I'm new and need suggestions pleeease!

January 10, 2012

Hi everyone! I'm a newbie to this group, but not to IE. I started my journey in

May 2010, when I discovered Bethenny el " s Naturally Thin. In which she says

eat ehat you want... but then there's a whole bunch of rules. Then I discovered

Geneen Roth's books, and LOVED them, but it was difficlut for me to apply her

ideas to my actual life. Then I read May's " eat what you love " and that

was great! Then I found Intuitive Eating and I am totally hooked! I have

conventionally dieted for about 15 years, on and off. Major yoyo ing, but mostly

just inching up in pounds. I have 4 children ages 6 and under, and gained lots

by each pregnancy because I was allowed to eat finally! Then, each time i gave

birth and ran to a nutritionist who gave new rules, I measured, I wrote

everything down... except when I would binge, once or twice a week, eating my

WHOLE pantry, pies of pizza, bars of choc.. you know.. ANyway here I am 4 months

postpartum, bigger THAN EVER, and trying so hard to eat mindfully. YET: i still

binge at night. most nights. I do not know why. I eat what I want every day. sit

down. concentrate. eat what i really want. stop at 5 or 6. So why after dinner

do i feel like i need to be STUFFEd... and with JUNK food? At night I feel a

magnet drawing me to the kitchen, forcing me to indulge and treat myself, and

feel that FULL number 8 or 9 feeling. WHY WHY WHY??????? I have absolutely no

clue. And therefore have stayed the same weight since my baby was born in

Septmeber. (I try not to weighy myself but do once a month about). Anyways any

suggestions would be great! thanks

January 11, 2012

Simegafeiger...Sorry it took me so long to reply. I often have this same issue either late afternoon or at night. One thing I learned from Gillian was that around 4 pm the body needs some energy, probably complex carbs and protein mix is best. It is a normal cycle of the body/mind. At night there can often be several things going on for me. First and foremost is boredom or loneliness or some other issue I don't want to deal with. The second is I might just be hungry(depending on how late I stay up). Now I know diet mentality rules say to not eat after 6 or 7pm, but sometimes I am up until 2 am. So that " rule " doesn't work anyway. IE says eat when you are hungry and if I am hungry and try to go to sleep, I usually can't. The dilemma for me is that I have reflux and can't lie down after eating either. I founf that when I wander around looking for something to eat, or grazing, I ask myself " Am I hungry? " If the answer is " no " , then I try to sit with the feelings for a while and see if I can discover what it is I am really hungry for(maybe love, exercise, a nice warm bath/shower, phone call to a friend/daughter, etc.) Maybe I need to journal about it, or paint a picture, or any kind of " play " . One time I just needed to take a nap. Also it was important for me to remind myself that it took me over 60 years to get where I am, I'm not going to change it overnight. This is a journey. Each ones journey is different. To be gentle with myself, no judgement, just observation. I also wonder if all you hormones are still off normal since the baby. Goodness you only had the baby 4 months ago. Sounds like you might still have some legalizing foods that you labelled as JUNK food. Be kind to yourself. You have a lot " on your plate " with 4 children ages 6 and under and a newborn. Bless you. I had 3 kids in less than 3 years and that was hard enough. Hang in there and keep posting. I care. We all care. Sandy

Hi everyone! I'm a newbie to this group, but not to IE. I started my journey in May 2010, when I discovered Bethenny el " s Naturally Thin. In which she says eat ehat you want... but then there's a whole bunch of rules. Then I discovered Geneen Roth's books, and LOVED them, but it was difficlut for me to apply her ideas to my actual life. Then I read May's " eat what you love " and that was great! Then I found Intuitive Eating and I am totally hooked! I have conventionally dieted for about 15 years, on and off. Major yoyo ing, but mostly just inching up in pounds. I have 4 children ages 6 and under, and gained lots by each pregnancy because I was allowed to eat finally! Then, each time i gave birth and ran to a nutritionist who gave new rules, I measured, I wrote everything down... except when I would binge, once or twice a week, eating my WHOLE pantry, pies of pizza, bars of choc.. you know.. ANyway here I am 4 months postpartum, bigger THAN EVER, and trying so hard to eat mindfully. YET: i still binge at night. most nights. I do not know why. I eat what I want every day. sit down. concentrate. eat what i really want. stop at 5 or 6. So why after dinner do i feel like i need to be STUFFEd... and with JUNK food? At night I feel a magnet drawing me to the kitchen, forcing me to indulge and treat myself, and feel that FULL number 8 or 9 feeling. WHY WHY WHY??????? I have absolutely no clue. And therefore have stayed the same weight since my baby was born in Septmeber. (I try not to weighy myself but do once a month about). Anyways any suggestions would be great! thanks

January 11, 2012

Simegafeiger...Sorry it took me so long to reply. I often have this same issue either late afternoon or at night. One thing I learned from Gillian was that around 4 pm the body needs some energy, probably complex carbs and protein mix is best. It is a normal cycle of the body/mind. At night there can often be several things going on for me. First and foremost is boredom or loneliness or some other issue I don't want to deal with. The second is I might just be hungry(depending on how late I stay up). Now I know diet mentality rules say to not eat after 6 or 7pm, but sometimes I am up until 2 am. So that " rule " doesn't work anyway. IE says eat when you are hungry and if I am hungry and try to go to sleep, I usually can't. The dilemma for me is that I have reflux and can't lie down after eating either. I founf that when I wander around looking for something to eat, or grazing, I ask myself " Am I hungry? " If the answer is " no " , then I try to sit with the feelings for a while and see if I can discover what it is I am really hungry for(maybe love, exercise, a nice warm bath/shower, phone call to a friend/daughter, etc.) Maybe I need to journal about it, or paint a picture, or any kind of " play " . One time I just needed to take a nap. Also it was important for me to remind myself that it took me over 60 years to get where I am, I'm not going to change it overnight. This is a journey. Each ones journey is different. To be gentle with myself, no judgement, just observation. I also wonder if all you hormones are still off normal since the baby. Goodness you only had the baby 4 months ago. Sounds like you might still have some legalizing foods that you labelled as JUNK food. Be kind to yourself. You have a lot " on your plate " with 4 children ages 6 and under and a newborn. Bless you. I had 3 kids in less than 3 years and that was hard enough. Hang in there and keep posting. I care. We all care. Sandy

Hi everyone! I'm a newbie to this group, but not to IE. I started my journey in May 2010, when I discovered Bethenny el " s Naturally Thin. In which she says eat ehat you want... but then there's a whole bunch of rules. Then I discovered Geneen Roth's books, and LOVED them, but it was difficlut for me to apply her ideas to my actual life. Then I read May's " eat what you love " and that was great! Then I found Intuitive Eating and I am totally hooked! I have conventionally dieted for about 15 years, on and off. Major yoyo ing, but mostly just inching up in pounds. I have 4 children ages 6 and under, and gained lots by each pregnancy because I was allowed to eat finally! Then, each time i gave birth and ran to a nutritionist who gave new rules, I measured, I wrote everything down... except when I would binge, once or twice a week, eating my WHOLE pantry, pies of pizza, bars of choc.. you know.. ANyway here I am 4 months postpartum, bigger THAN EVER, and trying so hard to eat mindfully. YET: i still binge at night. most nights. I do not know why. I eat what I want every day. sit down. concentrate. eat what i really want. stop at 5 or 6. So why after dinner do i feel like i need to be STUFFEd... and with JUNK food? At night I feel a magnet drawing me to the kitchen, forcing me to indulge and treat myself, and feel that FULL number 8 or 9 feeling. WHY WHY WHY??????? I have absolutely no clue. And therefore have stayed the same weight since my baby was born in Septmeber. (I try not to weighy myself but do once a month about). Anyways any suggestions would be great! thanks

January 12, 2012

You sound so very frustrated. You say you have 4 children under the age of 6. In

addition to the restriction/binge cycle, do you think any of your eating could

be stress-related? When my oldest was 2 1/2, I had twins. I also returned to

teaching first grade when my twins were 2 1/2 months old. I clearly recall

gettin up in the middle of the night to feed them, and eating to wake myself up.

I kept bags of m & ms hidden around the house to give me quick energy. I did not

need food. I needed a break from children and some sleep. It might help to think

about what it is you really need when you feel that urge to eat and your are not

hungry. You might have to do some problem-solving to figure out how to give that

to yourself. Sometimes I learn more when I start writing it out than just

thinking about what I need.

Sara

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> Hi everyone! I'm a newbie to this group, but not to IE. I started my journey

in May 2010, when I discovered Bethenny el " s Naturally Thin. In which she

says eat ehat you want... but then there's a whole bunch of rules. Then I

discovered Geneen Roth's books, and LOVED them, but it was difficlut for me to

apply her ideas to my actual life. Then I read May's " eat what you

love " and that was great! Then I found Intuitive Eating and I am totally hooked!

I have conventionally dieted for about 15 years, on and off. Major yoyo ing, but

mostly just inching up in pounds. I have 4 children ages 6 and under, and gained

lots by each pregnancy because I was allowed to eat finally! Then, each time i

gave birth and ran to a nutritionist who gave new rules, I measured, I wrote