Re: Re: What about confronting my abusers?

January 25, 2011

Very well said, . I couldn't agree more.

Mia

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> If a mentally ill person rapes you, do you not have the right to be angry

> and want to seek retribution? Even if they are sorry they did it and/or

> couldn't help it?

>

> If a mentally ill person kills a college student, does the family not have

> the right to grieve (and be angry) and seek retribution and confront their

> child's killer?

>

> I'm not saying we should not be compassionate to their plight, but since

> when is BPD a get-out-of-jail-free pass for hurting people. Having a

> personality disorder does NOT excuse you from being responsible for your own

> actions. And claiming that those of us who have been hurt and abused,

> physically and mentally, by someone who has BPD do not have the right to

> confront our abusers or to be angry about it is offensive.

>

> If BPD family does not want the people with BPD on their site to have to

> deal with those who have been abused by BPDs, then they should have it be a

> people with BPD only site. Period. It's one thing to moderate a discussion

> and try to keep it civil while those with BPD and those without it freely

> discuss their experience and their emotions about it, it's another to ban

> someone simply because they believe they have the right to confront their

> abuser and be angry. As long as you're not personally bashing someone on

> their forum, they should not be banning you.

>

> I've only been on BPD family once, and I didn't particularly like it. I

> prefer to be in a BPD free zone so I know I can say things openly, even mean

> things, and not be judged, because you all know what I am going through, and

> that the only way to recover is to express even the meanest things I feel.

>

> You know, the moderators there can't be in the dark on the fact that if you

> have a site where BPDs and nonBPDs are co-mingling is going to have some

> strife and disagreement. If they are, well then, I don't see how they are

> really helping anyone.

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