I love how everyone thinks everyone else has a normal mom like they do

January 29, 2011

My Facebook friends are trading around this stupid little chain-post:

" 3yr old: " Mommy, I love you. " 10 yrs old: " Mom whatever! " 16 yrs old: " My Mom

is so annoying! " 18 yrs old: " I wanna leave this house. " 25 yrs old: " Mom, you

were right. " 30 yrs old: " I wanna go back to my Mom's house. " 50 yrs old: " I

don't wanna lose my Mom. " 70 yrs old: " I would give up EVERYTHING for my Mom to

be here with me " You only have ONE Mom. Post this on your wall if u appreciate

your mom, I & #9829; U MOM "

That's great if you had a real mother and not a mentally ill one who did

everything for her own benefit and did nothing but abuse or neglect you, and

only paid attention to you or " loved " you when it suited her own wants and

needs.

And this one mom bullshit is bullshit. I have a stepmother who has been a

stepmom for only 8 years, and she and I are closer than me and nada have ever

been. In fact, my dad gets jealous because I call to talk to her and not

him...haha.

In my opinion (and it's just my opinion), " mom " stands for a relationship.

Someone who nurtures you and teaches you. Someone who provides love and support

even when you make mistakes and loves you no matter what you do because they

understand that you are human and will make mistakes. Any woman could birth me

and breastfeed. You get the title " mom " when you build the relationship.

And no, I don't love my mother. I've said it twice now and it makes me feel so

much better to say it. Maybe it's unhealthy, maybe I'm disassociating, but I

feel a huge weight come off of my shoulders when I admit to myself that I don't

love her. I do care about her--I'm not sure that's the same as love--and I will

always care about her. If she had a stroke and I needed to pay for her

admittance into some kind of facility, I would certainly do it. But I don't know

if that's love or just my own sense of compassion for the woman who did birth

me. I feel like it's more a respectful gesture to the genes and blood we share.

I don't know if what I feel is love or not, but it certainly makes me feel

better to not classify it that way.

I swear, I just need to get off of Facebook entirely.

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