Re: A quick hello

[Guest guest]

You're doing well. Keep it up. I relate with your situation. I find it helpful

to honor my mother in my heart (even though every fiber in my being is saying

otherwise). Being aware of why she behaves that way is helping me become more

compassionate towards her.

Enjoy life with your family and remember you are not alone.

Merry Christmas.

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> I've been keeping lots of plates in the air and have barely been breathing,

let alone participating here.

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> Visited nada and dd today, was waiting for one of them to make an accusation

or pour out the guilt. Nada barely made eye contact, but managed to talk over me

every chance she got. I heard how busy, important and exciting their life is

(they are homebodies). They saw my kids, we exchanged pleasantries. She wants to

spend the holiday " quietly at home. " No problem, I don't want her insanity and

play pretend at my house. I have fulfilled my obligation.

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> It hurts that it has to be like this, but I just cannot be her handmaid any

more.

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> My sister visited her this week, too. When she got back to her house she

sobbed from the stress of the day, the continual bitching and bitterness. Yet my

mother today insisted they had a wonderful, enjoyable day (i.e., 'she and I have

FUN together, what's wrong with you?').

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> She's estranged from her only sister, who extended another olive branch this

week ( " please can't we just make peace for the time we have left? " ), to which my

mother's reply was " I don't understand what you mean. "

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> In short, my nada is a bitter, hateful, lonely woman who insists she has a

full, rich life and pity the poor fool that questions her stories.

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> I feel very sorry for her, and alternately she scares me to death and I'm glad

to be rid of her constant negativity.

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