Re: Making Unhealthy Choices

[Guest guest]

Eden, I have found that trust in one's self to be a major issue to resolve an IE

journey. Dieting is so 'don't trust' based and it has warped our ability to know

and be able to utilize our own feedback (pun intended). As we show ourselves the

respect we deserve and prove to our innermost being that we 'hear' and honor

that precious resource, trust rebuilds and returns to functioning for us.

It sound to me like you are doing a good job of going along your own IE trail.

'Treating' your well is a good start and in time your inner self will let you

know its had enough of all those yummy things you have been missing. Being

gentle and not overwhelming of yourself seems to get you further than trying 'so

hard' :-)

BEST wishes to you - Katcha

IEing since March 2007

>

> Hi everyone! Thanks for all your posts. They are at once revealing,

heartening, informative and inspiring. This journey can feel really " loose "

compared to dieting and I think it helps immensely to have some extra guidance.

>

> I have been living IE for 2 months. I am finding that I still want primarily

" treat " foods like queso, cookies, pasta, baked potatoes, etc. There have been

a few times that I have gravitated towards healthy foods but I still seem to be

greedily choosing foods which I feel I deserve to eat. Is this normal after a

lifetime of dieting? Should I just enjoy/indulge this part of the journey until

I feel more relaxed and less grasping about food? I am doing okay at not

guilting myself but I feel an intense need to control my behavior.

>

> I was put on a medical diet at the age of 9. I was not obese and was barely

overweight. I was taught early that I could not be trusted around food. I am

now 100 pounds overweight. Do you have any advice to increase feelings of trust

and self-confidence?

>

> Eden

>

[Guest guest]

Eden, I have found that trust in one's self to be a major issue to resolve an IE

journey. Dieting is so 'don't trust' based and it has warped our ability to know

and be able to utilize our own feedback (pun intended). As we show ourselves the

respect we deserve and prove to our innermost being that we 'hear' and honor

that precious resource, trust rebuilds and returns to functioning for us.

It sound to me like you are doing a good job of going along your own IE trail.

'Treating' your well is a good start and in time your inner self will let you

know its had enough of all those yummy things you have been missing. Being

gentle and not overwhelming of yourself seems to get you further than trying 'so

hard' :-)

BEST wishes to you - Katcha

IEing since March 2007

>

> Hi everyone! Thanks for all your posts. They are at once revealing,

heartening, informative and inspiring. This journey can feel really " loose "

compared to dieting and I think it helps immensely to have some extra guidance.

>

> I have been living IE for 2 months. I am finding that I still want primarily

" treat " foods like queso, cookies, pasta, baked potatoes, etc. There have been

a few times that I have gravitated towards healthy foods but I still seem to be

greedily choosing foods which I feel I deserve to eat. Is this normal after a

lifetime of dieting? Should I just enjoy/indulge this part of the journey until

I feel more relaxed and less grasping about food? I am doing okay at not

guilting myself but I feel an intense need to control my behavior.

>

> I was put on a medical diet at the age of 9. I was not obese and was barely

overweight. I was taught early that I could not be trusted around food. I am

now 100 pounds overweight. Do you have any advice to increase feelings of trust

and self-confidence?

>

> Eden

>

[Guest guest]

Eden, I have found that trust in one's self to be a major issue to resolve an IE

journey. Dieting is so 'don't trust' based and it has warped our ability to know

and be able to utilize our own feedback (pun intended). As we show ourselves the

respect we deserve and prove to our innermost being that we 'hear' and honor

that precious resource, trust rebuilds and returns to functioning for us.

It sound to me like you are doing a good job of going along your own IE trail.

'Treating' your well is a good start and in time your inner self will let you

know its had enough of all those yummy things you have been missing. Being

gentle and not overwhelming of yourself seems to get you further than trying 'so

hard' :-)

BEST wishes to you - Katcha

IEing since March 2007

>

> Hi everyone! Thanks for all your posts. They are at once revealing,

heartening, informative and inspiring. This journey can feel really " loose "

compared to dieting and I think it helps immensely to have some extra guidance.

>

> I have been living IE for 2 months. I am finding that I still want primarily

" treat " foods like queso, cookies, pasta, baked potatoes, etc. There have been

a few times that I have gravitated towards healthy foods but I still seem to be

greedily choosing foods which I feel I deserve to eat. Is this normal after a

lifetime of dieting? Should I just enjoy/indulge this part of the journey until

I feel more relaxed and less grasping about food? I am doing okay at not

guilting myself but I feel an intense need to control my behavior.

>

> I was put on a medical diet at the age of 9. I was not obese and was barely

overweight. I was taught early that I could not be trusted around food. I am

now 100 pounds overweight. Do you have any advice to increase feelings of trust

and self-confidence?

>

> Eden

>

[Guest guest]

Welcome, Eden. Your reaction to treat foods is very normal and expected. When you have been forbidding foods and dieting for so long, you will naturally gravitate toward what are considered "unhealthy," "junk," or "treat" foods. Allowing yourself these foods helps you to break away from the restrictive/diet cycle. And yes, the need to control your consumption can be very strong. The important thing is to be gentle with yourself during these first tentative steps and to experiment with how various foods make you feel without judgment. As we have been talking about these past few days, eventually the strong pull for play foods will subside.

Personally, I feel that foods like baked potatoes are perfectly healthy options (not empty calories, full of vitamins, etc.), but the important thing about IE is that you are the one in charge. Good luck!

Mimi

Subject: Making Unhealthy ChoicesTo: IntuitiveEating_Support Date: Thursday, January 12, 2012, 9:38 AM

Hi everyone! Thanks for all your posts. They are at once revealing, heartening, informative and inspiring. This journey can feel really "loose" compared to dieting and I think it helps immensely to have some extra guidance.I have been living IE for 2 months. I am finding that I still want primarily "treat" foods like queso, cookies, pasta, baked potatoes, etc. There have been a few times that I have gravitated towards healthy foods but I still seem to be greedily choosing foods which I feel I deserve to eat. Is this normal after a lifetime of dieting? Should I just enjoy/indulge this part of the journey until I feel more relaxed and less grasping about food? I am doing okay at not guilting myself but I feel an intense need to control my behavior.I was put on a medical diet at the age of 9. I was not obese and was barely overweight. I was taught early that I could not be trusted around food. I am now 100 pounds overweight. Do you have

any advice to increase feelings of trust and self-confidence?Eden

[Guest guest]

It's totally normal (after the initial blush of eating while hungry/stopping

when full) to start eating everything that's ever been illegal or restricted.

It's sort of like a long free-fall into one's worst fears of not being on a diet

- and it feels very out of control.

I can tell I'm nearing the end of my free-fall and can feel the desire to EAT

ebbing. The diet rebel in me reminds me of an animal who's been caged and if

not beaten, certainly cajoled, teased and emotionally punished until it's half

wild. It's really sad if you think of it, to carry that much trauma caused by

" I want to look better than I think I do so therefore you don't get what you

want " .

I use a lot of observing, working to reframe negative self talk, trying to catch

and intervene with harsh judgments. I also have allowed the diet rebel to have

her way especially when the urge is so strong I feel like I'd block tackle a

refridgerator if I don't get what I want at the moment.

In my mind, there's no point in fighting those urges because the fight is what

brought the diet rebel to life in the first place. Time to learn a new tact.

Oh, I'm learning to be gentle with myself. Initially I was shocked at how much

fear I had around eataing and around not getting what I wanted, when I wanted

it. The diet rebel emotions are very primal and only retreat with patience and

time.

I'm sure it takes a different amount of time for each of us - and there will

always be ups and downs and more chances to practice and learn new self skills.

Skills are things we do other than eating to deal with everything. Other people

learn self skills early in life, some of us missed that class and resort to the

fork (or the package) for every stress, loss, gain or life challenge. IE

requires learning new skill sets and often finding them within ourselves.

It does get better and it is a weird learning curve initially; but I think it's

making me a much better, smarter, more grounded person. Totally.

Sandarah

>

> Hi everyone! Thanks for all your posts. They are at once revealing,

heartening, informative and inspiring. This journey can feel really " loose "

compared to dieting and I think it helps immensely to have some extra guidance.

>

> I have been living IE for 2 months. I am finding that I still want primarily

" treat " foods like queso, cookies, pasta, baked potatoes, etc. There have been

a few times that I have gravitated towards healthy foods but I still seem to be

greedily choosing foods which I feel I deserve to eat. Is this normal after a

lifetime of dieting? Should I just enjoy/indulge this part of the journey until

I feel more relaxed and less grasping about food? I am doing okay at not

guilting myself but I feel an intense need to control my behavior.

>

> I was put on a medical diet at the age of 9. I was not obese and was barely

overweight. I was taught early that I could not be trusted around food. I am

now 100 pounds overweight. Do you have any advice to increase feelings of trust

and self-confidence?

>

> Eden

>

[Guest guest]

It's totally normal (after the initial blush of eating while hungry/stopping

when full) to start eating everything that's ever been illegal or restricted.

It's sort of like a long free-fall into one's worst fears of not being on a diet

- and it feels very out of control.

I can tell I'm nearing the end of my free-fall and can feel the desire to EAT

ebbing. The diet rebel in me reminds me of an animal who's been caged and if

not beaten, certainly cajoled, teased and emotionally punished until it's half

wild. It's really sad if you think of it, to carry that much trauma caused by

" I want to look better than I think I do so therefore you don't get what you

want " .

I use a lot of observing, working to reframe negative self talk, trying to catch

and intervene with harsh judgments. I also have allowed the diet rebel to have

her way especially when the urge is so strong I feel like I'd block tackle a

refridgerator if I don't get what I want at the moment.

In my mind, there's no point in fighting those urges because the fight is what

brought the diet rebel to life in the first place. Time to learn a new tact.

Oh, I'm learning to be gentle with myself. Initially I was shocked at how much

fear I had around eataing and around not getting what I wanted, when I wanted

it. The diet rebel emotions are very primal and only retreat with patience and

time.

I'm sure it takes a different amount of time for each of us - and there will

always be ups and downs and more chances to practice and learn new self skills.

Skills are things we do other than eating to deal with everything. Other people

learn self skills early in life, some of us missed that class and resort to the

fork (or the package) for every stress, loss, gain or life challenge. IE

requires learning new skill sets and often finding them within ourselves.

It does get better and it is a weird learning curve initially; but I think it's

making me a much better, smarter, more grounded person. Totally.

Sandarah

>

> Hi everyone! Thanks for all your posts. They are at once revealing,

heartening, informative and inspiring. This journey can feel really " loose "

compared to dieting and I think it helps immensely to have some extra guidance.

>

> I have been living IE for 2 months. I am finding that I still want primarily

" treat " foods like queso, cookies, pasta, baked potatoes, etc. There have been

a few times that I have gravitated towards healthy foods but I still seem to be

greedily choosing foods which I feel I deserve to eat. Is this normal after a

lifetime of dieting? Should I just enjoy/indulge this part of the journey until

I feel more relaxed and less grasping about food? I am doing okay at not

guilting myself but I feel an intense need to control my behavior.

>

> I was put on a medical diet at the age of 9. I was not obese and was barely

overweight. I was taught early that I could not be trusted around food. I am

now 100 pounds overweight. Do you have any advice to increase feelings of trust

and self-confidence?

>

> Eden

>

[Guest guest]

It's totally normal (after the initial blush of eating while hungry/stopping

when full) to start eating everything that's ever been illegal or restricted.

It's sort of like a long free-fall into one's worst fears of not being on a diet

- and it feels very out of control.

I can tell I'm nearing the end of my free-fall and can feel the desire to EAT

ebbing. The diet rebel in me reminds me of an animal who's been caged and if

not beaten, certainly cajoled, teased and emotionally punished until it's half

wild. It's really sad if you think of it, to carry that much trauma caused by

" I want to look better than I think I do so therefore you don't get what you

want " .

I use a lot of observing, working to reframe negative self talk, trying to catch

and intervene with harsh judgments. I also have allowed the diet rebel to have

her way especially when the urge is so strong I feel like I'd block tackle a

refridgerator if I don't get what I want at the moment.

In my mind, there's no point in fighting those urges because the fight is what

brought the diet rebel to life in the first place. Time to learn a new tact.

Oh, I'm learning to be gentle with myself. Initially I was shocked at how much

fear I had around eataing and around not getting what I wanted, when I wanted

it. The diet rebel emotions are very primal and only retreat with patience and

time.

I'm sure it takes a different amount of time for each of us - and there will

always be ups and downs and more chances to practice and learn new self skills.

Skills are things we do other than eating to deal with everything. Other people

learn self skills early in life, some of us missed that class and resort to the

fork (or the package) for every stress, loss, gain or life challenge. IE

requires learning new skill sets and often finding them within ourselves.

It does get better and it is a weird learning curve initially; but I think it's

making me a much better, smarter, more grounded person. Totally.

Sandarah

>

> Hi everyone! Thanks for all your posts. They are at once revealing,

heartening, informative and inspiring. This journey can feel really " loose "

compared to dieting and I think it helps immensely to have some extra guidance.

>

> I have been living IE for 2 months. I am finding that I still want primarily

" treat " foods like queso, cookies, pasta, baked potatoes, etc. There have been

a few times that I have gravitated towards healthy foods but I still seem to be

greedily choosing foods which I feel I deserve to eat. Is this normal after a

lifetime of dieting? Should I just enjoy/indulge this part of the journey until

I feel more relaxed and less grasping about food? I am doing okay at not

guilting myself but I feel an intense need to control my behavior.

>

> I was put on a medical diet at the age of 9. I was not obese and was barely

overweight. I was taught early that I could not be trusted around food. I am

now 100 pounds overweight. Do you have any advice to increase feelings of trust

and self-confidence?

>

> Eden

>

[Guest guest]

Eden,

Congratulations on hanging in there for 2 months...it is so worth it. After a

lifetime of being on diets that tell you what to eat when, it is extremely scary

to try to listen to your body.

I, too, was extremely afraid to do that, afraid that I'd gain weight. As I said

in another post, I saw a nutritionist, who told me what amounts of protein,

carbs, and fats I'd need a day. (This was not her demanding me to do this, I

asked her for the info, and G Roth says in one of her CDs that some people do

need the structure.) The nutritionish helped me to understand how a balance of

these nutrients at each meal would keep me satisfied the longest (3-4 hours

because of how each is absorbed by the body). I divided those numbers by 4, and

ate approximateley that amount at each meal, as best I could. If I was not

craving something specific, I ate whatever I felt like eating within those

categories. A small McD's milkshake fit the guidelines of what would keep me

satisfied. There were days when I had one every day, and days when I had one for

2 different meals. If I really, truly craved some total junk food, like candy or

cookies, I had it. I eat a ton of soup along with whatever I want for the

nutrition and helps to keep me full. I make my own. I had to go through a slight

withdrawal at the end of each meal, which I think was emotional, but once I did,

I truly was satisfied for several hours.

Now, I feel much, much better about just eating according to my hunger without a

lot of thought, though I am still aware of eating a combo of nutrients. I

personally have needed some loose guidelines. Take what you like and leave the

rest!

Sara

IntuitiveEating_Support , " edenhinshaw@... "

wrote:

>

> Hi everyone! Thanks for all your posts. They are at once revealing,

heartening, informative and inspiring. This journey can feel really " loose "

compared to dieting and I think it helps immensely to have some extra guidance.

>

> I have been living IE for 2 months. I am finding that I still want primarily

" treat " foods like queso, cookies, pasta, baked potatoes, etc. There have been

a few times that I have gravitated towards healthy foods but I still seem to be

greedily choosing foods which I feel I deserve to eat. Is this normal after a

lifetime of dieting? Should I just enjoy/indulge this part of the journey until

I feel more relaxed and less grasping about food? I am doing okay at not

guilting myself but I feel an intense need to control my behavior.

>

> I was put on a medical diet at the age of 9. I was not obese and was barely

overweight. I was taught early that I could not be trusted around food. I am

now 100 pounds overweight. Do you have any advice to increase feelings of trust

and self-confidence?

>

> Eden

>

[Guest guest]

Eden,What helps me is to remember when I have been successful in my life. What have I accomplished that I am proud of. For example, I went back to college at age 50 for a a 3 year technology course. I consistently achieved grades 90% and over. I was on the honor roll and made the dean's list in my last semester. (the only reason I only made it once was that to be on it you need to be taking the full course load for your program, something I only did in my final session. I have some friends that went to China to adopt a baby. For years the husband hated where he was working, was trying to quit smoking, and generally was unhappy with his life (except for his family life which was good). When he came back, he quit

smoking, applied for and got a transfer, accepted it right away (he received the call on April 1st, much earlier that he would have believed, only 4 months after applying), accepted the post which required moving from Montreal to London, Ontario), bought a house,........etc. etc. He would tell us, "If I can go to China to have a baby, I can do anything."So what are you proud of? It can be big or small. Carole From: "edenhinshaw@..."

To: IntuitiveEating_Support Sent: Thursday, January 12, 2012 9:38:37 AM Subject: Making Unhealthy Choices I was put on a medical diet at the age of 9. I was not obese and was barely overweight. I was taught early that I could not be trusted around food. I am now 100 pounds overweight. Do you have any advice to increase feelings of trust and self-confidence?Eden------------------------------------

[Guest guest]

, thanks for reminding me.  When I was 50(I'm 67 now) I went sky diving(tandem with the instructor) and even went back to do it a second time.  Was really $ for me at the time though so I didn't keep doing it.  Last year I went for a hot air balloon ride and may go again this year.  It is also $ but they are now having a yearly festival in my area. After 25+ years working as a physical therapist and raising 4 children, I too went back to school at 50 and finally got my Master's degree with a 4.0 average.  Was unable to pursue a new career due to health issues but did work part time.  Now I need to go over all my successes with IE.  I tend to focus on the failures and forget about the positives.  Thanks again for the reminder. Sandy

 

Eden,What helps me is to remember when I have been successful in my life. What have I accomplished that I am proud of. For example, I went back to college at age 50 for a a 3 year technology course. I consistently achieved grades 90% and over. I was on the honor roll and made the dean's list in my last semester. (the only reason I only made it once was that to be on it you need to be taking the full course load for your program, something I only did in my final session.

I have some friends that went to China to adopt a baby. For years the husband hated where he was working, was trying to quit smoking, and generally was unhappy with his life (except for his family life which was good). When he came back, he quit

smoking, applied for and got a transfer, accepted it right away (he received the call on April 1st, much earlier that he would have believed, only 4 months after applying), accepted the post which required moving from Montreal to London, Ontario), bought a house,........etc. etc. He would tell us, " If I can go to China to have a baby, I can do anything. "

So what are you proud of? It can be big or small. Carole

From: " edenhinshaw@... "

To: IntuitiveEating_Support

Sent: Thursday, January 12, 2012 9:38:37 AM Subject: Making Unhealthy Choices

I was put on a medical diet at the age of 9.  I was not obese and was barely overweight.  I was taught early that I could not be trusted around food.  I am now 100 pounds overweight. Do you have any advice to increase feelings of trust and self-confidence?

Eden------------------------------------

[Guest guest]

, thanks for reminding me.  When I was 50(I'm 67 now) I went sky diving(tandem with the instructor) and even went back to do it a second time.  Was really $ for me at the time though so I didn't keep doing it.  Last year I went for a hot air balloon ride and may go again this year.  It is also $ but they are now having a yearly festival in my area. After 25+ years working as a physical therapist and raising 4 children, I too went back to school at 50 and finally got my Master's degree with a 4.0 average.  Was unable to pursue a new career due to health issues but did work part time.  Now I need to go over all my successes with IE.  I tend to focus on the failures and forget about the positives.  Thanks again for the reminder. Sandy

 

Eden,What helps me is to remember when I have been successful in my life. What have I accomplished that I am proud of. For example, I went back to college at age 50 for a a 3 year technology course. I consistently achieved grades 90% and over. I was on the honor roll and made the dean's list in my last semester. (the only reason I only made it once was that to be on it you need to be taking the full course load for your program, something I only did in my final session.

I have some friends that went to China to adopt a baby. For years the husband hated where he was working, was trying to quit smoking, and generally was unhappy with his life (except for his family life which was good). When he came back, he quit

smoking, applied for and got a transfer, accepted it right away (he received the call on April 1st, much earlier that he would have believed, only 4 months after applying), accepted the post which required moving from Montreal to London, Ontario), bought a house,........etc. etc. He would tell us, " If I can go to China to have a baby, I can do anything. "

So what are you proud of? It can be big or small. Carole

From: " edenhinshaw@... "

To: IntuitiveEating_Support

Sent: Thursday, January 12, 2012 9:38:37 AM Subject: Making Unhealthy Choices

I was put on a medical diet at the age of 9.  I was not obese and was barely overweight.  I was taught early that I could not be trusted around food.  I am now 100 pounds overweight. Do you have any advice to increase feelings of trust and self-confidence?

Eden------------------------------------

[Guest guest]

That's a good point, Carole. It is a simple yet powerful thing to turn the

focus from what you consistently CAN'T do to what you can, and have, done.

I have done many things of which I am proud: started my own successful business,

maintained a fulfilling marriage, learned to paint, started learning to speak

Italian, made travel a priority, became a very capable cook and maintained my

vegetarian diet for 25 years!

Thank you for that gift this morning!

>

> Eden,

>

> What helps me is to remember when I have been successful in my life. What have

I accomplished that I am proud of. For example, I went back to college at age 50

for a a 3 year technology course. I consistently achieved grades 90% and over. I

was on the honor roll and made the dean's list in my last semester. (the only

reason I only made it once was that to be on it you need to be taking the full

course load for your program, something I only did in my final session.

>

>

> I have some friends that went to China to adopt a baby. For years the husband

hated where he was working, was trying to quit smoking, and generally was

unhappy with his life (except for his family life which was good). When he came

back, he quit smoking, applied for and got a transfer, accepted it right away

(he received the call on April 1st, much earlier that he would have believed,

only 4 months after applying), accepted the post which required moving from

Montreal to London, Ontario), bought a house,........etc. etc. He would tell us,

" If I can go to China to have a baby, I can do anything. "

>

> So what are you proud of? It can be big or small.

>

> Carole

>

>

>

>

> >________________________________

> >

> >To: IntuitiveEating_Support

> >Sent: Thursday, January 12, 2012 9:38:37 AM

> >Subject: Making Unhealthy Choices

> >

> >

> >I was put on a medical diet at the age of 9.  I was not obese and was barely

overweight.  I was taught early that I could not be trusted around food.  I am

now 100 pounds overweight. Do you have any advice to increase feelings of trust

and self-confidence?

> >

> >Eden

> >

> >

> >

> >------------------------------------

> >

> >

[Guest guest]

Thank you both for sharing what you have done.  We are an amazing group.  Sandy

 

That's a good point, Carole. It is a simple yet powerful thing to turn the focus from what you consistently CAN'T do to what you can, and have, done.

I have done many things of which I am proud: started my own successful business, maintained a fulfilling marriage, learned to paint, started learning to speak Italian, made travel a priority, became a very capable cook and maintained my vegetarian diet for 25 years!

Thank you for that gift this morning!

>

> Eden,

>

> What helps me is to remember when I have been successful in my life. What have I accomplished that I am proud of. For example, I went back to college at age 50 for a a 3 year technology course. I consistently achieved grades 90% and over. I was on the honor roll and made the dean's list in my last semester. (the only reason I only made it once was that to be on it you need to be taking the full course load for your program, something I only did in my final session.

>

>

> I have some friends that went to China to adopt a baby. For years the husband hated where he was working, was trying to quit smoking, and generally was unhappy with his life (except for his family life which was good). When he came back, he quit smoking, applied for and got a transfer, accepted it right away (he received the call on April 1st, much earlier that he would have believed, only 4 months after applying), accepted the post which required moving from Montreal to London, Ontario), bought a house,........etc. etc. He would tell us, " If I can go to China to have a baby, I can do anything. "

>

> So what are you proud of? It can be big or small.

>

> Carole

>

>

>

>

> >________________________________

> >

> >To: IntuitiveEating_Support

> >Sent: Thursday, January 12, 2012 9:38:37 AM

> >Subject: Making Unhealthy Choices

> >

> >

> >I was put on a medical diet at the age of 9.  I was not obese and was barely overweight.  I was taught early that I could not be trusted around food.  I am now 100 pounds overweight. Do you have any advice to increase feelings of trust and self-confidence?

> >

> >Eden

> >

> >

> >

> >------------------------------------

> >

> >

[Guest guest]

Thank you both for sharing what you have done.  We are an amazing group.  Sandy

 

That's a good point, Carole. It is a simple yet powerful thing to turn the focus from what you consistently CAN'T do to what you can, and have, done.

I have done many things of which I am proud: started my own successful business, maintained a fulfilling marriage, learned to paint, started learning to speak Italian, made travel a priority, became a very capable cook and maintained my vegetarian diet for 25 years!

Thank you for that gift this morning!

>

> Eden,

>

> What helps me is to remember when I have been successful in my life. What have I accomplished that I am proud of. For example, I went back to college at age 50 for a a 3 year technology course. I consistently achieved grades 90% and over. I was on the honor roll and made the dean's list in my last semester. (the only reason I only made it once was that to be on it you need to be taking the full course load for your program, something I only did in my final session.

>

>

> I have some friends that went to China to adopt a baby. For years the husband hated where he was working, was trying to quit smoking, and generally was unhappy with his life (except for his family life which was good). When he came back, he quit smoking, applied for and got a transfer, accepted it right away (he received the call on April 1st, much earlier that he would have believed, only 4 months after applying), accepted the post which required moving from Montreal to London, Ontario), bought a house,........etc. etc. He would tell us, " If I can go to China to have a baby, I can do anything. "

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> So what are you proud of? It can be big or small.

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> Carole

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> >To: IntuitiveEating_Support

> >Sent: Thursday, January 12, 2012 9:38:37 AM

> >Subject: Making Unhealthy Choices

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> >I was put on a medical diet at the age of 9.  I was not obese and was barely overweight.  I was taught early that I could not be trusted around food.  I am now 100 pounds overweight. Do you have any advice to increase feelings of trust and self-confidence?

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> >Eden

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[Guest guest]

Thank you both for sharing what you have done.  We are an amazing group.  Sandy

 

That's a good point, Carole. It is a simple yet powerful thing to turn the focus from what you consistently CAN'T do to what you can, and have, done.

I have done many things of which I am proud: started my own successful business, maintained a fulfilling marriage, learned to paint, started learning to speak Italian, made travel a priority, became a very capable cook and maintained my vegetarian diet for 25 years!

Thank you for that gift this morning!

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> Eden,

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> What helps me is to remember when I have been successful in my life. What have I accomplished that I am proud of. For example, I went back to college at age 50 for a a 3 year technology course. I consistently achieved grades 90% and over. I was on the honor roll and made the dean's list in my last semester. (the only reason I only made it once was that to be on it you need to be taking the full course load for your program, something I only did in my final session.

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> I have some friends that went to China to adopt a baby. For years the husband hated where he was working, was trying to quit smoking, and generally was unhappy with his life (except for his family life which was good). When he came back, he quit smoking, applied for and got a transfer, accepted it right away (he received the call on April 1st, much earlier that he would have believed, only 4 months after applying), accepted the post which required moving from Montreal to London, Ontario), bought a house,........etc. etc. He would tell us, " If I can go to China to have a baby, I can do anything. "

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> So what are you proud of? It can be big or small.

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> Carole

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>

> >________________________________

> >

> >To: IntuitiveEating_Support

> >Sent: Thursday, January 12, 2012 9:38:37 AM

> >Subject: Making Unhealthy Choices

> >

> >

> >I was put on a medical diet at the age of 9.  I was not obese and was barely overweight.  I was taught early that I could not be trusted around food.  I am now 100 pounds overweight. Do you have any advice to increase feelings of trust and self-confidence?

> >

> >Eden

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