Guest guest Posted January 25, 2011 Report Share Posted January 25, 2011 How odd. I slept on my dad's old mattress as well. I didn't know any better, either. My parents could have afforded a new mattress at any time as well. Eventually, they got me a new one. Yes, it was neglect. In your case, I'd even add abuse if you were getting bruises. It was just . . . there were so many other, more traumatic and more intense dangers to deal with every day. What was the point of getting too upset over a mattress? That makes total sense to me. I can tell you one thing, though . . . no decent human being would let their dog sleep on something that would give it physical wounds. Much less their kid. Hope that helps. Blessings, Karla > > So my T and were talking about hoarding last night and basically how > uncomfortable my childhood home was.I told her that there were only a couple > of chairs I could sit in without having an allergic reaction because of the > dust, dander and unhygenic conditions. So I spent a lot of time standing up. > > > Anyway, i was telling her that I did have my own place to sleep, but my > mattress was my dad's mattress from his childhood. By the time I was in > about 4th grade it had holes about 4 inches around with bed spring popping > out of them on both sides. I would wake up covered in bruises and scratches > from the springs. My T was shocked. She was pretty much like " that was not > ok. " > > I looked inside for an emotional response - but all I could find was that it > was true. That was how it was. My dad went, after a LONG time of me getting > beat up by my mattress, and bought me one from a second hand store. I don't > know why he did that. . . he had a good, stable job and an advanced degree. > We weren't destitute. I don't know why I was such a low priority. But all I > know is that it was how it was. That was what my parents did and those were > their choices. > > Thoughts guys? My T seemed to think I should be sobbing at the memory - but > to me its just normal. Is that neglect by the way? I guess its not abuse, > but I think it might be neglect. > > And while we are on it, what was everyone's childhood bed like? Perhaps this > is a symbol of my past. > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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