Re: Blowing it

[Guest guest]

Tilley, I have to keep reminding myself that it took about 60 years to get where I am, so why would I think I could change over night. I felt the same way these past few days but will choose to see it as a " hiccup " rather than a " blowing " it.  A journey is made of a thousand steps, one at a time.  Some are up, some are down, or around, or over or under.   I will try to picture a journey, walking along a winding, uneven, curvy road.  After all life is like that too in all areas, not just eating.  Thanks for your input. It helps me think more deeply.  Sandy

 

If this isn't a diet, then why does it feel like " blowing it " when you spend a whole weekend overeating? And like all of the " gains " you've made over the past several months can be swept away in a few days?

I'd sure like to think the changes I think I've been making to be less fragile than that....

Tilley

[Guest guest]

I think this is a problem a lot of us run into. You can surely frame IE as a diet and have all the usual reactions and diet police talk when you've broken "the rules." I think we all do that at some point. This weekend I ate some things I really didn't need to eat -- meaning I wasn't really hungry when I ate them. I tried not to see that as "breaking the rules," but it's not easy. I find that I have been seeing IE a bit lately as a reason to eat whenever I feel like it, even if the food is not physical nourishment. I have been forgetting to ask myself what I really need when I am driven to eat without hunger. I have been forgetting to check in with my hunger signals. So, this week I am readjusting a bit. I think from time to time we all need a little readjustment. It's not blowing it, it's responding to different needs and times in our lives. I don't

believe in regressing or "going backwards." I think we are always going forward, it's just that the path is rarely linear.

Mimi

Subject: "Blowing it"To: IntuitiveEating_Support Date: Monday, October 17, 2011, 7:13 AM

If this isn't a diet, then why does it feel like "blowing it" when you spend a whole weekend overeating? And like all of the "gains" you've made over the past several months can be swept away in a few days?I'd sure like to think the changes I think I've been making to be less fragile than that....Tilley

[Guest guest]

Good point Mimi.

 

I think this is a problem a lot of us run into. You can surely frame IE as a diet and have all the usual reactions and diet police talk when you've broken " the rules. " I think we all do that at some point. This weekend I ate some things I really didn't need to eat -- meaning I wasn't really hungry when I ate them. I tried not to see that as " breaking the rules, " but it's not easy. I find that I have been seeing IE a bit lately as a reason to eat whenever I feel like it, even if the food is not physical nourishment. I have been forgetting to ask myself what I really need when I am driven to eat without hunger. I have been forgetting to check in with my hunger signals. So, this week I am readjusting a bit. I think from time to time we all need a little readjustment. It's not blowing it, it's responding to different needs and times in our lives. I don't

believe in regressing or " going backwards. " I think we are always going forward, it's just that the path is rarely linear.

 

Mimi

Subject: " Blowing it "

To: IntuitiveEating_Support Date: Monday, October 17, 2011, 7:13 AM

 

If this isn't a diet, then why does it feel like " blowing it " when you spend a whole weekend overeating? And like all of the " gains " you've made over the past several months can be swept away in a few days?

I'd sure like to think the changes I think I've been making to be less fragile than that....Tilley

[Guest guest]

That's funny. I thought I was the only one who used IE as a diet. The first time

I tried it, I tried to do it perfectly, eat exactly what my body wanted, eat

without distraction, check in after every bite, etc. It was crazy

perfectionistic.

Now, I am trying to implement one thing at a time. I'm starting with wait until

I'm truly hungry to eat and that's working wonderfully so far.

Thanks,

Evan

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[Guest guest]

That's funny. I thought I was the only one who used IE as a diet. The first time

I tried it, I tried to do it perfectly, eat exactly what my body wanted, eat

without distraction, check in after every bite, etc. It was crazy

perfectionistic.

Now, I am trying to implement one thing at a time. I'm starting with wait until

I'm truly hungry to eat and that's working wonderfully so far.

Thanks,

Evan

Sent from my iPhone

[Guest guest]

Good 'catch' Evan! Diet mentality is where we begin from - like it or not ;-)

Its what keeps one rooted in its RULES - black & white (good/bad, all or

nothing) thinking which keeps a person tied to dieting by the use of guilt,

shame and failure as its tools. IE can be a leap of faith, especially at first,

because it encourages you to 1) release rules in favor of an unknown - sadly

your own body! And 2) trusting yourself while you build practices that work for

and support YOU (instead of feeding the diet industry).

Bravo for hanging in and being about to see where YOU are in this process. Great

to hear from you and good sharing too.

Katcha

IEing since March 2007

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> That's funny. I thought I was the only one who used IE as a diet. The first

time I tried it, I tried to do it perfectly, eat exactly what my body wanted,

eat without distraction, check in after every bite, etc. It was crazy

perfectionistic.

>

> Now, I am trying to implement one thing at a time. I'm starting with wait

until I'm truly hungry to eat and that's working wonderfully so far.

>

> Thanks,

>

> Evan