Re: I love how everyone thinks everyone else has a normal mom like they do

[Guest guest]

Yeah I have seen that post. I just politely ignore it.

I don't love my mother. And I don't like my mother. And I don't care about

my mother. And I wont be at her side if she gets sick. And I won't be at her

funeral if she dies. And I won't be paying for her nursing home. I'm done

with her. She has done enough damage to me for an entire lifetime. As far as

I know she is still living, but she is completely " past tense " as far as I'm

concerned.

>

>

> My Facebook friends are trading around this stupid little chain-post:

>

> " 3yr old: " Mommy, I love you. " 10 yrs old: " Mom whatever! " 16 yrs old: " My

> Mom is so annoying! " 18 yrs old: " I wanna leave this house. " 25 yrs old:

> " Mom, you were right. " 30 yrs old: " I wanna go back to my Mom's house. " 50

> yrs old: " I don't wanna lose my Mom. " 70 yrs old: " I would give up

> EVERYTHING for my Mom to be here with me " You only have ONE Mom. Post this

> on your wall if u appreciate your mom, I & #9829; U MOM "

>

> That's great if you had a real mother and not a mentally ill one who did

> everything for her own benefit and did nothing but abuse or neglect you, and

> only paid attention to you or " loved " you when it suited her own wants and

> needs.

>

> And this one mom bullshit is bullshit. I have a stepmother who has been a

> stepmom for only 8 years, and she and I are closer than me and nada have

> ever been. In fact, my dad gets jealous because I call to talk to her and

> not him...haha.

>

> In my opinion (and it's just my opinion), " mom " stands for a relationship.

> Someone who nurtures you and teaches you. Someone who provides love and

> support even when you make mistakes and loves you no matter what you do

> because they understand that you are human and will make mistakes. Any woman

> could birth me and breastfeed. You get the title " mom " when you build the

> relationship.

>

> And no, I don't love my mother. I've said it twice now and it makes me feel

> so much better to say it. Maybe it's unhealthy, maybe I'm disassociating,

> but I feel a huge weight come off of my shoulders when I admit to myself

> that I don't love her. I do care about her--I'm not sure that's the same as

> love--and I will always care about her. If she had a stroke and I needed to

> pay for her admittance into some kind of facility, I would certainly do it.

> But I don't know if that's love or just my own sense of compassion for the

> woman who did birth me. I feel like it's more a respectful gesture to the

> genes and blood we share.

>

> I don't know if what I feel is love or not, but it certainly makes me feel

> better to not classify it that way.

>

> I swear, I just need to get off of Facebook entirely.

>

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Yeah I have seen that post. I just politely ignore it.

I don't love my mother. And I don't like my mother. And I don't care about

my mother. And I wont be at her side if she gets sick. And I won't be at her

funeral if she dies. And I won't be paying for her nursing home. I'm done

with her. She has done enough damage to me for an entire lifetime. As far as

I know she is still living, but she is completely " past tense " as far as I'm

concerned.

>

>

> My Facebook friends are trading around this stupid little chain-post:

>

> " 3yr old: " Mommy, I love you. " 10 yrs old: " Mom whatever! " 16 yrs old: " My

> Mom is so annoying! " 18 yrs old: " I wanna leave this house. " 25 yrs old:

> " Mom, you were right. " 30 yrs old: " I wanna go back to my Mom's house. " 50

> yrs old: " I don't wanna lose my Mom. " 70 yrs old: " I would give up

> EVERYTHING for my Mom to be here with me " You only have ONE Mom. Post this

> on your wall if u appreciate your mom, I & #9829; U MOM "

>

> That's great if you had a real mother and not a mentally ill one who did

> everything for her own benefit and did nothing but abuse or neglect you, and

> only paid attention to you or " loved " you when it suited her own wants and

> needs.

>

> And this one mom bullshit is bullshit. I have a stepmother who has been a

> stepmom for only 8 years, and she and I are closer than me and nada have

> ever been. In fact, my dad gets jealous because I call to talk to her and

> not him...haha.

>

> In my opinion (and it's just my opinion), " mom " stands for a relationship.

> Someone who nurtures you and teaches you. Someone who provides love and

> support even when you make mistakes and loves you no matter what you do

> because they understand that you are human and will make mistakes. Any woman

> could birth me and breastfeed. You get the title " mom " when you build the

> relationship.

>

> And no, I don't love my mother. I've said it twice now and it makes me feel

> so much better to say it. Maybe it's unhealthy, maybe I'm disassociating,

> but I feel a huge weight come off of my shoulders when I admit to myself

> that I don't love her. I do care about her--I'm not sure that's the same as

> love--and I will always care about her. If she had a stroke and I needed to

> pay for her admittance into some kind of facility, I would certainly do it.

> But I don't know if that's love or just my own sense of compassion for the

> woman who did birth me. I feel like it's more a respectful gesture to the

> genes and blood we share.

>

> I don't know if what I feel is love or not, but it certainly makes me feel

> better to not classify it that way.

>

> I swear, I just need to get off of Facebook entirely.

>

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Yeah, ignoring it is great. It just bugs me that they say " if you love your mom

too, then post this message as your status " . I don't care what other people

think, really, but it just irritates me that it's like, oh, so you're saying if

I don't post this then I don't love my mom and that somehow makes me a bad

person. At least that's what I read into it. I mean, because who doesn't love

their mother?

Ug.

>

> Yeah I have seen that post. I just politely ignore it.

>

> I don't love my mother. And I don't like my mother. And I don't care about

> my mother. And I wont be at her side if she gets sick. And I won't be at her

> funeral if she dies. And I won't be paying for her nursing home. I'm done

> with her. She has done enough damage to me for an entire lifetime. As far as

> I know she is still living, but she is completely " past tense " as far as I'm

> concerned.

>

[Guest guest]

Wow. Thats why I deleted my facebook. Things exactly like that were so upsetting

to me all the time. I'd see moms telling their daughters they had a nice lunch

or couldn't wait to see them and they loved them, etc...

I am orphaned basically so it totally triggered me and I deleted my facebook.

I love how everyone thinks everyone else has a

normal mom like they do

My Facebook friends are trading around this stupid little chain-post:

" 3yr old: " Mommy, I love you. " 10 yrs old: " Mom whatever! " 16 yrs old: " My Mom

is so annoying! " 18 yrs old: " I wanna leave this house. " 25 yrs old: " Mom, you

were right. " 30 yrs old: " I wanna go back to my Mom's house. " 50 yrs old: " I

don't wanna lose my Mom. " 70 yrs old: " I would give up EVERYTHING for my Mom to

be here with me " You only have ONE Mom. Post this on your wall if u appreciate

your mom, I & #9829; U MOM "

That's great if you had a real mother and not a mentally ill one who did

everything for her own benefit and did nothing but abuse or neglect you, and

only paid attention to you or " loved " you when it suited her own wants and

needs.

And this one mom bullshit is bullshit. I have a stepmother who has been a

stepmom for only 8 years, and she and I are closer than me and nada have ever

been. In fact, my dad gets jealous because I call to talk to her and not

him...haha.

In my opinion (and it's just my opinion), " mom " stands for a relationship.

Someone who nurtures you and teaches you. Someone who provides love and support

even when you make mistakes and loves you no matter what you do because they

understand that you are human and will make mistakes. Any woman could birth me

and breastfeed. You get the title " mom " when you build the relationship.

And no, I don't love my mother. I've said it twice now and it makes me feel so

much better to say it. Maybe it's unhealthy, maybe I'm disassociating, but I

feel a huge weight come off of my shoulders when I admit to myself that I don't

love her. I do care about her--I'm not sure that's the same as love--and I will

always care about her. If she had a stroke and I needed to pay for her

admittance into some kind of facility, I would certainly do it. But I don't know

if that's love or just my own sense of compassion for the woman who did birth

me. I feel like it's more a respectful gesture to the genes and blood we share.

I don't know if what I feel is love or not, but it certainly makes me feel

better to not classify it that way.

I swear, I just need to get off of Facebook entirely.

[Guest guest]

That's why I'm pretty much nonexistent on FaceBook; I think its more annoying

than it is useful. But then I never did pass along chain letters when they'd

arrive, either the snail-mail ones or the e-mail ones; I'm kind of immune to

that sort of thing. Not sure why, either!

-Annie

>

> Yeah, ignoring it is great. It just bugs me that they say " if you love your

mom too, then post this message as your status " . I don't care what other people

think, really, but it just irritates me that it's like, oh, so you're saying if

I don't post this then I don't love my mom and that somehow makes me a bad

person. At least that's what I read into it. I mean, because who doesn't love

their mother?

>

> Ug.

>

[Guest guest]

That's why I'm pretty much nonexistent on FaceBook; I think its more annoying

than it is useful. But then I never did pass along chain letters when they'd

arrive, either the snail-mail ones or the e-mail ones; I'm kind of immune to

that sort of thing. Not sure why, either!

-Annie

>

> Yeah, ignoring it is great. It just bugs me that they say " if you love your

mom too, then post this message as your status " . I don't care what other people

think, really, but it just irritates me that it's like, oh, so you're saying if

I don't post this then I don't love my mom and that somehow makes me a bad

person. At least that's what I read into it. I mean, because who doesn't love

their mother?

>

> Ug.

>

[Guest guest]

I always want to comment on things like that and let people know that their

are mothers who are psycho child abusers. . . but I don't because it

wouldn't be socially acceptable out their in " muggle " land. And I did

comment the other day on something about The Hoarders TV show and let

everyone know that that was my childhood. No one responded.

I esp get triggered on Facebook on mother's day, father's day and certain

holidays when people give shout outs to their parents. But I find a lot more

good than bad on facebook and I have to use it for my job.

On Sat, Jan 29, 2011 at 2:16 PM, anuria67854 wrote:

>

>

> That's why I'm pretty much nonexistent on FaceBook; I think its more

> annoying than it is useful. But then I never did pass along chain letters

> when they'd arrive, either the snail-mail ones or the e-mail ones; I'm kind

> of immune to that sort of thing. Not sure why, either!

>

> -Annie

>

>

>

> >

> > Yeah, ignoring it is great. It just bugs me that they say " if you love

> your mom too, then post this message as your status " . I don't care what

> other people think, really, but it just irritates me that it's like, oh, so

> you're saying if I don't post this then I don't love my mom and that somehow

> makes me a bad person. At least that's what I read into it. I mean, because

> who doesn't love their mother?

> >

> > Ug.

> >

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

I always want to comment on things like that and let people know that their

are mothers who are psycho child abusers. . . but I don't because it

wouldn't be socially acceptable out their in " muggle " land. And I did

comment the other day on something about The Hoarders TV show and let

everyone know that that was my childhood. No one responded.

I esp get triggered on Facebook on mother's day, father's day and certain

holidays when people give shout outs to their parents. But I find a lot more

good than bad on facebook and I have to use it for my job.

On Sat, Jan 29, 2011 at 2:16 PM, anuria67854 wrote:

>

>

> That's why I'm pretty much nonexistent on FaceBook; I think its more

> annoying than it is useful. But then I never did pass along chain letters

> when they'd arrive, either the snail-mail ones or the e-mail ones; I'm kind

> of immune to that sort of thing. Not sure why, either!

>

> -Annie

>

>

>

> >

> > Yeah, ignoring it is great. It just bugs me that they say " if you love

> your mom too, then post this message as your status " . I don't care what

> other people think, really, but it just irritates me that it's like, oh, so

> you're saying if I don't post this then I don't love my mom and that somehow

> makes me a bad person. At least that's what I read into it. I mean, because

> who doesn't love their mother?

> >

> > Ug.

> >

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

We all have a pretty good idea how you feel since we're in the same boat. Tired

of hearing about how wonderful a " Mom " is and we're to feel all warm and fuzzy

when we hear the word. Pbbbt. I've seen that on FaceBook too. I do not

copy/paste to my wall. The people that I care about know what my nada is like.

The others that I know casually, I don't care what they think if I don't post

the darn thing.

[Guest guest]

We all have a pretty good idea how you feel since we're in the same boat. Tired

of hearing about how wonderful a " Mom " is and we're to feel all warm and fuzzy

when we hear the word. Pbbbt. I've seen that on FaceBook too. I do not

copy/paste to my wall. The people that I care about know what my nada is like.

The others that I know casually, I don't care what they think if I don't post

the darn thing.

[Guest guest]

I completely agree with you! A lot of my friends had useless parents (a couple

were emancipated from their mothers/fathers as young teenagers) and sometimes

they'll give me that " But she's/he's my (insert parent here)! " If they don't

have respect for you, didn't care for you and they obviously don't want you

around; why should you have to love or pretend to love them? You're step-mom is

awesome!

>

> My Facebook friends are trading around this stupid little chain-post:

>

> " 3yr old: " Mommy, I love you. " 10 yrs old: " Mom whatever! " 16 yrs old: " My Mom

is so annoying! " 18 yrs old: " I wanna leave this house. " 25 yrs old: " Mom, you

were right. " 30 yrs old: " I wanna go back to my Mom's house. " 50 yrs old: " I

don't wanna lose my Mom. " 70 yrs old: " I would give up EVERYTHING for my Mom to

be here with me " You only have ONE Mom. Post this on your wall if u appreciate

your mom, I & #9829; U MOM "

>

> That's great if you had a real mother and not a mentally ill one who did

everything for her own benefit and did nothing but abuse or neglect you, and

only paid attention to you or " loved " you when it suited her own wants and

needs.

>

> And this one mom bullshit is bullshit. I have a stepmother who has been a

stepmom for only 8 years, and she and I are closer than me and nada have ever

been. In fact, my dad gets jealous because I call to talk to her and not

him...haha.

>

> In my opinion (and it's just my opinion), " mom " stands for a relationship.

Someone who nurtures you and teaches you. Someone who provides love and support

even when you make mistakes and loves you no matter what you do because they

understand that you are human and will make mistakes. Any woman could birth me

and breastfeed. You get the title " mom " when you build the relationship.

>

> And no, I don't love my mother. I've said it twice now and it makes me feel so

much better to say it. Maybe it's unhealthy, maybe I'm disassociating, but I

feel a huge weight come off of my shoulders when I admit to myself that I don't

love her. I do care about her--I'm not sure that's the same as love--and I will

always care about her. If she had a stroke and I needed to pay for her

admittance into some kind of facility, I would certainly do it. But I don't know

if that's love or just my own sense of compassion for the woman who did birth

me. I feel like it's more a respectful gesture to the genes and blood we share.

>

> I don't know if what I feel is love or not, but it certainly makes me feel

better to not classify it that way.

>

> I swear, I just need to get off of Facebook entirely.

>

>

[Guest guest]

I completely agree with you! A lot of my friends had useless parents (a couple

were emancipated from their mothers/fathers as young teenagers) and sometimes

they'll give me that " But she's/he's my (insert parent here)! " If they don't

have respect for you, didn't care for you and they obviously don't want you

around; why should you have to love or pretend to love them? You're step-mom is

awesome!

>

> My Facebook friends are trading around this stupid little chain-post:

>

> " 3yr old: " Mommy, I love you. " 10 yrs old: " Mom whatever! " 16 yrs old: " My Mom

is so annoying! " 18 yrs old: " I wanna leave this house. " 25 yrs old: " Mom, you

were right. " 30 yrs old: " I wanna go back to my Mom's house. " 50 yrs old: " I

don't wanna lose my Mom. " 70 yrs old: " I would give up EVERYTHING for my Mom to

be here with me " You only have ONE Mom. Post this on your wall if u appreciate

your mom, I & #9829; U MOM "

>

> That's great if you had a real mother and not a mentally ill one who did

everything for her own benefit and did nothing but abuse or neglect you, and

only paid attention to you or " loved " you when it suited her own wants and

needs.

>

> And this one mom bullshit is bullshit. I have a stepmother who has been a

stepmom for only 8 years, and she and I are closer than me and nada have ever

been. In fact, my dad gets jealous because I call to talk to her and not

him...haha.

>

> In my opinion (and it's just my opinion), " mom " stands for a relationship.

Someone who nurtures you and teaches you. Someone who provides love and support

even when you make mistakes and loves you no matter what you do because they

understand that you are human and will make mistakes. Any woman could birth me

and breastfeed. You get the title " mom " when you build the relationship.

>

> And no, I don't love my mother. I've said it twice now and it makes me feel so

much better to say it. Maybe it's unhealthy, maybe I'm disassociating, but I

feel a huge weight come off of my shoulders when I admit to myself that I don't

love her. I do care about her--I'm not sure that's the same as love--and I will

always care about her. If she had a stroke and I needed to pay for her

admittance into some kind of facility, I would certainly do it. But I don't know

if that's love or just my own sense of compassion for the woman who did birth

me. I feel like it's more a respectful gesture to the genes and blood we share.

>

> I don't know if what I feel is love or not, but it certainly makes me feel

better to not classify it that way.

>

> I swear, I just need to get off of Facebook entirely.

>

>

[Guest guest]

I completely agree with you! A lot of my friends had useless parents (a couple

were emancipated from their mothers/fathers as young teenagers) and sometimes

they'll give me that " But she's/he's my (insert parent here)! " If they don't

have respect for you, didn't care for you and they obviously don't want you

around; why should you have to love or pretend to love them? You're step-mom is

awesome!

>

> My Facebook friends are trading around this stupid little chain-post:

>

> " 3yr old: " Mommy, I love you. " 10 yrs old: " Mom whatever! " 16 yrs old: " My Mom

is so annoying! " 18 yrs old: " I wanna leave this house. " 25 yrs old: " Mom, you

were right. " 30 yrs old: " I wanna go back to my Mom's house. " 50 yrs old: " I

don't wanna lose my Mom. " 70 yrs old: " I would give up EVERYTHING for my Mom to

be here with me " You only have ONE Mom. Post this on your wall if u appreciate

your mom, I & #9829; U MOM "

>

> That's great if you had a real mother and not a mentally ill one who did

everything for her own benefit and did nothing but abuse or neglect you, and

only paid attention to you or " loved " you when it suited her own wants and

needs.

>

> And this one mom bullshit is bullshit. I have a stepmother who has been a

stepmom for only 8 years, and she and I are closer than me and nada have ever

been. In fact, my dad gets jealous because I call to talk to her and not

him...haha.

>

> In my opinion (and it's just my opinion), " mom " stands for a relationship.

Someone who nurtures you and teaches you. Someone who provides love and support

even when you make mistakes and loves you no matter what you do because they

understand that you are human and will make mistakes. Any woman could birth me

and breastfeed. You get the title " mom " when you build the relationship.

>

> And no, I don't love my mother. I've said it twice now and it makes me feel so

much better to say it. Maybe it's unhealthy, maybe I'm disassociating, but I

feel a huge weight come off of my shoulders when I admit to myself that I don't

love her. I do care about her--I'm not sure that's the same as love--and I will

always care about her. If she had a stroke and I needed to pay for her

admittance into some kind of facility, I would certainly do it. But I don't know

if that's love or just my own sense of compassion for the woman who did birth

me. I feel like it's more a respectful gesture to the genes and blood we share.

>

> I don't know if what I feel is love or not, but it certainly makes me feel

better to not classify it that way.

>

> I swear, I just need to get off of Facebook entirely.

>

>