Re: Emotional eating - or just needing extra weight? Control/choice

[Guest guest]

I am discovering that noticing what I'm doing without jumping into control is

difficult. Earlier I was eating something that wasn't working for my body but it

tasted good and still has that glimmer of the forbidden. I am working on

unforbidding - but old habits die hard.

So, as I was eating, I was trying to find where choice lived inside of me. I

witnessed a little tug of war - another taste, another " do I really want this " ,

a silent " gimme! " back and forth for quite a while. Then, eventually I stopped.

I don't think that I was in charge though, I think I'd just had enough for the

same reasons that cause me to stop at any other time. Any more and I'd have

probably been sick as I'm feeling a little congested right now anyway and this

sugary thing would have sent me over the edge very easily.

And, I can observe right now, that there's an emotional storm quietly brewing

inside of me where getting sick and staying home and watching tv for several

days without interruption sounds like Heaven. That's new - yes, I want some

serious time out! Ha! And, I don't have to get sick to have it!

Well, well.

This is new ground. Sigh. This is most certainly not the same turf as " diet

now for that summer bikini " - not the same at all. Boy oh boy.

Sandarah

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> Subject: Emotional eating - or just needing extra

weight?

> To: IntuitiveEating_Support

> Date: Sunday, October 23, 2011, 1:10 AM

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> Hi all, just got back from attending a conference out of town. The trip was

pleasant enough but I found myself eating without hunger or paying attention to

my body (other than thinking I was too fat).

>

> I just can't get myself to honor my body's hunger as any attempt at

restriction feels like a rule and I am into rebellion before I can even think.

>

> I did wait for hunger initially on IE and it was great - then, just like with

a diet, I fell off the wagon and haven't been able to get back into waiting for

hunger at all. So, obviously it became a rule to me and I'm stuck in my ages-old

rebellion.

>

> Plus, I think I really need to address my emotional eating as I can see how

over the course of the past three days I was eating due to my emotions. I don't

know how to stop mid-course though; I'm always waiting for a stress-free time to

get on top of my eating.

>

> It was a nice trip where I got to stay at a fabulous resort in the mountains.

Unfortunately the topic was on recently enacted assisted suicide laws and it was

a real downer. Important, yes I understand, but truthfully I have enough

depressing content every day at work so going to a retreat/workshop and taking

that in for two days was - stressful. Especially having lost three members of my

immediate family in the last few years - death and dying I was not really up

for. Know what I mean?

>

> Plus I went with a friend who was really needy and high maintenance, so I sat

and stuffed myself around her. I like her, but wow, what a complainer! Gees, no

wonder I've been eating so much chocolate. I hadn't really thought that out.

>

> Maybe I would have been more in touch with my feelings (and possible CHOICES)

if I hadn't been so quick to eat past them. Dang!

>

> So... has anyone had success with stopping eating when stressed mid stress??

I'm great at retrospectives - but that's not really helpful if one wants to stop

eating compulsively is it?

>

> And... any thoughts on how to move past the diet rebellion with regards to

making rules out of IE? How is waiting for hunger not a rule??? When does a rule

become a choice? I don't get it. I just don't.

>

> Sandarah

>

[Guest guest]

" And, I can observe right now, that there's an emotional storm quietly brewing

inside of me where getting sick and staying home and watching tv for several

days without interruption sounds like Heaven. That's new - yes, I want some

serious time out! Ha! And, I don't have to get sick to have it! "

That's exactly what I've been thinking about recently-- figuring out what I

REALLY need. I've been asking myself that at all the times when I feel like

eating, but I'm not hungry. After lunch, when I'm wanting something sweet--

what I really want is a little more time to myself before classes start. I

don't want lunch to be over( and 25 minutes goes by really fast) and it be time

to teach again. Actually, there are a number of times during the day when

that't it, that I want more time to myself. Or I want to relax. Or I want to

escape from pressure/tensions.

It's so much easier to recognize those other things when I'm not combining

eating with anyone else. My whole life, I have read while I've eaten (except

during family meals) which is a very pleasurable combination, but now that I've

made a conscious effort to separate them, it's much easier to differentiate

between the eating part and the other part, and say, " no, I don't really feel

like eating; I feel like reading. "

I think I've had realizations like this before, but at some point I've let them

fall by the wayside.....

As far as needing time off, when I very first started teaching someone told me

to USE my sick days, and that's the best advice I ever got. You don't have to

be sick to take a day off work. If that's what you need--time home watching TV,

then just call in sick. The way I justify it in my head is, " I will be sick if

I have to go in to work today, " . Then perhaps you won't feel the need to eat the

sweets that really will make you sick.

Tilley

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> > From: sanamu1234 <sanamu1234@>

> > Subject: Emotional eating - or just needing extra

weight?

> > To: IntuitiveEating_Support

> > Date: Sunday, October 23, 2011, 1:10 AM

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> >  

> >

> >

> >

> > Hi all, just got back from attending a conference out of town. The trip was

pleasant enough but I found myself eating without hunger or paying attention to

my body (other than thinking I was too fat).

> >

> > I just can't get myself to honor my body's hunger as any attempt at

restriction feels like a rule and I am into rebellion before I can even think.

> >

> > I did wait for hunger initially on IE and it was great - then, just like

with a diet, I fell off the wagon and haven't been able to get back into waiting

for hunger at all. So, obviously it became a rule to me and I'm stuck in my

ages-old rebellion.

> >

> > Plus, I think I really need to address my emotional eating as I can see how

over the course of the past three days I was eating due to my emotions. I don't

know how to stop mid-course though; I'm always waiting for a stress-free time to

get on top of my eating.

> >

> > It was a nice trip where I got to stay at a fabulous resort in the

mountains. Unfortunately the topic was on recently enacted assisted suicide laws

and it was a real downer. Important, yes I understand, but truthfully I have

enough depressing content every day at work so going to a retreat/workshop and

taking that in for two days was - stressful. Especially having lost three

members of my immediate family in the last few years - death and dying I was not

really up for. Know what I mean?

> >

> > Plus I went with a friend who was really needy and high maintenance, so I

sat and stuffed myself around her. I like her, but wow, what a complainer! Gees,

no wonder I've been eating so much chocolate. I hadn't really thought that out.

> >

> > Maybe I would have been more in touch with my feelings (and possible

CHOICES) if I hadn't been so quick to eat past them. Dang!

> >

> > So... has anyone had success with stopping eating when stressed mid stress??

I'm great at retrospectives - but that's not really helpful if one wants to stop

eating compulsively is it?

> >

> > And... any thoughts on how to move past the diet rebellion with regards to

making rules out of IE? How is waiting for hunger not a rule??? When does a rule

become a choice? I don't get it. I just don't.

> >

> > Sandarah

> >

>

[Guest guest]

" And, I can observe right now, that there's an emotional storm quietly brewing

inside of me where getting sick and staying home and watching tv for several

days without interruption sounds like Heaven. That's new - yes, I want some

serious time out! Ha! And, I don't have to get sick to have it! "

That's exactly what I've been thinking about recently-- figuring out what I

REALLY need. I've been asking myself that at all the times when I feel like

eating, but I'm not hungry. After lunch, when I'm wanting something sweet--

what I really want is a little more time to myself before classes start. I

don't want lunch to be over( and 25 minutes goes by really fast) and it be time

to teach again. Actually, there are a number of times during the day when

that't it, that I want more time to myself. Or I want to relax. Or I want to

escape from pressure/tensions.

It's so much easier to recognize those other things when I'm not combining

eating with anyone else. My whole life, I have read while I've eaten (except

during family meals) which is a very pleasurable combination, but now that I've

made a conscious effort to separate them, it's much easier to differentiate

between the eating part and the other part, and say, " no, I don't really feel

like eating; I feel like reading. "

I think I've had realizations like this before, but at some point I've let them

fall by the wayside.....

As far as needing time off, when I very first started teaching someone told me

to USE my sick days, and that's the best advice I ever got. You don't have to

be sick to take a day off work. If that's what you need--time home watching TV,

then just call in sick. The way I justify it in my head is, " I will be sick if

I have to go in to work today, " . Then perhaps you won't feel the need to eat the

sweets that really will make you sick.

Tilley

> >

> >

> > From: sanamu1234 <sanamu1234@>

> > Subject: Emotional eating - or just needing extra

weight?

> > To: IntuitiveEating_Support

> > Date: Sunday, October 23, 2011, 1:10 AM

> >

> >

> >

> >  

> >

> >

> >

> > Hi all, just got back from attending a conference out of town. The trip was

pleasant enough but I found myself eating without hunger or paying attention to

my body (other than thinking I was too fat).

> >

> > I just can't get myself to honor my body's hunger as any attempt at

restriction feels like a rule and I am into rebellion before I can even think.

> >

> > I did wait for hunger initially on IE and it was great - then, just like

with a diet, I fell off the wagon and haven't been able to get back into waiting

for hunger at all. So, obviously it became a rule to me and I'm stuck in my

ages-old rebellion.

> >

> > Plus, I think I really need to address my emotional eating as I can see how

over the course of the past three days I was eating due to my emotions. I don't

know how to stop mid-course though; I'm always waiting for a stress-free time to

get on top of my eating.

> >

> > It was a nice trip where I got to stay at a fabulous resort in the

mountains. Unfortunately the topic was on recently enacted assisted suicide laws

and it was a real downer. Important, yes I understand, but truthfully I have

enough depressing content every day at work so going to a retreat/workshop and

taking that in for two days was - stressful. Especially having lost three

members of my immediate family in the last few years - death and dying I was not

really up for. Know what I mean?

> >

> > Plus I went with a friend who was really needy and high maintenance, so I

sat and stuffed myself around her. I like her, but wow, what a complainer! Gees,

no wonder I've been eating so much chocolate. I hadn't really thought that out.

> >

> > Maybe I would have been more in touch with my feelings (and possible

CHOICES) if I hadn't been so quick to eat past them. Dang!

> >

> > So... has anyone had success with stopping eating when stressed mid stress??

I'm great at retrospectives - but that's not really helpful if one wants to stop

eating compulsively is it?

> >

> > And... any thoughts on how to move past the diet rebellion with regards to

making rules out of IE? How is waiting for hunger not a rule??? When does a rule

become a choice? I don't get it. I just don't.

> >

> > Sandarah

> >

>

[Guest guest]

" And, I can observe right now, that there's an emotional storm quietly brewing

inside of me where getting sick and staying home and watching tv for several

days without interruption sounds like Heaven. That's new - yes, I want some

serious time out! Ha! And, I don't have to get sick to have it! "

That's exactly what I've been thinking about recently-- figuring out what I

REALLY need. I've been asking myself that at all the times when I feel like

eating, but I'm not hungry. After lunch, when I'm wanting something sweet--

what I really want is a little more time to myself before classes start. I

don't want lunch to be over( and 25 minutes goes by really fast) and it be time

to teach again. Actually, there are a number of times during the day when

that't it, that I want more time to myself. Or I want to relax. Or I want to

escape from pressure/tensions.

It's so much easier to recognize those other things when I'm not combining

eating with anyone else. My whole life, I have read while I've eaten (except

during family meals) which is a very pleasurable combination, but now that I've

made a conscious effort to separate them, it's much easier to differentiate

between the eating part and the other part, and say, " no, I don't really feel

like eating; I feel like reading. "

I think I've had realizations like this before, but at some point I've let them

fall by the wayside.....

As far as needing time off, when I very first started teaching someone told me

to USE my sick days, and that's the best advice I ever got. You don't have to

be sick to take a day off work. If that's what you need--time home watching TV,

then just call in sick. The way I justify it in my head is, " I will be sick if

I have to go in to work today, " . Then perhaps you won't feel the need to eat the

sweets that really will make you sick.

Tilley

> >

> >

> > From: sanamu1234 <sanamu1234@>

> > Subject: Emotional eating - or just needing extra

weight?

> > To: IntuitiveEating_Support

> > Date: Sunday, October 23, 2011, 1:10 AM

> >

> >

> >

> >  

> >

> >

> >

> > Hi all, just got back from attending a conference out of town. The trip was

pleasant enough but I found myself eating without hunger or paying attention to

my body (other than thinking I was too fat).

> >

> > I just can't get myself to honor my body's hunger as any attempt at

restriction feels like a rule and I am into rebellion before I can even think.

> >

> > I did wait for hunger initially on IE and it was great - then, just like

with a diet, I fell off the wagon and haven't been able to get back into waiting

for hunger at all. So, obviously it became a rule to me and I'm stuck in my

ages-old rebellion.

> >

> > Plus, I think I really need to address my emotional eating as I can see how

over the course of the past three days I was eating due to my emotions. I don't

know how to stop mid-course though; I'm always waiting for a stress-free time to

get on top of my eating.

> >

> > It was a nice trip where I got to stay at a fabulous resort in the

mountains. Unfortunately the topic was on recently enacted assisted suicide laws

and it was a real downer. Important, yes I understand, but truthfully I have

enough depressing content every day at work so going to a retreat/workshop and

taking that in for two days was - stressful. Especially having lost three

members of my immediate family in the last few years - death and dying I was not

really up for. Know what I mean?

> >

> > Plus I went with a friend who was really needy and high maintenance, so I

sat and stuffed myself around her. I like her, but wow, what a complainer! Gees,

no wonder I've been eating so much chocolate. I hadn't really thought that out.

> >

> > Maybe I would have been more in touch with my feelings (and possible

CHOICES) if I hadn't been so quick to eat past them. Dang!

> >

> > So... has anyone had success with stopping eating when stressed mid stress??

I'm great at retrospectives - but that's not really helpful if one wants to stop

eating compulsively is it?

> >

> > And... any thoughts on how to move past the diet rebellion with regards to

making rules out of IE? How is waiting for hunger not a rule??? When does a rule

become a choice? I don't get it. I just don't.

> >

> > Sandarah

> >

>

[Guest guest]

I think stopping when you've had enough, before you got sick, is a victory. Even if you feel that you could have stopped earlier, you still stopped at a point where you might have eaten past before. And you did it because you are noticing more. That's awesome. Keep asking the questions without the expectation or pressure to stop, and I think it will get more and more natural.

Mimi

Subject: Re: Emotional eating - or just needing extra weight? Control/choiceTo: IntuitiveEating_Support Date: Thursday, October 27, 2011, 12:01 AM

I am discovering that noticing what I'm doing without jumping into control is difficult. Earlier I was eating something that wasn't working for my body but it tasted good and still has that glimmer of the forbidden. I am working on unforbidding - but old habits die hard.So, as I was eating, I was trying to find where choice lived inside of me. I witnessed a little tug of war - another taste, another "do I really want this", a silent "gimme!" back and forth for quite a while. Then, eventually I stopped. I don't think that I was in charge though, I think I'd just had enough for the same reasons that cause me to stop at any other time. Any more and I'd have probably been sick as I'm feeling a little congested right now anyway and this sugary thing would have sent me over the edge very easily. And, I can observe right now, that there's an emotional storm quietly brewing inside of me where getting sick and staying home and watching tv for

several days without interruption sounds like Heaven. That's new - yes, I want some serious time out! Ha! And, I don't have to get sick to have it! Well, well. This is new ground. Sigh. This is most certainly not the same turf as "diet now for that summer bikini" - not the same at all. Boy oh boy.Sandarah

[Guest guest]

I think stopping when you've had enough, before you got sick, is a victory. Even if you feel that you could have stopped earlier, you still stopped at a point where you might have eaten past before. And you did it because you are noticing more. That's awesome. Keep asking the questions without the expectation or pressure to stop, and I think it will get more and more natural.

Mimi

Subject: Re: Emotional eating - or just needing extra weight? Control/choiceTo: IntuitiveEating_Support Date: Thursday, October 27, 2011, 12:01 AM

I am discovering that noticing what I'm doing without jumping into control is difficult. Earlier I was eating something that wasn't working for my body but it tasted good and still has that glimmer of the forbidden. I am working on unforbidding - but old habits die hard.So, as I was eating, I was trying to find where choice lived inside of me. I witnessed a little tug of war - another taste, another "do I really want this", a silent "gimme!" back and forth for quite a while. Then, eventually I stopped. I don't think that I was in charge though, I think I'd just had enough for the same reasons that cause me to stop at any other time. Any more and I'd have probably been sick as I'm feeling a little congested right now anyway and this sugary thing would have sent me over the edge very easily. And, I can observe right now, that there's an emotional storm quietly brewing inside of me where getting sick and staying home and watching tv for

several days without interruption sounds like Heaven. That's new - yes, I want some serious time out! Ha! And, I don't have to get sick to have it! Well, well. This is new ground. Sigh. This is most certainly not the same turf as "diet now for that summer bikini" - not the same at all. Boy oh boy.Sandarah

[Guest guest]

I think stopping when you've had enough, before you got sick, is a victory. Even if you feel that you could have stopped earlier, you still stopped at a point where you might have eaten past before. And you did it because you are noticing more. That's awesome. Keep asking the questions without the expectation or pressure to stop, and I think it will get more and more natural.

Mimi

Subject: Re: Emotional eating - or just needing extra weight? Control/choiceTo: IntuitiveEating_Support Date: Thursday, October 27, 2011, 12:01 AM

I am discovering that noticing what I'm doing without jumping into control is difficult. Earlier I was eating something that wasn't working for my body but it tasted good and still has that glimmer of the forbidden. I am working on unforbidding - but old habits die hard.So, as I was eating, I was trying to find where choice lived inside of me. I witnessed a little tug of war - another taste, another "do I really want this", a silent "gimme!" back and forth for quite a while. Then, eventually I stopped. I don't think that I was in charge though, I think I'd just had enough for the same reasons that cause me to stop at any other time. Any more and I'd have probably been sick as I'm feeling a little congested right now anyway and this sugary thing would have sent me over the edge very easily. And, I can observe right now, that there's an emotional storm quietly brewing inside of me where getting sick and staying home and watching tv for

several days without interruption sounds like Heaven. That's new - yes, I want some serious time out! Ha! And, I don't have to get sick to have it! Well, well. This is new ground. Sigh. This is most certainly not the same turf as "diet now for that summer bikini" - not the same at all. Boy oh boy.Sandarah

[Guest guest]

" Keep asking the questions without the expectation or pressure to stop, and I

think it will get more and more natural. " Thanks. I'm work on remembering that

- feels important.

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> Subject: Re: Emotional eating - or just needing

extra weight? Control/choice

> To: IntuitiveEating_Support

> Date: Thursday, October 27, 2011, 12:01 AM

>

>

>

>  

>

>

>

> I am discovering that noticing what I'm doing without jumping into control is

difficult. Earlier I was eating something that wasn't working for my body but it

tasted good and still has that glimmer of the forbidden. I am working on

unforbidding - but old habits die hard.

>

> So, as I was eating, I was trying to find where choice lived inside of me. I

witnessed a little tug of war - another taste, another " do I really want this " ,

a silent " gimme! " back and forth for quite a while. Then, eventually I stopped.

I don't think that I was in charge though, I think I'd just had enough for the

same reasons that cause me to stop at any other time. Any more and I'd have

probably been sick as I'm feeling a little congested right now anyway and this

sugary thing would have sent me over the edge very easily.

>

> And, I can observe right now, that there's an emotional storm quietly brewing

inside of me where getting sick and staying home and watching tv for several

days without interruption sounds like Heaven. That's new - yes, I want some

serious time out! Ha! And, I don't have to get sick to have it!

>

> Well, well.

>

> This is new ground. Sigh. This is most certainly not the same turf as " diet

now for that summer bikini " - not the same at all. Boy oh boy.

>

> Sandarah

>