight concerns. I love IE! Katcha IEing since March 2007 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 13, 2012 Report Share Posted January 13, 2012 I think this is a common issue for those of us who have a history of abusing our bodies with food. And because I've been morbidly obese since childhood, a few years ago I realized I had no idea what " my style " was. I began by simply cutting photos I liked from clothes catalogs and soon began to recognize the commonalities. I made a concerted effort to ease my wardrobe in the direction of what I wished I could wear, buying a few things which fit flatteringly of the few which they make in my style in my current size, when they were on 50% off and I could actually afford them. Interestingly, I discovered that for the most part, those investments have lasted far better than my average clothing purchase, and I FEEL so much more attractive and put-together when I wear them. When I stop to think before dressing, I often receive compliments, so I know I'm not deluding myself that it makes a difference, even though I don't kid myself either. Given that IE is part of a whole effort to finally take care of myself and listen to what I need for a change, I think taking care dressing and accessorizing and wearing make-up is very helpful for me. I have noticed that when I dress in my sloppiest outfits, I take much less care of myself, including stuffing my face more without noticing whether I'm hungry. Probably my outfit choice is a reflection of my self-thoughts that day, as opposed to being a causal factor, but given how much better I feel when I look in the mirror, I think making the effort to put myself together is well worth it, on those days I don't particularly feel like it, but can go either way. Jane > > > > > > > > > > Subject: Re: A good day > > To: " IntuitiveEating_Support " < > > IntuitiveEating_Support > > > Date: Wednesday, January 4, 2012, 10:18 AM > > > > > > > > You know, this makes sense. Dressing nicely with makeup and jewelry > > presents the image of someone who has it pulled together -- not just to > > others but to ourselves. And someone who has it pulled together doesn't get > > out of control about everyday issues, including eating. > > > > Ellie > > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 13, 2012 Report Share Posted January 13, 2012 Abby, after I finished cancer treatment I hired a personal shopper/stylist to go through my closet and take out the things that were no good. Then we talked about my style and what I wanted to achieve and she pointed out the clothes in my closet that could achieve that and created outfits with what I already had (making me a book of pictures). We also went shopping together a few times to get a bunch of new stuff. It was expensive, but really helped me to feel and look better after my illness. You can do it once to jump start your style. She taught me a lot about what looks good on me and how to shop. You can also try reading fashion blogs to see what you like. MimiSubject: Re: A good dayTo: IntuitiveEating_Support Date: Thursday, January 12, 2012, 8:58 PM Katcha,This is awesome! I need to work on this.I HATE shopping and got rid of so many of my "regular" clothes while I was pregnant because they were years out of date and didn't fit well... and I was supposed to go buy some new stuff but I've only gone once. And didn't find much. And so I find myself wearing yoga pants and long sleeve t-shirts all the time. The yoga pants are sort of nice and flattering, but the shirts are getting old, fast. But I have NO idea what I would like to be wearing instead! I honestly wish I could hire someone to figure this out. And may do so. Even though money is ridiculously tight. Best,Abby Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 13, 2012 Report Share Posted January 13, 2012 Abby, after I finished cancer treatment I hired a personal shopper/stylist to go through my closet and take out the things that were no good. Then we talked about my style and what I wanted to achieve and she pointed out the clothes in my closet that could achieve that and created outfits with what I already had (making me a book of pictures). We also went shopping together a few times to get a bunch of new stuff. It was expensive, but really helped me to feel and look better after my illness. You can do it once to jump start your style. She taught me a lot about what looks good on me and how to shop. You can also try reading fashion blogs to see what you like. MimiSubject: Re: A good dayTo: IntuitiveEating_Support Date: Thursday, January 12, 2012, 8:58 PM Katcha,This is awesome! I need to work on this.I HATE shopping and got rid of so many of my "regular" clothes while I was pregnant because they were years out of date and didn't fit well... and I was supposed to go buy some new stuff but I've only gone once. And didn't find much. And so I find myself wearing yoga pants and long sleeve t-shirts all the time. The yoga pants are sort of nice and flattering, but the shirts are getting old, fast. But I have NO idea what I would like to be wearing instead! I honestly wish I could hire someone to figure this out. And may do so. Even though money is ridiculously tight. Best,Abby Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 13, 2012 Report Share Posted January 13, 2012 How wonderful to hear how we can take care of ourselves by ways other than eating! I had no idea about what/how to dress either. When I hit 30 years of age, I felt I needed a change from my 'teen' look to a more career one. Dear mom was a housewife who was very casual in her clothes so I knew I needed professional input. I went to a local 'modeling' school ( Powers) and took one-on-one classes for clothes, makeup and had hair re-styled. (I made it plain that I had no silly notions about becoming a model either!) Not only did I find my 'style', I also more than doubled my income because I was no longer a grunt in bunch of 'girls' doing a job, I was able to use my talents to become a consultant! Dressing the part added tons to my creditability and I was taken more seriously by management too. Of course that was a time when I didn't have any problems with eating - except for the unrealistic (then) worry about gaining weight. Katcha IEing since March 2007 > > I think this is a common issue for those of us who have a history of abusing our bodies with food. And because I've been morbidly obese since childhood, a few years ago I realized I had no idea what " my style " was. I began by simply cutting photos I liked from clothes catalogs and soon began to recognize the commonalities. I made a concerted effort to ease my wardrobe in the direction of what I wished I could wear, buying a few things which fit flatteringly of the few which they make in my style in my current size, when they were on 50% off and I could actually afford them. Interestingly, I discovered that for the most part, those investments have lasted far better than my average clothing purchase, and I FEEL so much more attractive and put-together when I wear them. When I stop to think before dressing, I often receive compliments, so I know I'm not deluding myself that it makes a difference, even though I don't kid myself either. Given that IE is part of a whole effort to finally take care of myself and listen to what I need for a change, I think taking care dressing and accessorizing and wearing make-up is very helpful for me. I have noticed that when I dress in my sloppiest outfits, I take much less care of myself, including stuffing my face more without noticing whether I'm hungry. Probably my outfit choice is a reflection of my self-thoughts that day, as opposed to being a causal factor, but given how much better I feel when I look in the mirror, I think making the effort to put myself together is well worth it, on those days I don't particularly feel like it, but can go either way. Jane Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 14, 2012 Report Share Posted January 14, 2012 You know, a few weeks back I was in a gathering where one of the women was dressed so beautifully. Not like a model or movie star, but every item colorful and coordinated to the nth degree. Her colors were very bright and electric with lots of red accents. I thought a lot about how she'd pulled that outfit together and how expressive it was. Yet, it wasn't like it had been pulled off a maniquin, you could tell that she is someone who was making a statement about who she is in a very powerful way. I generally look pretty not-pulled together and sometimes I wear outfits that are a pretty dumpy, upon reflection. I have a strong wardrobe inhibitor and battle with myself about what I should wear in the same way I have about what I should eat. This is an interesting dialog; giving me lots to think about. Thanks. Sandarah > > > > > > > > > > > > From: EHamilton <imagainst_the_wind@> > > > > > > > > Subject: Re: A good day > > > > To: " IntuitiveEating_Support " < > > > > IntuitiveEating_Support > > > > > Date: Wednesday, January 4, 2012, 10:18 AM > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > You know, this makes sense. Dressing nicely with makeup and jewelry > > > > presents the image of someone who has it pulled together -- not just to > > > > others but to ourselves. And someone who has it pulled together doesn't get > > > > out of control about everyday issues, including eating. > > > > > > > > Ellie > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 14, 2012 Report Share Posted January 14, 2012 You know, a few weeks back I was in a gathering where one of the women was dressed so beautifully. Not like a model or movie star, but every item colorful and coordinated to the nth degree. Her colors were very bright and electric with lots of red accents. I thought a lot about how she'd pulled that outfit together and how expressive it was. Yet, it wasn't like it had been pulled off a maniquin, you could tell that she is someone who was making a statement about who she is in a very powerful way. I generally look pretty not-pulled together and sometimes I wear outfits that are a pretty dumpy, upon reflection. I have a strong wardrobe inhibitor and battle with myself about what I should wear in the same way I have about what I should eat. This is an interesting dialog; giving me lots to think about. Thanks. Sandarah > > > > > > > > > > > > From: EHamilton <imagainst_the_wind@> > > > > > > > > Subject: Re: A good day > > > > To: " IntuitiveEating_Support " < > > > > IntuitiveEating_Support > > > > > Date: Wednesday, January 4, 2012, 10:18 AM > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > You know, this makes sense. Dressing nicely with makeup and jewelry > > > > presents the image of someone who has it pulled together -- not just to > > > > others but to ourselves. And someone who has it pulled together doesn't get > > > > out of control about everyday issues, including eating. > > > > > > > > Ellie > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 14, 2012 Report Share Posted January 14, 2012 You know, a few weeks back I was in a gathering where one of the women was dressed so beautifully. Not like a model or movie star, but every item colorful and coordinated to the nth degree. Her colors were very bright and electric with lots of red accents. I thought a lot about how she'd pulled that outfit together and how expressive it was. Yet, it wasn't like it had been pulled off a maniquin, you could tell that she is someone who was making a statement about who she is in a very powerful way. I generally look pretty not-pulled together and sometimes I wear outfits that are a pretty dumpy, upon reflection. I have a strong wardrobe inhibitor and battle with myself about what I should wear in the same way I have about what I should eat. This is an interesting dialog; giving me lots to think about. Thanks. Sandarah > > > > > > > > > > > > From: EHamilton <imagainst_the_wind@> > > > > > > > > Subject: Re: A good day > > > > To: " IntuitiveEating_Support " < > > > > IntuitiveEating_Support > > > > > Date: Wednesday, January 4, 2012, 10:18 AM > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > You know, this makes sense. Dressing nicely with makeup and jewelry > > > > presents the image of someone who has it pulled together -- not just to > > > > others but to ourselves. And someone who has it pulled together doesn't get > > > > out of control about everyday issues, including eating. > > > > > > > > Ellie > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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