Re: Re: I didn't handle the BBQ well, but that's okay.

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Oh, I love that idea! I can bring my own "doggie" bag to non-restaurant events, whoo-hoo! TY Judy T

Subject: Re: I didn't handle the BBQ well, but that's okay.To: IntuitiveEating_Support Date: Sunday, August 7, 2011, 4:04 PM

Maybe next time when there is yummy homemade food you can plan to bring tupperware or tinfoil or even just keep some ziplocs in the car, and can say, "wow, these brownies look AMAZING... i'm going to take one to enjoy later, when I am hungry." i definitely have seen people do that for children... why not for you?as for the rest, WAY TO GO on not beating yourself up! and on all the good work you did! sounds like you had many successes.best,abby>> This afternoon we attended a BBQ at a campground an hour away celebrating the 50th birthday of a friend of ours. I was hungry when we first ate, had been hungry for an hour and waited. I did

fine on stopping when I wasn't hungry anymore. It took more food than I anticipated, but nothing compared to an average meal a few weeks ago. Then later, they served dessert. I wanted some, plus I was feeding my kids, so I went ahead and had a small brownie and a cupcake. No problem, still not full. But then the kids kept eating, chips and stuff, and I found myself nibbling and not apparently able to stop, while holding a plate of chips for my toddler in my lap. And I NEVER FELT FULL. It's not like I ate a ton or anything, but it was disturbing to see how very true it is that if I eat when I'm not hungry, I have no "no longer hungry" sign to clue me in on when to stop. Now, a couple of hours later, I can tell there's food in my stomach and I feel a bit annoyed about it, and a little green from car sickness after I drove us the hour home in heavy traffic in the rain, but I'm not beating myself up about a couple of handfuls of chips and 2 small desserts.

Small potatoes, for me. I had three things working against me: 1) The distractions of child care. (We were next to a lake with my 2 year old and my teen with mental retardation, not to mention my hyperactive tween, who doesn't pay attention to danger.) Plus having to hold my daughter's food in my lap because of the camp-out. 2) The distractions of socializing at the same time as eating. & 3) I started eating again when I was not hungry, and since my body hadn't given me a green light, it couldn't give me a yellow light either. Hmm, I guess there was a 4) Since I hadn't brought the food and it was home-cooked, I wasn't sure I could have some later, so wanted to eat right then so I wouldn't miss out. (I'll bet they wouldn't have cared if I had taken a brownie and wrapped it up and put it in my car for later. Wish I'd thought of it then.)> > Social eating seems to be a bit problematic for me right now. I've noticed that even eating with

my family makes it TONS harder to notice when I'm not hungry anymore.> > Jane>