Guest guest Posted January 17, 2012 Report Share Posted January 17, 2012 I think you are right, Sara. I think undereating leads to overeating. I did that today. Didn't eat enough all day and then pulled out all the stops in the evening, went the path of most calories in shortest time. OK, people..... let's keep ourselves fed! Ellie > > To me, this sounds like you were simply extremely hungry. My nutritionist told me that if a person gets to this level of hunger, it's physically impossible not to overeat. > > > > > A similar thing happened to me yesterday but I know why. I ran out the door in the morning and only took a banana and water. I didn't eat lunch until after noon and then only soup and salad which I know was only about 300 calories. When I got home I just could not get full. So I ate and ate. > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 17, 2012 Report Share Posted January 17, 2012 I know that wild animal feelng oh so well; I used to think I might be possessed or something I would feel so crazed. But that has diminished. Truly, dieting (restricting, failing, guilting, punishing)traumatizes us. It takes time to heal those wounds. Sandarah > > > > hey everyone i dont know if anyone else posts their personal failures (or successes) but i have no one else to talk about this to( i cant tell my husband Im on a non-diet, he will be apalled) anyways last night i ate an entire box of peanut butter wafers covered in white chocolate. and i was NOT hungry. i just cant get over it. im so angry i feel like i want to rip soemthing up and yell. im going to the gym now with this full stomach like a rock. arrrggg > > feel like a failure and have shall we say very negative feelings towards self right now > > why would i binge when i am allowed to eat anything anyway????????? > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 17, 2012 Report Share Posted January 17, 2012 I know that wild animal feelng oh so well; I used to think I might be possessed or something I would feel so crazed. But that has diminished. Truly, dieting (restricting, failing, guilting, punishing)traumatizes us. It takes time to heal those wounds. Sandarah > > > > hey everyone i dont know if anyone else posts their personal failures (or successes) but i have no one else to talk about this to( i cant tell my husband Im on a non-diet, he will be apalled) anyways last night i ate an entire box of peanut butter wafers covered in white chocolate. and i was NOT hungry. i just cant get over it. im so angry i feel like i want to rip soemthing up and yell. im going to the gym now with this full stomach like a rock. arrrggg > > feel like a failure and have shall we say very negative feelings towards self right now > > why would i binge when i am allowed to eat anything anyway????????? > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 17, 2012 Report Share Posted January 17, 2012 I know that wild animal feelng oh so well; I used to think I might be possessed or something I would feel so crazed. But that has diminished. Truly, dieting (restricting, failing, guilting, punishing)traumatizes us. It takes time to heal those wounds. Sandarah > > > > hey everyone i dont know if anyone else posts their personal failures (or successes) but i have no one else to talk about this to( i cant tell my husband Im on a non-diet, he will be apalled) anyways last night i ate an entire box of peanut butter wafers covered in white chocolate. and i was NOT hungry. i just cant get over it. im so angry i feel like i want to rip soemthing up and yell. im going to the gym now with this full stomach like a rock. arrrggg > > feel like a failure and have shall we say very negative feelings towards self right now > > why would i binge when i am allowed to eat anything anyway????????? > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 17, 2012 Report Share Posted January 17, 2012 No, most likely I wouldn't eat first thing the next day,because I wouldn't be hungry right away, but I usually will be later in the day, and then I will eat then. Tilley > >> > >> hey everyone i dont know if anyone else posts their personal failures (or successes) but i have no one else to talk about this to( i cant tell my husband Im on a non-diet, he will be apalled) anyways last night i ate an entire box of peanut butter wafers covered in white chocolate. and i was NOT hungry. i just cant get over it. im so angry i feel like i want to rip soemthing up and yell. im going to the gym now with this full stomach like a rock. arrrggg > >> feel like a failure and have shall we say very negative feelings towards self right now > >> why would i binge when i am allowed to eat anything anyway????????? > >> > >A similar thing happened to me yesterday but I know why. I ran out the door in the morning and only took a banana and water. I didn't eat lunch until after noon and then only soup and salad which I know was only about 300 calories. When I got home I just could not get full. So I ate and ate. > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 17, 2012 Report Share Posted January 17, 2012 No, most likely I wouldn't eat first thing the next day,because I wouldn't be hungry right away, but I usually will be later in the day, and then I will eat then. Tilley > >> > >> hey everyone i dont know if anyone else posts their personal failures (or successes) but i have no one else to talk about this to( i cant tell my husband Im on a non-diet, he will be apalled) anyways last night i ate an entire box of peanut butter wafers covered in white chocolate. and i was NOT hungry. i just cant get over it. im so angry i feel like i want to rip soemthing up and yell. im going to the gym now with this full stomach like a rock. arrrggg > >> feel like a failure and have shall we say very negative feelings towards self right now > >> why would i binge when i am allowed to eat anything anyway????????? > >> > >A similar thing happened to me yesterday but I know why. I ran out the door in the morning and only took a banana and water. I didn't eat lunch until after noon and then only soup and salad which I know was only about 300 calories. When I got home I just could not get full. So I ate and ate. > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 17, 2012 Report Share Posted January 17, 2012 First step I would say is to be kind and gentle to yourself. Would you talk to your small child that way? You would if you were an abusive parent. What doing to yourself is a form of self abuse. What you need to do is STOP and love and accept yourself just the way you are. Tomorrow is a new day and this binge is not the end of the world. Start now with working on your self dialog. Good luck! Sent from my Verizon Wireless Phone --- Original Message --- Sent: January 17, 2012 1/17/12 To: IntuitiveEating_Support Subject: get past a binge  hey everyone i dont know if anyone else posts their personal failures (or successes) but i have no one else to talk about this to( i cant tell my husband Im on a non-diet, he will be apalled) anyways last night i ate an entire box of peanut butter wafers covered in white chocolate. and i was NOT hungry. i just cant get over it. im so angry i feel like i want to rip soemthing up and yell. im going to the gym now with this full stomach like a rock. arrrggg feel like a failure and have shall we say very negative feelings towards self right now why would i binge when i am allowed to eat anything anyway????????? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 17, 2012 Report Share Posted January 17, 2012 First step I would say is to be kind and gentle to yourself. Would you talk to your small child that way? You would if you were an abusive parent. What doing to yourself is a form of self abuse. What you need to do is STOP and love and accept yourself just the way you are. Tomorrow is a new day and this binge is not the end of the world. Start now with working on your self dialog. Good luck! Sent from my Verizon Wireless Phone --- Original Message --- Sent: January 17, 2012 1/17/12 To: IntuitiveEating_Support Subject: get past a binge  hey everyone i dont know if anyone else posts their personal failures (or successes) but i have no one else to talk about this to( i cant tell my husband Im on a non-diet, he will be apalled) anyways last night i ate an entire box of peanut butter wafers covered in white chocolate. and i was NOT hungry. i just cant get over it. im so angry i feel like i want to rip soemthing up and yell. im going to the gym now with this full stomach like a rock. arrrggg feel like a failure and have shall we say very negative feelings towards self right now why would i binge when i am allowed to eat anything anyway????????? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 17, 2012 Report Share Posted January 17, 2012 Here, here. " OK, people..... let's keep ourselves fed! " I am just starting to get this. I had no idea how often I leave the house hungry - and with no plan to eat something. Then, hours later I'm ravenous. I never saw that pattern as a problem before. It makes to much sense about some of my binge patterns - I got too hungry! I just never honored those early hunger signs when going out for the day. Amazing. Sandarah > > > > To me, this sounds like you were simply extremely hungry. My nutritionist told me that if a person gets to this level of hunger, it's physically impossible not to overeat. > > > > > > > > A similar thing happened to me yesterday but I know why. I ran out the door in the morning and only took a banana and water. I didn't eat lunch until after noon and then only soup and salad which I know was only about 300 calories. When I got home I just could not get full. So I ate and ate. > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 17, 2012 Report Share Posted January 17, 2012 Here, here. " OK, people..... let's keep ourselves fed! " I am just starting to get this. I had no idea how often I leave the house hungry - and with no plan to eat something. Then, hours later I'm ravenous. I never saw that pattern as a problem before. It makes to much sense about some of my binge patterns - I got too hungry! I just never honored those early hunger signs when going out for the day. Amazing. Sandarah > > > > To me, this sounds like you were simply extremely hungry. My nutritionist told me that if a person gets to this level of hunger, it's physically impossible not to overeat. > > > > > > > > A similar thing happened to me yesterday but I know why. I ran out the door in the morning and only took a banana and water. I didn't eat lunch until after noon and then only soup and salad which I know was only about 300 calories. When I got home I just could not get full. So I ate and ate. > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 17, 2012 Report Share Posted January 17, 2012 Here, here. " OK, people..... let's keep ourselves fed! " I am just starting to get this. I had no idea how often I leave the house hungry - and with no plan to eat something. Then, hours later I'm ravenous. I never saw that pattern as a problem before. It makes to much sense about some of my binge patterns - I got too hungry! I just never honored those early hunger signs when going out for the day. Amazing. Sandarah > > > > To me, this sounds like you were simply extremely hungry. My nutritionist told me that if a person gets to this level of hunger, it's physically impossible not to overeat. > > > > > > > > A similar thing happened to me yesterday but I know why. I ran out the door in the morning and only took a banana and water. I didn't eat lunch until after noon and then only soup and salad which I know was only about 300 calories. When I got home I just could not get full. So I ate and ate. > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 18, 2012 Report Share Posted January 18, 2012 Wonderful post, Sara! Thank you so much for your help and encouragement > > I've learned that binging is a biological response to restricting. Geneen Roth says something like for every diet, there's an equal and opposite binge. When I heard several different people who've conquered eating issues saying this, I stopped hating myself for it. It's not my fault, and it's not yours, either. Your body has boomeranged from one extreme to the other, and it takes time to balance itself between the two. > > It's about loving yourself enough to take care of yourself with the same intensity you'd take care of your newborn child. Until I began to do that, I had no idea how horribly I'd been treating myself. It's amazing how good you feel when you begin to honor yourself...> > Sara > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 18, 2012 Report Share Posted January 18, 2012 Wonderful post, Sara! Thank you so much for your help and encouragement > > I've learned that binging is a biological response to restricting. Geneen Roth says something like for every diet, there's an equal and opposite binge. When I heard several different people who've conquered eating issues saying this, I stopped hating myself for it. It's not my fault, and it's not yours, either. Your body has boomeranged from one extreme to the other, and it takes time to balance itself between the two. > > It's about loving yourself enough to take care of yourself with the same intensity you'd take care of your newborn child. Until I began to do that, I had no idea how horribly I'd been treating myself. It's amazing how good you feel when you begin to honor yourself...> > Sara > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 18, 2012 Report Share Posted January 18, 2012 Love this!!! Thanks for posting > > First step I would say is to be kind and gentle to yourself... What you need to do is STOP and love and accept yourself just the way you are. Tomorrow is a new day and this binge is not the end of the world. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 18, 2012 Report Share Posted January 18, 2012 Love this!!! Thanks for posting > > First step I would say is to be kind and gentle to yourself... What you need to do is STOP and love and accept yourself just the way you are. Tomorrow is a new day and this binge is not the end of the world. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 18, 2012 Report Share Posted January 18, 2012 Love this!!! Thanks for posting > > First step I would say is to be kind and gentle to yourself... What you need to do is STOP and love and accept yourself just the way you are. Tomorrow is a new day and this binge is not the end of the world. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 18, 2012 Report Share Posted January 18, 2012 Amazing post!!! Thank you Sandarah > > It's going to take time for the diet rebel to really get that the days of restricting are gone - equal to the time it requires to genuinely let go of the desire to restrict. The diet rebel (inner child, whatever) is all too aware that restriction may just be around the corner and will continue to grab what it can until equilibrium is achieved. > > Most important point is, don't judge and create more toxic shame and self-wounding. One of the triggers of the addiction cycle is shame and self-loathing; so ease up and learn to be as kind as possible with this part who has been manipulated, denied and punished for a long time. > > Dieting is like living as ringmaster with the diet rebel as the lion who's been beaten into submission. That lion has now got to learn trust and that there is a new day dawning. And, the ringmaster has to learn to give up control and let go of the whip. > > When bingeing, try and stay present with what's going on... Naming what you're feeling and the thoughts you never really hear helps dis-identify with the thinking behavior, the feelings behaviors as well as the doing behavior. > > Sandarah > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 18, 2012 Report Share Posted January 18, 2012 Amazing post!!! Thank you Sandarah > > It's going to take time for the diet rebel to really get that the days of restricting are gone - equal to the time it requires to genuinely let go of the desire to restrict. The diet rebel (inner child, whatever) is all too aware that restriction may just be around the corner and will continue to grab what it can until equilibrium is achieved. > > Most important point is, don't judge and create more toxic shame and self-wounding. One of the triggers of the addiction cycle is shame and self-loathing; so ease up and learn to be as kind as possible with this part who has been manipulated, denied and punished for a long time. > > Dieting is like living as ringmaster with the diet rebel as the lion who's been beaten into submission. That lion has now got to learn trust and that there is a new day dawning. And, the ringmaster has to learn to give up control and let go of the whip. > > When bingeing, try and stay present with what's going on... Naming what you're feeling and the thoughts you never really hear helps dis-identify with the thinking behavior, the feelings behaviors as well as the doing behavior. > > Sandarah > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 18, 2012 Report Share Posted January 18, 2012 Amazing post!!! Thank you Sandarah > > It's going to take time for the diet rebel to really get that the days of restricting are gone - equal to the time it requires to genuinely let go of the desire to restrict. The diet rebel (inner child, whatever) is all too aware that restriction may just be around the corner and will continue to grab what it can until equilibrium is achieved. > > Most important point is, don't judge and create more toxic shame and self-wounding. One of the triggers of the addiction cycle is shame and self-loathing; so ease up and learn to be as kind as possible with this part who has been manipulated, denied and punished for a long time. > > Dieting is like living as ringmaster with the diet rebel as the lion who's been beaten into submission. That lion has now got to learn trust and that there is a new day dawning. And, the ringmaster has to learn to give up control and let go of the whip. > > When bingeing, try and stay present with what's going on... Naming what you're feeling and the thoughts you never really hear helps dis-identify with the thinking behavior, the feelings behaviors as well as the doing behavior. > > Sandarah > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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