Re: She keeps trying to IM me

[Guest guest]

Right. I think you've found your answer there. Blocking her

individually is a much better answer than turning off your

ability to communicate with other people. I've never let my nada

know how to find me online beyond one e-mail address. I can

imagine how much of a pest she'd make of herself if she could IM

me. I've never given her my cell phone number for the same

reason.

At 02:00 PM 01/19/2011 afldancer wrote:

>Okay, so I blocked all her functionality on my Facebook and

>even turned off my chat feature on Facebook so she couldn't try

>and chat with me there (even though it means I can't chat with

>my friends there, but that's no loss, I prefer phone or

>actually hanging out with my friends to catch up).

>

>But the last two days she has been trying to reach me via AIM,

>and I guess my only option is to take her off my AIM entirely.

>I refuse to talk to her. I don't feel like writing her a

>letter, and I don't want to talk to her on the phone. She has

>not, and most likely will never, acknowledge what happened on

>Christmas, and if she can't figure out why she's driven me away

>that's her problem.

>

>So I guess my answer is to just block her on everything. Right?

>

--

Katrina

[Guest guest]

If you want total no-contact, then yes, you would need to block all access. Its

your choice. There is no " should " or " ought " , its about what you need, what you

can or can't tolerate, and what you can live with.

-Annie

>

> Okay, so I blocked all her functionality on my Facebook and even turned off my

chat feature on Facebook so she couldn't try and chat with me there (even though

it means I can't chat with my friends there, but that's no loss, I prefer phone

or actually hanging out with my friends to catch up).

>

> But the last two days she has been trying to reach me via AIM, and I guess my

only option is to take her off my AIM entirely. I refuse to talk to her. I don't

feel like writing her a letter, and I don't want to talk to her on the phone.

She has not, and most likely will never, acknowledge what happened on Christmas,

and if she can't figure out why she's driven me away that's her problem.

>

> So I guess my answer is to just block her on everything. Right?

>

[Guest guest]

Sigh, this episode (and trigger) finally pushed me over the edge. I called my

employer's EAP and talked to someone. I was really worried that the counselor

wouldn't understand the behavior my mother was exhibiting and how it was

affecting me, but he was very understanding and very sympathetic. He felt I

needed to be referred to an therapist that can see me face-to-face even if it's

only for one session, to talk through it all.

They will be calling me in 24-48 hours with some options.

Question: can I charge my nada for the copays?

[Guest guest]

Sigh, this episode (and trigger) finally pushed me over the edge. I called my

employer's EAP and talked to someone. I was really worried that the counselor

wouldn't understand the behavior my mother was exhibiting and how it was

affecting me, but he was very understanding and very sympathetic. He felt I

needed to be referred to an therapist that can see me face-to-face even if it's

only for one session, to talk through it all.

They will be calling me in 24-48 hours with some options.

Question: can I charge my nada for the copays?

[Guest guest]

I've been in denial that I can handle this without any help, besides you guys,

of course. But it's just clear to me now, I have to deal with this.

I think it will be a good thing.

[Guest guest]

My nada is blocked from my IM clients, my facebook, and any other form of

internet communication. I know she sees my profile pictures because in our once

every 6 weeks conversations she brings up how I look. Other then that she does

not exist to me online at all. I had to do this for my own sanity. Even my

extended family now accepts this even if they don't agree.

I say block her and continue your life. Shutting down your ability to talk to

others is letting her have power over you that she doesn't deserve.

Riah

>

> Okay, so I blocked all her functionality on my Facebook and even turned off my

chat feature on Facebook so she couldn't try and chat with me there (even though

it means I can't chat with my friends there, but that's no loss, I prefer phone

or actually hanging out with my friends to catch up).

>

> But the last two days she has been trying to reach me via AIM, and I guess my

only option is to take her off my AIM entirely. I refuse to talk to her. I don't

feel like writing her a letter, and I don't want to talk to her on the phone.

She has not, and most likely will never, acknowledge what happened on Christmas,

and if she can't figure out why she's driven me away that's her problem.

>

> So I guess my answer is to just block her on everything. Right?

>

[Guest guest]

My nada is blocked from my IM clients, my facebook, and any other form of

internet communication. I know she sees my profile pictures because in our once

every 6 weeks conversations she brings up how I look. Other then that she does

not exist to me online at all. I had to do this for my own sanity. Even my

extended family now accepts this even if they don't agree.

I say block her and continue your life. Shutting down your ability to talk to

others is letting her have power over you that she doesn't deserve.

Riah

>

> Okay, so I blocked all her functionality on my Facebook and even turned off my

chat feature on Facebook so she couldn't try and chat with me there (even though

it means I can't chat with my friends there, but that's no loss, I prefer phone

or actually hanging out with my friends to catch up).

>

> But the last two days she has been trying to reach me via AIM, and I guess my

only option is to take her off my AIM entirely. I refuse to talk to her. I don't

feel like writing her a letter, and I don't want to talk to her on the phone.

She has not, and most likely will never, acknowledge what happened on Christmas,

and if she can't figure out why she's driven me away that's her problem.

>

> So I guess my answer is to just block her on everything. Right?

>