Guest guest Posted December 13, 2010 Report Share Posted December 13, 2010 My therapist most recently recommended that I cut down on the number of calls to my nada which I have implemented over the last few months. My mother had mentioned the possibility of a (too)-lengthy visit this coming summer and in light of past visits from hell and some resurfacing childhood memories, I was in near panic-mode. In my session, I happened to mention to my T that my mom, most often a queen/witch combo (with cheese) is now exhibiting hermit qualities. In order to put some space between me and Mayor McCheese in the event of a visit and to test my theory that she is becoming a hermit, my T suggested suggested fewer calls, that I wait on my mother to call me between my calls to her, especially if she said she would call, and that I, in general, share less of the details of my life with her. Surprisingly, at least to me, my mother does not seem bothered by any of this. I call her every 7-10 days, unless she has said she would call me - and then I don't - and the last time she said she'd call, it was like, two weeks before she actually did. And, when I do call, she often sounds bored or preoccupied. I don't tell her any of the juicy details. Often, she ends the conversation within minutes of my call. But really, there has been no fall-out of any kind. Nothing. Zip, zilch, nada. I am not upset about this, and I know that many on here may now green with envy - so I am not complaining, lest anyone call me ungrateful. I have just reached a point of detachment with both my parents where their behavior, for the most part, bothers me about as much as if an aquaintance did the same things. This was hard-won, believe me, but it is handy. So, this post isn't about sympathy/empathy/comfort. This post is Sid the Science Kid wondering if anyone else has experienced something similar? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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