Re: Bad thing

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Ann, a little thing, but big help for me was to hear Gillian (group owner & IE

coach) share that she prefers to being in CHARGE over being in 'control'. In

charge places all the decision power in YOUR hands while in control hawks back

to forcing yourself to do X. I have a strong negative reaction to being forced

to do things so trying to tag that need upon myself ALWAYS back fires and causes

mega rebellion in me.

Chocolate was my main 'adversary' when I decided to tackle legalizing. I ate it,

LOTS of it! First in a rather 'defiant' out-in-the-open, in-YOUR (who's really?

mine or the worlds?!?) - face mode. My inner rebel had a field day but also was

long pestered by diet mentality gremlins alllll the way. I thought I bought LOTS

each week to 'stock up', but it was all gone by the time I returned to the store

for more. This went on for months (I'm slow to believe/trust?) until I FINALLY

got to where I had NO interest in eating chocolate. Chocolate remains a

'darling' of mine, but I don't have the love-hate relationship with it that I

used to have. Now its simply something that I indulge in when I get a craving

for it and have no interest in other times. And I'm also much more picky about

it too. One thing remains the same for me - if I try to resist it, I am

immediately focused on it. Tossing a 'crumb' at my beast works so much better

for me than to dragon slay without heart.

BEST to you as you tackle your demons. Don't forget - you are mighty! :-)

Katcha

IEing since March 2007

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> Ellie, I know just how you feel about wondering if you should go on another

weight loss program. I've recently come off of counting calories and back to IE,

but I can't seem to get myself under control either, where chocolate is

concerned. Not only chocolate, but also high carb foods and I can feel my jeans

getting tighter each day. I donated my " larger " jeans to a thrift store a couple

of weeks ago, and I told my husband yesterday that I am now starting to have

regrets about it, because my jeans are very snug now. I understand that

initially I may gain a little weight with giving myself this " freedom " of no

restrictions, but being out of control with certain foods is making me so

nervous. I don't want to restrict anything, but having these things around is

seeming impossible to avoid overdoing on.

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> I gave my calorie counter book away recently, because like you, adding the

numbers constantly drove me crazy and feeling so restricted really had me going

on outrageous binges. But after stopping with the counting cals, I'm tending to

overeat anyway, though I wouldn't call it true " binges " , still I'm eating more

than I should. The idea to start counting calories again has been strong the

past couple of days, but I know the binges will start again, should I do that,

the only thing preventing me from it.

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> I could use some advice from others who have been in the same boat. How to we

handle legalizing all foods, and yet not let those foods we crave so much

overtake us?

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> Ann

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