Re: christmas dinner

[Guest guest]

Sandarah,

It is so amazing how our experience does benefit others. You helped me so much

with your post. This morning I was in a pity party and in a food hangover. I

just felt horrible, fat, and frustrated.

I know it was triggered by seeing photos of myself from earlier this year and

how terrible I looked. I comforted myself by saying through ie I did gain, but I

know it will get better.

Reading your post made me see some positive things that are happening. Like how

I was able to not finish my plate, or mindlessly eat appetizers. Or, how I tried

a couple cookies but did not like them and left them on the plate normally, I

would have ate it for fear of what someone would say to me or out of old tapes

telling me I have to finish it, its " bad " or " wrong " to leave it there.

I also ate beyond my fullness, but did not beat myself up about it. I came home

in a food coma Nd passed out.

Today I am to meet a friend who is in from la, and I dont want to go out of fear

of her seeing how much weight I gained. I also realised that I get this smug

satisfaction out of people saying " did you lose weight? " Or " wow, you are thin! "

It makes me feel good. Like I have accomplished something; I am important; when,

it only lasts for a bit, I gain weight, then the shame n guilt return. I do

admit to not being comfortBle with my size, but I know starving myself and

dieting is not the answer. I know that devloping a loving relationship with my

body is key.

The women here who have that are what give me hope. being an ie-er is what I

want, and it wont happen overnight. I know it works.

Thank you for your post. Thank you to ie book and this group

" The greatest discovery of any generation is that human beings can alter their

lives by altering the attitudes of their minds. " Albert Schweitzer

[Guest guest]

It's a milestone to be able to realize we've had enough, or that we don't like the taste of that food, and just leave it. To realize we don't have to eat it just because it's there.And *your* post helped me! This statement:"I also realised that I get this smug satisfaction out of people saying "did you lose weight?" Or "wow, you are thin!"What it made me think was, "That's what you notice when you see me?" Everyone is so preoccupied with it, it's what they comment on when they see someone. I think we think much too much about it. Ellie To: IntuitiveEating_Support Sent: Monday, December 26, 2011 9:54 AM Subject: Re: christmas dinner

Sandarah,

It is so amazing how our experience does benefit others. You helped me so much with your post. This morning I was in a pity party and in a food hangover. I just felt horrible, fat, and frustrated.

I know it was triggered by seeing photos of myself from earlier this year and how terrible I looked. I comforted myself by saying through ie I did gain, but I know it will get better.

Reading your post made me see some positive things that are happening. Like how I was able to not finish my plate, or mindlessly eat appetizers. Or, how I tried a couple cookies but did not like them and left them on the plate normally, I would have ate it for fear of what someone would say to me or out of old tapes telling me I have to finish it, its "bad" or "wrong" to leave it there.

I also ate beyond my fullness, but did not beat myself up about it. I came home in a food coma Nd passed out.

Today I am to meet a friend who is in from la, and I dont want to go out of fear of her seeing how much weight I gained. I also realised that I get this smug satisfaction out of people saying "did you lose weight?" Or "wow, you are thin!" It makes me feel good. Like I have accomplished something; I am important; when, it only lasts for a bit, I gain weight, then the shame n guilt return. I do admit to not being comfortBle with my size, but I know starving myself and dieting is not the answer. I know that devloping a loving relationship with my body is key.

The women here who have that are what give me hope. being an ie-er is what I want, and it wont happen overnight. I know it works.

Thank you for your post. Thank you to ie book and this group

[Guest guest]

It's a milestone to be able to realize we've had enough, or that we don't like the taste of that food, and just leave it. To realize we don't have to eat it just because it's there.And *your* post helped me! This statement:"I also realised that I get this smug satisfaction out of people saying "did you lose weight?" Or "wow, you are thin!"What it made me think was, "That's what you notice when you see me?" Everyone is so preoccupied with it, it's what they comment on when they see someone. I think we think much too much about it. Ellie To: IntuitiveEating_Support Sent: Monday, December 26, 2011 9:54 AM Subject: Re: christmas dinner

Sandarah,

It is so amazing how our experience does benefit others. You helped me so much with your post. This morning I was in a pity party and in a food hangover. I just felt horrible, fat, and frustrated.

I know it was triggered by seeing photos of myself from earlier this year and how terrible I looked. I comforted myself by saying through ie I did gain, but I know it will get better.

Reading your post made me see some positive things that are happening. Like how I was able to not finish my plate, or mindlessly eat appetizers. Or, how I tried a couple cookies but did not like them and left them on the plate normally, I would have ate it for fear of what someone would say to me or out of old tapes telling me I have to finish it, its "bad" or "wrong" to leave it there.

I also ate beyond my fullness, but did not beat myself up about it. I came home in a food coma Nd passed out.

Today I am to meet a friend who is in from la, and I dont want to go out of fear of her seeing how much weight I gained. I also realised that I get this smug satisfaction out of people saying "did you lose weight?" Or "wow, you are thin!" It makes me feel good. Like I have accomplished something; I am important; when, it only lasts for a bit, I gain weight, then the shame n guilt return. I do admit to not being comfortBle with my size, but I know starving myself and dieting is not the answer. I know that devloping a loving relationship with my body is key.

The women here who have that are what give me hope. being an ie-er is what I want, and it wont happen overnight. I know it works.

Thank you for your post. Thank you to ie book and this group