Re: Re: Out of the house but my mom STILL finds ways to hurt me!

January 30, 2011

Hi , Yes my nada did things very similar to that. She took my ex's

side in my divorce, called me a cold bitch for leaving.

She also, when I was in high school, befriended a girl I stopped being

friends with. The girl was sleeping around and using drugs and so I moved

on. Nada would invite the girl over to the house whenever I was home and put

on a show of paling around with her.

My suggestion would be, if your sister or nada say things liek " what the

crap, " to ignore them, move on and not respond. That seems to be the only

thing that works. I firmly believe that they don't actually like the person

they are paling around with, they are just trying to be cruel.

Good luck, Girlscout

On Sun, Jan 30, 2011 at 4:42 PM, anuria67854 wrote:

>

> I could be wrong, but maybe there is some sibling rivalry going on your

> sister's part? Whether or not that's part of the picture, I notice that your

> sister made the issue all about her. She expressed no empathy or

> understanding that becoming friends with someone you used to date and who

> hurt you *might* just hurt your feelings.

>

> And it still doesn't address the thing with your mother remaining friends

> with someone who hurt her daughter. Its sad when your own mom and sister

> choose your ex to befriend, even though you've expressed to them that that

> hurts your feelings.

> That would be a big " Ouch! " to me.

>

> It really does add a layer of complication and difficulty when you and your

> family (and those you date) are all in the same business or industry and

> interact on a business level together; that's going to increase the amount

> of interdependence and friction, to be sure, and makes it more difficult to

> keep the business relationship separate from the family relationship.

>

> -Annie

>

> >

> > So I deleted them and I get a text from my sister saying, " what the

> crap? " I

> > said, " why would you and mom become friends with my ex boyfriend after

> you knew

> > how horrible he was to me??? That is so low and cruel a thing to do!! "

> and her

> > reply, " mom has been friends with him since you dated him and he is

> freaking

> > co-directing a play I am in " she is like how dare you be mad at me there

> is a

> > perfectly good explanation...yeah, the explanation is yoy have no loyalty

> to

> > me!!!

> >

> > So that excuses it??? She went behind my back and auditioned for a play

> that my

> > ex was directing? That makes it worse- I feel so betrayed. Why would she

> want to

> > be in a play directed by someone who was so mean to her sister?? NO

> loyalty at

> > all :'( I am so hurt and once again I AM THE BAD GUY because I deleted

> her.

> > Nobody sees that I was wronged or that this should hurt me. How could

> she?

> >

>

January 30, 2011