Guest guest Posted January 22, 2012 Report Share Posted January 22, 2012 > I am frustrated with myself because as I " seem " to be implementing some IE concepts, other addictive behaviors are raising their ugly heads... Eden, I certainly cannot say what is happening, but I can say how it appears from like from my end. It seems to me that you have certain problems that you are not facing, and you have been using food to avoid them. Now that you are not using food, you are using other distractions. Your problem (it seems to me) is not food, cigarettes, on-line shopping or whatever. They are merely symptoms. You said you would do yoga and practice meditation. What a good idea! Get back in touch with your feelings and worries. Yes, they may be scary, and they may be initially distressing -- but dealing with them will be far more rewarding and far less distressing in the long term than running away from them. I could be wrong, of course; this is only how it seems from my end. Paddy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 22, 2012 Report Share Posted January 22, 2012 > I am frustrated with myself because as I " seem " to be implementing some IE concepts, other addictive behaviors are raising their ugly heads... Eden, I certainly cannot say what is happening, but I can say how it appears from like from my end. It seems to me that you have certain problems that you are not facing, and you have been using food to avoid them. Now that you are not using food, you are using other distractions. Your problem (it seems to me) is not food, cigarettes, on-line shopping or whatever. They are merely symptoms. You said you would do yoga and practice meditation. What a good idea! Get back in touch with your feelings and worries. Yes, they may be scary, and they may be initially distressing -- but dealing with them will be far more rewarding and far less distressing in the long term than running away from them. I could be wrong, of course; this is only how it seems from my end. Paddy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 22, 2012 Report Share Posted January 22, 2012 Eden I agree with Paddy about getting in touch with yourself, feelings and worries. I started a journal 2 weeks ago about, and I have been doing better than ever before with my IE. Maybe journaling could help you too? sima To: IntuitiveEating_Support Sent: Sunday, January 22, 2012 11:01 AMSubject: Re: other habits > I am frustrated with myself because as I "seem" to be implementingsome IE concepts, other addictive behaviors are raising their uglyheads...Eden, I certainly cannot say what is happening, but I can say how itappears from like from my end.It seems to me that you have certain problems that you are not facing,and you have been using food to avoid them. Now that you are not usingfood, you are using other distractions.Your problem (it seems to me) is not food, cigarettes, on-line shoppingor whatever. They are merely symptoms.You said you would do yoga and practice meditation. What a good idea!Get back in touch with your feelings and worries. Yes, they may bescary, and they may be initially distressing -- but dealing with themwill be far more rewarding and far less distressing in the long termthan running away from them.I could be wrong, of course; this is only how it seems from my end.Paddy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 22, 2012 Report Share Posted January 22, 2012 I would say that a clear indication that something very deep and underlying is going on. Its not at all about the food, cigarettes or spending money. What is driving this compulsive behavior? Whats really going on emotionally? What need are you trying to fill? Only you can find the answers to that. And you may need some outside help to delve into this like a counselor or the like. Keep posting as its the first step to self discovery and healing. We are here for you. Alana Sent from my Verizon Wireless Phone --- Original Message --- From: edenhinshaw@... Sent: January 22, 2012 1/22/12 To: IntuitiveEating_Support Subject: other habits  Hi all. I am frustrated with myself because as I " seem " to be implementing some IE concepts, other addictive behaviors are raising their ugly heads. Does this happen to anyone else? I quit smoking a year and a half ago and have found myself cheating with a cigarette here and there since I started IE. I am also finding myself shopping more and more online, which is something I cannot afford to do and told myself I would not do. I am having trouble being gentle about these infractions becuase I view thwm as terrible failures and they tie in to a larger picture of distracting behaviors. I need to STOP. Help! Eden Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 22, 2012 Report Share Posted January 22, 2012 I would say that a clear indication that something very deep and underlying is going on. Its not at all about the food, cigarettes or spending money. What is driving this compulsive behavior? Whats really going on emotionally? What need are you trying to fill? Only you can find the answers to that. And you may need some outside help to delve into this like a counselor or the like. Keep posting as its the first step to self discovery and healing. We are here for you. Alana Sent from my Verizon Wireless Phone --- Original Message --- From: edenhinshaw@... Sent: January 22, 2012 1/22/12 To: IntuitiveEating_Support Subject: other habits  Hi all. I am frustrated with myself because as I " seem " to be implementing some IE concepts, other addictive behaviors are raising their ugly heads. Does this happen to anyone else? I quit smoking a year and a half ago and have found myself cheating with a cigarette here and there since I started IE. I am also finding myself shopping more and more online, which is something I cannot afford to do and told myself I would not do. I am having trouble being gentle about these infractions becuase I view thwm as terrible failures and they tie in to a larger picture of distracting behaviors. I need to STOP. Help! Eden Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 22, 2012 Report Share Posted January 22, 2012 Eden, this was SUCH a wakeup call for me! I'd literally been wondering over the past couple weeks why I'm starting to ressurect some of the most annoyingly compulsive habits I've ever had. Your post explains it! I just hadn't thought to put the two things together. I think it's definitely a sign that we're supposed to look for healthy outlets for our stress and our overall feelings. Thank you SO much for sharing--I was really beginning to wonder what was going on with me. I so appreciate all of you. There's nothing like being able to have heartfelt conversations via this forum about our deepest struggles while on similar journeys. Thank you all for sharing this part of your lives with everyone. There is so much wisdom to be gained from all of your experiences and insights! IE since Sep 2011 To: IntuitiveEating_Support Sent: Sunday, January 22, 2012 10:53 AM Subject: other habits Hi all. I am frustrated with myself because as I "seem" to be implementing some IE concepts, other addictive behaviors are raising their ugly heads. Does this happen to anyone else? I quit smoking a year and a half ago and have found myself cheating with a cigarette here and there since I started IE. I am also finding myself shopping more and more online, which is something I cannot afford to do and told myself I would not do. I am having trouble being gentle about these infractions becuase I view thwm as terrible failures and they tie in to a larger picture of distracting behaviors. I need to STOP. Help! Eden Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 22, 2012 Report Share Posted January 22, 2012 Eden, this was SUCH a wakeup call for me! I'd literally been wondering over the past couple weeks why I'm starting to ressurect some of the most annoyingly compulsive habits I've ever had. Your post explains it! I just hadn't thought to put the two things together. I think it's definitely a sign that we're supposed to look for healthy outlets for our stress and our overall feelings. Thank you SO much for sharing--I was really beginning to wonder what was going on with me. I so appreciate all of you. There's nothing like being able to have heartfelt conversations via this forum about our deepest struggles while on similar journeys. Thank you all for sharing this part of your lives with everyone. There is so much wisdom to be gained from all of your experiences and insights! IE since Sep 2011 To: IntuitiveEating_Support Sent: Sunday, January 22, 2012 10:53 AM Subject: other habits Hi all. I am frustrated with myself because as I "seem" to be implementing some IE concepts, other addictive behaviors are raising their ugly heads. Does this happen to anyone else? I quit smoking a year and a half ago and have found myself cheating with a cigarette here and there since I started IE. I am also finding myself shopping more and more online, which is something I cannot afford to do and told myself I would not do. I am having trouble being gentle about these infractions becuase I view thwm as terrible failures and they tie in to a larger picture of distracting behaviors. I need to STOP. Help! Eden Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 22, 2012 Report Share Posted January 22, 2012 Eden, this was SUCH a wakeup call for me! I'd literally been wondering over the past couple weeks why I'm starting to ressurect some of the most annoyingly compulsive habits I've ever had. Your post explains it! I just hadn't thought to put the two things together. I think it's definitely a sign that we're supposed to look for healthy outlets for our stress and our overall feelings. Thank you SO much for sharing--I was really beginning to wonder what was going on with me. I so appreciate all of you. There's nothing like being able to have heartfelt conversations via this forum about our deepest struggles while on similar journeys. Thank you all for sharing this part of your lives with everyone. There is so much wisdom to be gained from all of your experiences and insights! IE since Sep 2011 To: IntuitiveEating_Support Sent: Sunday, January 22, 2012 10:53 AM Subject: other habits Hi all. I am frustrated with myself because as I "seem" to be implementing some IE concepts, other addictive behaviors are raising their ugly heads. Does this happen to anyone else? I quit smoking a year and a half ago and have found myself cheating with a cigarette here and there since I started IE. I am also finding myself shopping more and more online, which is something I cannot afford to do and told myself I would not do. I am having trouble being gentle about these infractions becuase I view thwm as terrible failures and they tie in to a larger picture of distracting behaviors. I need to STOP. Help! Eden Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 25, 2012 Report Share Posted January 25, 2012 Thanks, everyone, for your responses to this. Of course, these are coping mechanisms which I've adopted and I think the frequency has increased due to my anxiety about weight gain and loss of control. I am in therapy currently and my counselor said a couple of really wonderful things to me. She asked me why I would judge myself harshly for turning to the things I KNOW. True, shopping and smoking and overeating are not the most healthy or positive ways to soothe myself but feeling like a failure only compounds things. Somehow, that thought helped me define " being gentle with myself " - which always seemed hard to grasp. These things have been a friend to me and it is OKAY that I have used them to feel better. Only when I truly believe that can I let them go. She also pointed out that I seemed to expect myself not to feel judgmental or anxious in the IE process and that when I did, I was viewing THAT as a failure! The point being that we can't expect ourselves to suddenly achieve a loving self-view when we've been taught and have assimilated a critical view. Does that make sense? It can't be a " results " oriented process- doing it RIGHT is not the focus! It is a many-layered process and the journey is the goal. Yours in health, Eden > > Eden, this was SUCH a wakeup call for me! I'd literally been wondering over the past couple weeks why I'm starting to ressurect some of the most annoyingly compulsive habits I've ever had. Your post explains it! I just hadn't thought to put the two things together. I think it's definitely a sign that we're supposed to look for healthy outlets for our stress and our overall feelings. Thank you SO much for sharing--I was really beginning to wonder what was going on with me. >  > I so appreciate all of you. There's nothing like being able to have heartfelt conversations via this forum about our deepest struggles while on similar journeys. Thank you all for sharing this part of your lives with everyone. There is so much wisdom to be gained from all of your experiences and insights! >  > > IE since Sep 2011 > > > ________________________________ > > To: IntuitiveEating_Support > Sent: Sunday, January 22, 2012 10:53 AM > Subject: other habits > > > >  > > Hi all. > I am frustrated with myself because as I " seem " to be implementing some IE concepts, other addictive behaviors are raising their ugly heads. Does this happen to anyone else? > > I quit smoking a year and a half ago and have found myself cheating with a cigarette here and there since I started IE. I am also finding myself shopping more and more online, which is something I cannot afford to do and told myself I would not do. > > I am having trouble being gentle about these infractions becuase I view thwm as terrible failures and they tie in to a larger picture of distracting behaviors. I need to STOP. > > Help! > Eden > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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