Comparing my FOO to a a colony of bees

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I am ignoring my ringing telephone from nada this past few days. I just don't

want to deal with anything at all like a beehive. We've had snow to keep us

home this past few days, and I am trying to heal with daily meditation and

compassion practices.

I hope this reading from my Al-anon program today, may bring perspective and

peace for someone besides myself. It was so beautiful I had to share.

Detachment is key to recovering from foo issues, it is such a small practice,

it is amazing to me that just like meditation, it works when done regularly and

humbly.

" Early one morning, I stopped to watch a colony of bees. A little intimidated by

the frenzied motion and intense buzzing, I reminded myself that if I didn't poke

my nose into their hive, I wouldn't get stung. If I chose to maintain a safe

distance from a dangerous situation, I would be fine.

To me, this is exactly the lesson that detachment teaches. The choice is mine.

When I sense that a situation is dangerous to my physical, mental, or spiritual

well-being, I can put extra distance between myself and the situation. Sometimes

this means that I don't get too emotionally involved in a problem; sometimes I

may physically leave the room or end a conversation. And sometimes I try to put

spiritual space between myself and another person's emotional addiction or

behavior. This doesn't mean I stop loving the person, only that I acknowledge

the risks to my own well-being and make choices to take care of myself.

Today's Reminder

Now I know how to end an argument by simply refusing to participate, to turn to

my Higher Power for help with whatever I'm powerless to change, to say, " No, "

when I mean no, and to step back from insanity rather than diving into it.

Detachment is a loving gift I continue to give to myself and to others.

" If a man carries his own lantern, he need not fear darkness. " Hasidic saying