Re: feel like a horrible person -MIA

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Best of luck to you, you have a generous heart wanting to help parent this

little boy who I agree seems to be showing developmental delays and possibly

symptoms of ADD and/or Oppositional-Defiant Disorder. Or, those behaviors may

instead possibly be the result of never being on a stable, standard wake/sleep

cycle. His mother truly does sound like she is neglecting him to the degree

that would be considered abusive and warrants having him removed from his

mother; I agree that living with stable, compassionate, mentally healthy foster

parents would be better for him. He does need regular, normal routines,

appropriate attention and supervision, rewards for good behavior and

consequences for bad behavior but in a loving context, in other words, good

parenting, and it sounds like you can provide that. But your good parenting two

days out of the week can't cancel out the other 5 days of abuse and neglect, at

his age.

I hope you and your fiance can find something that works toward the best

interest of this child; knowing that a little kid is being mistreated but being

helpless to prevent it is just heartbreaking.

-Annie

> > >

> > > it's 4:30am... step son (SS) won't sleep. He's 4. His mother is a nada,

> > > most likely BPD. At her house, he gets to stay up till god knows when

> > > because she's up all night drinking. then here, we have a bed time, etc.

> > > He is up all night every saturday night screaming, yelling & throwing a

> > > fit. The kid is always in a horrible mood when we have him. He's such an

> > > ANGRY little guy! It BREAKS my heart but I am so fed up!

> > >

> > > He's been screaming & throwing a tantrum on and off since 12:40... 10

> > > minutes after I layed down for bed. This is how it happens every weekend.

> > > It's ALWAYS 5 - 10 mins after I lie down, no matter what time that is. I

> > > DON'T get it! He has radar. This last time he started, I actually yelled

> > > " God D*** it " really loud. I feel horrible. But I am about ready to pull

> > > my hair out!

> > >

> > > I think fiance needs to take SS for a psych eval. Our T agrees because SS

> > > is so so angry all the time!. But fiance NEEDS TO DO THE LEGWORK to make

> > it

> > > happen. I've checked out a couple of options that SS is sadly too old

> > for.

> > > Fiance needs to find someone privately and pronto. Other wise I feel like

> > > I'm going to be the one to end up in the nut house!

> > >

> > > I'm sorry. I feel awful for the kids and their situation, but yes, I'm

> > very

> > > upset over this. We have to deal with no sleep every saturday night! I

> > > don't think fiance has any idea how that effects me, especially with

> > > fibromyalgia! When I don't get enough sleep I hurt so bad. So every

> > Sunday

> > > is a day full of awful pain for me.

> > >

> > > I don't know if SS is old enough or if he's developmentally delayed (my

> > > suspicion) too much to handle the staying over night stuff. I have no

> > idea

> > > what to do about this. And I feel like a monster right now for screaming

> > > G-D it earlier! That's so not like me, but I am at my wits end =( Not

> > that

> > > that's an excuse.

> > >

> > > Thanks for letting me vent. It's a tough situation and fiance's ex

> > > definetly triggers me... ugh. Just don't know what to do.

> > >

> > > Mia

> > >

> > >

> > >