Re: christmas dinner

December 26, 2011

Sandarah,

It is so amazing how our experience does benefit others. You helped me so much

with your post. This morning I was in a pity party and in a food hangover. I

just felt horrible, fat, and frustrated.

I know it was triggered by seeing photos of myself from earlier this year and

how terrible I looked. I comforted myself by saying through ie I did gain, but I

know it will get better.

Reading your post made me see some positive things that are happening. Like how

I was able to not finish my plate, or mindlessly eat appetizers. Or, how I tried

a couple cookies but did not like them and left them on the plate normally, I

would have ate it for fear of what someone would say to me or out of old tapes

telling me I have to finish it, its " bad " or " wrong " to leave it there.

I also ate beyond my fullness, but did not beat myself up about it. I came home

in a food coma Nd passed out.

Today I am to meet a friend who is in from la, and I dont want to go out of fear

of her seeing how much weight I gained. I also realised that I get this smug

satisfaction out of people saying " did you lose weight? " Or " wow, you are thin! "

It makes me feel good. Like I have accomplished something; I am important; when,

it only lasts for a bit, I gain weight, then the shame n guilt return. I do

admit to not being comfortBle with my size, but I know starving myself and

dieting is not the answer. I know that devloping a loving relationship with my

body is key.

The women here who have that are what give me hope. being an ie-er is what I

want, and it wont happen overnight. I know it works.

Thank you for your post. Thank you to ie book and this group

" The greatest discovery of any generation is that human beings can alter their

lives by altering the attitudes of their minds. " Albert Schweitzer

December 26, 2011

It's a milestone to be able to realize we've had enough, or that we don't like the taste of that food, and just leave it. To realize we don't have to eat it just because it's there.And *your* post helped me! This statement:"I also realised that I get this smug satisfaction out of people saying "did you lose weight?" Or "wow, you are thin!"What it made me think was, "That's what you notice when you see me?" Everyone is so preoccupied with it, it's what they comment on when they see someone. I think we think much too much about it. Ellie To: IntuitiveEating_Support Sent: Monday, December 26, 2011 9:54 AM Subject: Re: christmas dinner

Sandarah,

It is so amazing how our experience does benefit others. You helped me so much with your post. This morning I was in a pity party and in a food hangover. I just felt horrible, fat, and frustrated.

I know it was triggered by seeing photos of myself from earlier this year and how terrible I looked. I comforted myself by saying through ie I did gain, but I know it will get better.

Reading your post made me see some positive things that are happening. Like how I was able to not finish my plate, or mindlessly eat appetizers. Or, how I tried a couple cookies but did not like them and left them on the plate normally, I would have ate it for fear of what someone would say to me or out of old tapes telling me I have to finish it, its "bad" or "wrong" to leave it there.

I also ate beyond my fullness, but did not beat myself up about it. I came home in a food coma Nd passed out.

Today I am to meet a friend who is in from la, and I dont want to go out of fear of her seeing how much weight I gained. I also realised that I get this smug satisfaction out of people saying "did you lose weight?" Or "wow, you are thin!" It makes me feel good. Like I have accomplished something; I am important; when, it only lasts for a bit, I gain weight, then the shame n guilt return. I do admit to not being comfortBle with my size, but I know starving myself and dieting is not the answer. I know that devloping a loving relationship with my body is key.

The women here who have that are what give me hope. being an ie-er is what I want, and it wont happen overnight. I know it works.

Thank you for your post. Thank you to ie book and this group

December 26, 2011

Hi, everyone!

I ate until I felt uncomfortably full over the weekend. I'm at the

beginning of legalizing foods, and I've been trying to keep my

self-talk gentle and compassionate, instead of beating myself bloody

about overeating, which is what I've done my whole adolescent and

adult life. I feel a little bit scared, too, because I'm afraid I'm

going to gain so much weight that my health and mobility will be in

danger.

But I KNOW this is the right path of me. In fact, I know the

overeating is at least partly due to all the diets and restrictive

programs I've been on. I'm really hoping to be able to move through

this stage of reassuring myself that I can have food to the point of

knowing that I don't have to eat "everything" in order to be safe.

I've tried this before, but panicked and went back on diets when I

gained weight. It took me many, many years to get this far into the

forest -- it's going to take a while to get out! I know it won't

happen in a day or a week, though my semiconscious expectations

still focus on quick results and disappointment when they don't

occur.

All of your posts are helping a lot. It's so nice to have a group to

do this with.

Sue

It's a milestone to be able to realize we've had

enough, or that we don't like the taste of that food,

and just leave it. To realize we don't have to eat it

just because it's there.

And *your* post helped me! This statement:

"I also realised that I get this smug

satisfaction out of people saying "did you lose weight?"

Or "wow, you are thin!"

What it made me think was, "That's what you notice

when you see me?" Everyone is so preoccupied with it,

it's what they comment on when they see someone. I think

we think much too much about it.

Ellie

December 26, 2011