Re: Does Your Nada Accuse You of Things SHE Did or Other People Have Done?

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What a horrible woman! She's a soul killer.

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> I wonder sometimes if it is my nada's dementia or it the BPD. I know to

> some it may not matter what the cause, but it makes me nuts.

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> My nada accuses me of 'supporting all of Maine' when she sends me money.

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> My nada told me awhile ago, " God will never forgive you for having an

> abortion when you were married to " . I never HAD an abortion and I was

> never pregnant. Furthermore I wouldn't have aborted it back then if I WAS

> pregnant. SHE had two abortions and both times she said because she did not

> want a baby ruining HER figure. She claims the only reason she had ME was

> because my grandmother wanted a grandchild and she begged her not to abort

> me. Nada will sometimes then say that 'I wish I had because you are of no

> use to me'.

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> My nada accuses me of being an alcoholic, but she was never one and I

> haven't been drunk once in my life.

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> My nada accuses me of being a 'drug addict' and again never took a drug in

> my life and greatly dislike even taking an aspirin.

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> My nada accuses me of being a 'party girl' if I'm not home when she calls

> me and out at a friend's birthday party etc. I know I should lie and tell

> nada that I am out shopping but you can't quite do that when she calls at 8

> or 9 pm and you're not home.

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> My nada TELLS me I am not to date as only teenagers date and besides - 'the

> only reason any man would want YOU is for MY money'. I don't tell her when I

> DO have a date and if she calls when I am out on the rare date, I tell her

> that I was out to a movie with a girlfriend, but that usually elicits the " I

> am wasting money " speech and 'we are in a depression - don't you have any

> brain in that head of yours'.

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> Do any of you get accusations that are totally unfounded from your nada?

> Where do these come from? While I know they are absurd and totally false,

> they DO anger me because part of me wants to defend myself and the other

> part of me knows there is no point in that so I change the subject. When

> nada had it more together, she was like a tenacious bull and wouldn't give

> up the topic. You can't tell her " this subject is off limits " because she is

> like a two year old and that doesn't work - only angers her worse and you

> get the " I'M the MOTHER and YOU act like YOU'RE MY mother " routine. I can

> change the subject now though and I do so. Nada actually goes along with it,

> but that usually just leads to another rant about something else I have

> never done so it starts all over again. N.C. is not an option and I do limit

> calls as much as I can.

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