article about children of mothers with BPD

[Guest guest]

I was just on the internet and found this article, some of you may know about it

already, but I thought it was great to see someone telling our story. I want to

really thank that author for her study.

http://www.bpdfamily.com/bpdresources/nk_a108.htm

[Guest guest]

Wow, that is a very comprehensive and thorough article! It truly spotlights how

the behaviors of mothers with bpd can damage their children, and it specifies

what kind of damage and how the damage happens (via attachment disorders, trauma

bonding, etc.)

What is mind-boggling is that if these facts have been known since 1997 (the

oldest studies referenced in the article are from 1997) how is it that there

aren't any systems in place to evaluate, monitor and assist those with

personality disorder in their efforts to be as normal as possible in their

child-rearing behaviors?

Being able to recognize abnormal, destructive, damaging behaviors in a potential

spouse, or in one's relatives, or in one's parents would seem to be a vital step

in preventing child abuse.

Perhaps my theory that the mere thought of mentally ill mothers abusing their

children is too repugnant for the general public to handle and they'd rather

just believe that such things don't exist or are such extremely rare anomalies

that they don't have to concern themselves about it.

That's the way the public used to think about child sexual molesters: " Oh, yes,

that is so horrible but its so rare! " But now the blinders are off and the

public realizes that *that* form of abuse is more widespread and more frequent

than anyone wanted to believe.

The public needs to be educated about abusive parenting, now.

Thanks for posting the link to that article.

-Annie

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> I was just on the internet and found this article, some of you may know about

it already, but I thought it was great to see someone telling our story. I want

to really thank that author for her study.

>

> http://www.bpdfamily.com/bpdresources/nk_a108.htm

>

[Guest guest]

Wow, that is a very comprehensive and thorough article! It truly spotlights how

the behaviors of mothers with bpd can damage their children, and it specifies

what kind of damage and how the damage happens (via attachment disorders, trauma

bonding, etc.)

What is mind-boggling is that if these facts have been known since 1997 (the

oldest studies referenced in the article are from 1997) how is it that there

aren't any systems in place to evaluate, monitor and assist those with

personality disorder in their efforts to be as normal as possible in their

child-rearing behaviors?

Being able to recognize abnormal, destructive, damaging behaviors in a potential

spouse, or in one's relatives, or in one's parents would seem to be a vital step

in preventing child abuse.

Perhaps my theory that the mere thought of mentally ill mothers abusing their

children is too repugnant for the general public to handle and they'd rather

just believe that such things don't exist or are such extremely rare anomalies

that they don't have to concern themselves about it.

That's the way the public used to think about child sexual molesters: " Oh, yes,

that is so horrible but its so rare! " But now the blinders are off and the

public realizes that *that* form of abuse is more widespread and more frequent

than anyone wanted to believe.

The public needs to be educated about abusive parenting, now.

Thanks for posting the link to that article.

-Annie

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>

> I was just on the internet and found this article, some of you may know about

it already, but I thought it was great to see someone telling our story. I want

to really thank that author for her study.

>

> http://www.bpdfamily.com/bpdresources/nk_a108.htm

>

[Guest guest]

Wow, that is a very comprehensive and thorough article! It truly spotlights how

the behaviors of mothers with bpd can damage their children, and it specifies

what kind of damage and how the damage happens (via attachment disorders, trauma

bonding, etc.)

What is mind-boggling is that if these facts have been known since 1997 (the

oldest studies referenced in the article are from 1997) how is it that there

aren't any systems in place to evaluate, monitor and assist those with

personality disorder in their efforts to be as normal as possible in their

child-rearing behaviors?

Being able to recognize abnormal, destructive, damaging behaviors in a potential

spouse, or in one's relatives, or in one's parents would seem to be a vital step

in preventing child abuse.

Perhaps my theory that the mere thought of mentally ill mothers abusing their

children is too repugnant for the general public to handle and they'd rather

just believe that such things don't exist or are such extremely rare anomalies

that they don't have to concern themselves about it.

That's the way the public used to think about child sexual molesters: " Oh, yes,

that is so horrible but its so rare! " But now the blinders are off and the

public realizes that *that* form of abuse is more widespread and more frequent

than anyone wanted to believe.

The public needs to be educated about abusive parenting, now.

Thanks for posting the link to that article.

-Annie

>

>

> I was just on the internet and found this article, some of you may know about

it already, but I thought it was great to see someone telling our story. I want

to really thank that author for her study.

>

> http://www.bpdfamily.com/bpdresources/nk_a108.htm

>

[Guest guest]

thanks for posting this, it made me sad amd empathetic though. I've always

suspected that my maternal grandmother was not a June Cleaver type, more of a

mommy dearest, and this just pushes me in that direction more.

While reading it, I had the sudden urge to send my mother some pictures of my

girls and a little letter (NC since 2006), but then I regained my sanity and

remembered that she was/is a big girl and could have gotten a grip on herself. I

sure as hell am not perpetuating the cycle of abuse, so she could have stopped

it too!

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> I was just on the internet and found this article, some of you may know about

it already, but I thought it was great to see someone telling our story. I want

to really thank that author for her study.

>

> http://www.bpdfamily.com/bpdresources/nk_a108.htm

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