Guest guest Posted November 6, 2006 Report Share Posted November 6, 2006 -----Original Message----- I do have a question...I'm starting to get the itching but does anyone get bumps like little hives? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 6, 2006 Report Share Posted November 6, 2006 -----Original Message----- I do have a question...I'm starting to get the itching but does anyone get bumps like little hives? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 6, 2006 Report Share Posted November 6, 2006 -----Original Message----- I do have a question...I'm starting to get the itching but does anyone get bumps like little hives? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 27, 2011 Report Share Posted January 27, 2011 Hi everyone, I just found this group and wanted to jump in. I've been attending therapy for my own (non-BPD) issues, and as I describe my past and current interactions with my mother, my therapist has said more than once that it sounds like she is mentally ill, specifically with BPD. Reading the symptoms, she certainly exhibits some (mood swings and anger issues, fear of abandonment) but not necessarily others (constant black-and-white thinking, actual abuse). So I don't know if I *count* as a KO. I know that even if she were a classic 100% BP, she'd never get diagnosed, because she'd never get help for it. I know that I would never bring up the fact that I think she has BPD, she'd flip for sure. Last time I saw her during the holidays, she freaked out when I used to word " boundaries " --she thought that meant that I was building a wall between us, and she couldn't talk to me anymore. Fortunately she is getting help in other arenas (namely, Al-Anon), and it is making it easier to deal with her. I have borrowed a few recommended books from the library, and I hope to get an alternate method of dealing with her. Right now all I do during her weekly call is listen to her talk about herself and seethe silently with resentment and anger. Which I know is not the way to do it, but that's the way I'm used to. Thanks for listening. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 31, 2011 Report Share Posted January 31, 2011 Hi & welcome to the group. I'm not sure many of us can say with absolute certainty that our nadas and/or fadas are actually suffering from BPD. It is also kind of classic that many BPD persons won't seek help... so it's like being between a rock & a hard place. All of us have parent(s) who have BPD traits, however. And we all have eerily similar stories... it's a strange thing because it's nice to know you're not alone, but at the same time I feel bad because others had to go through similar things with their parent(s). Nada is the word many of us use to describe our likely BPD mothers. As in " Not a (nada) real mother " . Fada is for the likely BPD fathers and some use it to refer to the " dishrag dad " style so many of our dads had when it came to dealing with an enraged, angry, mean & inappropriate mother. I think you should also know that it is not uncommon for borderlines to also be alcoholics. Certainly not all are addicts, and certainly not all addicts are BPD... but it's not unheard of in the least. I hope you will find this group a helpful, safe & comfortable place to be. Mia On Thu, Jan 27, 2011 at 6:32 PM, pale_and_nerdy wrote: > > > Hi everyone, I just found this group and wanted to jump in. I've been > attending therapy for my own (non-BPD) issues, and as I describe my past and > current interactions with my mother, my therapist has said more than once > that it sounds like she is mentally ill, specifically with BPD. Reading the > symptoms, she certainly exhibits some (mood swings and anger issues, fear of > abandonment) but not necessarily others (constant black-and-white thinking, > actual abuse). So I don't know if I *count* as a KO. I know that even if she > were a classic 100% BP, she'd never get diagnosed, because she'd never get > help for it. I know that I would never bring up the fact that I think she > has BPD, she'd flip for sure. Last time I saw her during the holidays, she > freaked out when I used to word " boundaries " --she thought that meant that I > was building a wall between us, and she couldn't talk to me anymore. > Fortunately she is getting help in other arenas (namely, Al-Anon), and it is > making it easier to deal with her. I have borrowed a few recommended books > from the library, and I hope to get an alternate method of dealing with her. > Right now all I do during her weekly call is listen to her talk about > herself and seethe silently with resentment and anger. Which I know is not > the way to do it, but that's the way I'm used to. Thanks for listening. > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 31, 2011 Report Share Posted January 31, 2011 Hi & welcome to the group. I'm not sure many of us can say with absolute certainty that our nadas and/or fadas are actually suffering from BPD. It is also kind of classic that many BPD persons won't seek help... so it's like being between a rock & a hard place. All of us have parent(s) who have BPD traits, however. And we all have eerily similar stories... it's a strange thing because it's nice to know you're not alone, but at the same time I feel bad because others had to go through similar things with their parent(s). Nada is the word many of us use to describe our likely BPD mothers. As in " Not a (nada) real mother " . Fada is for the likely BPD fathers and some use it to refer to the " dishrag dad " style so many of our dads had when it came to dealing with an enraged, angry, mean & inappropriate mother. I think you should also know that it is not uncommon for borderlines to also be alcoholics. Certainly not all are addicts, and certainly not all addicts are BPD... but it's not unheard of in the least. I hope you will find this group a helpful, safe & comfortable place to be. Mia On Thu, Jan 27, 2011 at 6:32 PM, pale_and_nerdy wrote: > > > Hi everyone, I just found this group and wanted to jump in. I've been > attending therapy for my own (non-BPD) issues, and as I describe my past and > current interactions with my mother, my therapist has said more than once > that it sounds like she is mentally ill, specifically with BPD. Reading the > symptoms, she certainly exhibits some (mood swings and anger issues, fear of > abandonment) but not necessarily others (constant black-and-white thinking, > actual abuse). So I don't know if I *count* as a KO. I know that even if she > were a classic 100% BP, she'd never get diagnosed, because she'd never get > help for it. I know that I would never bring up the fact that I think she > has BPD, she'd flip for sure. Last time I saw her during the holidays, she > freaked out when I used to word " boundaries " --she thought that meant that I > was building a wall between us, and she couldn't talk to me anymore. > Fortunately she is getting help in other arenas (namely, Al-Anon), and it is > making it easier to deal with her. I have borrowed a few recommended books > from the library, and I hope to get an alternate method of dealing with her. > Right now all I do during her weekly call is listen to her talk about > herself and seethe silently with resentment and anger. Which I know is not > the way to do it, but that's the way I'm used to. Thanks for listening. > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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