Has Growing Up with BPB Ruined Your Romantic Relationships?

[Guest guest]

I have discovered that no matter how hard I try, I only find nada in potential

mates or my alcoholic father. I go in with the best intent, have worked for

years in therapy but the only men that approach me are unhealthy ones. I'm now

very quick to dismiss them but am rather frustrated that it seems the only men

interested in me are BPD, NPD or alcoholics. I'm sick of it frankly so have

decided I will not date and just remain alone until the universe sees fit to

send me someone worthy.

Just curious, has this frustrated you too? Have you had bouts of seeming to be

a magnet for certain types of unhealthy partners? LOL

I laugh about it now. I realize my own hand in my own undoing so completely

stopped any kind of enabling or co-dependent behavior. That's all me and my

stuff and I've fixed it... I have recovered. But even though I'm attractive,

successful and a really great catch, the only ones I meet that are interested

have something so wrong with them that I just cannot even consider a

relationship with them. We're not talking about stuff that should be

compromised on...were talking about the pathological liars, cheaters,

emotionally stunted types. UGH! I have decided to focus only on me, my

continued recovery and healing. I kept thinking, wow, really? This is all I

get? So much for the dream of having a normal suburban life. The only thing I

ever really wanted. I just refuse to have it with sociopathic, pathological,

personality disordered or addicted partners. Hopefully, maybe one day, someone

out there like me will cross my path but for now, forget it. The concept of

dating makes me sick. Why bother! LOL

I'm just curious if others have dealt with this and were you able to change it.

Was the change purpose or did the universe finally send you an angel? I'm

looking for hope because I've thrown in the towel.

Blessings to all.