Custody of a younger sibling

[Guest guest]

My nada and I have been LC to NC over the last year. I have two younger

siblings: a brother and an adopted sister (adopted by nada and step-father). My

brother is out of the home and sister is 12.

Several incidents have happened over the last year between nada, step-father and

sister, including three runaway attempts by sister, nada moving out for a stint

and the most recent being a family brawl in the driveway where the cops were

called.

Step-father called me last night and asked if I would let sister come and live

with me. Without hesitation, I said yes. Step-father had moved into a hotel

and sister was staying with the babysitter, all of these things unknown to nada.

The phone calls from babysitter started around 8pm. Nada was calling her and

having her call me to get in touch with step-father (he wasn't answering his

phone when she called.) I told babysitter he was safe and to let it be. Three

more phone calls and I decided to rescue the poor woman, so I called nada. Ugh.

What a mistake.

She was irrational, crazed and evil. Conversation did not end well. I ended up

feeling like I had let my sister and step-father down and cried myself to sleep.

Step-father doesn't have much of a backbone when it comes to nada and I have a

feeling everyone will be back in the house together before the end of the day.

Old habits die hard.

I don't want her to have to grow up in that environment. I want her to grow up

physically and emotionally safe. Anyone else have a similar situation?

It seems like everyone around nada knows things are bad, but no one has the guts

to come together and end this nonsense. I can't do it alone...

[Guest guest]

Karly,

I took in both of my younger siblings when I could. My brother was 15. He has PD

issues as well and wound up stealing from me. I eventually had to ask him to

move out because I had my own 2 year old child to care for. I also took in my

sister when she was 15. (she is 2 years younger than him) She lived with me

until she was 19 and is now moving back in with me because she is pregnant and

alone.

I will never regret doing what I had to to get my siblings away from Nada. There

were some very hard times with my sister. She has chronic depression from being

raised the way we were. We are now able to talk about nada frankly and admit the

truth about who she is. My sister recently expressed her gratitude for me taking

her in and protecting her all her life. She now buys me mother's day gifts and

calls me " sistermom "

If you have the ability to take in your sister and raise her then by all means

do. If you need assistance finding resources to make that happen feel free to

email me.

Riah

>

> My nada and I have been LC to NC over the last year. I have two younger

siblings: a brother and an adopted sister (adopted by nada and step-father). My

brother is out of the home and sister is 12.

>

> Several incidents have happened over the last year between nada, step-father

and sister, including three runaway attempts by sister, nada moving out for a

stint and the most recent being a family brawl in the driveway where the cops

were called.

>

> Step-father called me last night and asked if I would let sister come and live

with me. Without hesitation, I said yes. Step-father had moved into a hotel

and sister was staying with the babysitter, all of these things unknown to nada.

>

> The phone calls from babysitter started around 8pm. Nada was calling her and

having her call me to get in touch with step-father (he wasn't answering his

phone when she called.) I told babysitter he was safe and to let it be. Three

more phone calls and I decided to rescue the poor woman, so I called nada. Ugh.

What a mistake.

>

> She was irrational, crazed and evil. Conversation did not end well. I ended

up feeling like I had let my sister and step-father down and cried myself to

sleep. Step-father doesn't have much of a backbone when it comes to nada and I

have a feeling everyone will be back in the house together before the end of the

day. Old habits die hard.

>

> I don't want her to have to grow up in that environment. I want her to grow

up physically and emotionally safe. Anyone else have a similar situation?

>

> It seems like everyone around nada knows things are bad, but no one has the

guts to come together and end this nonsense. I can't do it alone...

>

[Guest guest]

Karly,

I took in both of my younger siblings when I could. My brother was 15. He has PD

issues as well and wound up stealing from me. I eventually had to ask him to

move out because I had my own 2 year old child to care for. I also took in my

sister when she was 15. (she is 2 years younger than him) She lived with me

until she was 19 and is now moving back in with me because she is pregnant and

alone.

I will never regret doing what I had to to get my siblings away from Nada. There

were some very hard times with my sister. She has chronic depression from being

raised the way we were. We are now able to talk about nada frankly and admit the

truth about who she is. My sister recently expressed her gratitude for me taking

her in and protecting her all her life. She now buys me mother's day gifts and

calls me " sistermom "

If you have the ability to take in your sister and raise her then by all means

do. If you need assistance finding resources to make that happen feel free to

email me.

Riah

>

> My nada and I have been LC to NC over the last year. I have two younger

siblings: a brother and an adopted sister (adopted by nada and step-father). My

brother is out of the home and sister is 12.

>

> Several incidents have happened over the last year between nada, step-father

and sister, including three runaway attempts by sister, nada moving out for a

stint and the most recent being a family brawl in the driveway where the cops

were called.

>

> Step-father called me last night and asked if I would let sister come and live

with me. Without hesitation, I said yes. Step-father had moved into a hotel

and sister was staying with the babysitter, all of these things unknown to nada.

>

> The phone calls from babysitter started around 8pm. Nada was calling her and

having her call me to get in touch with step-father (he wasn't answering his

phone when she called.) I told babysitter he was safe and to let it be. Three

more phone calls and I decided to rescue the poor woman, so I called nada. Ugh.

What a mistake.

>

> She was irrational, crazed and evil. Conversation did not end well. I ended

up feeling like I had let my sister and step-father down and cried myself to

sleep. Step-father doesn't have much of a backbone when it comes to nada and I

have a feeling everyone will be back in the house together before the end of the

day. Old habits die hard.

>

> I don't want her to have to grow up in that environment. I want her to grow

up physically and emotionally safe. Anyone else have a similar situation?

>

> It seems like everyone around nada knows things are bad, but no one has the

guts to come together and end this nonsense. I can't do it alone...

>

[Guest guest]

Karly,

I took in both of my younger siblings when I could. My brother was 15. He has PD

issues as well and wound up stealing from me. I eventually had to ask him to

move out because I had my own 2 year old child to care for. I also took in my

sister when she was 15. (she is 2 years younger than him) She lived with me

until she was 19 and is now moving back in with me because she is pregnant and

alone.

I will never regret doing what I had to to get my siblings away from Nada. There

were some very hard times with my sister. She has chronic depression from being

raised the way we were. We are now able to talk about nada frankly and admit the

truth about who she is. My sister recently expressed her gratitude for me taking

her in and protecting her all her life. She now buys me mother's day gifts and

calls me " sistermom "

If you have the ability to take in your sister and raise her then by all means

do. If you need assistance finding resources to make that happen feel free to

email me.

Riah

>

> My nada and I have been LC to NC over the last year. I have two younger

siblings: a brother and an adopted sister (adopted by nada and step-father). My

brother is out of the home and sister is 12.

>

> Several incidents have happened over the last year between nada, step-father

and sister, including three runaway attempts by sister, nada moving out for a

stint and the most recent being a family brawl in the driveway where the cops

were called.

>

> Step-father called me last night and asked if I would let sister come and live

with me. Without hesitation, I said yes. Step-father had moved into a hotel

and sister was staying with the babysitter, all of these things unknown to nada.

>

> The phone calls from babysitter started around 8pm. Nada was calling her and

having her call me to get in touch with step-father (he wasn't answering his

phone when she called.) I told babysitter he was safe and to let it be. Three

more phone calls and I decided to rescue the poor woman, so I called nada. Ugh.

What a mistake.

>

> She was irrational, crazed and evil. Conversation did not end well. I ended

up feeling like I had let my sister and step-father down and cried myself to

sleep. Step-father doesn't have much of a backbone when it comes to nada and I

have a feeling everyone will be back in the house together before the end of the

day. Old habits die hard.

>

> I don't want her to have to grow up in that environment. I want her to grow

up physically and emotionally safe. Anyone else have a similar situation?

>

> It seems like everyone around nada knows things are bad, but no one has the

guts to come together and end this nonsense. I can't do it alone...

>

[Guest guest]

I suppose I should throw in the following facts:

Nada is a very successful and well-respected principal within the very small,

remote town where they live. In fact, she has her degree in counseling. Irony

at it's best.

I am sure the aforementioned fact is why the cops didn't do much when they came.

My idea was to threaten both nada and step-father with the police if they didn't

let her come to live with me. Damage to nada's career is the only valid threat

I had. Now that I know police were involved, I feel as though my hands are

tied.

Everyone on the outside thinks my sister is the one with the issues. She is

adopted, you know. Sister came to live with my nada at age 1. Since nada had

no control over first year, she cannot be held accountable for sister's

behavior.

My view: sister is a normal kid with a crazy living situation. When she comes

to stay with us, she is fine. Not perfect, but fine. What kid is perfect?

[Guest guest]

I suppose I should throw in the following facts:

Nada is a very successful and well-respected principal within the very small,

remote town where they live. In fact, she has her degree in counseling. Irony

at it's best.

I am sure the aforementioned fact is why the cops didn't do much when they came.

My idea was to threaten both nada and step-father with the police if they didn't

let her come to live with me. Damage to nada's career is the only valid threat

I had. Now that I know police were involved, I feel as though my hands are

tied.

Everyone on the outside thinks my sister is the one with the issues. She is

adopted, you know. Sister came to live with my nada at age 1. Since nada had

no control over first year, she cannot be held accountable for sister's

behavior.

My view: sister is a normal kid with a crazy living situation. When she comes

to stay with us, she is fine. Not perfect, but fine. What kid is perfect?

[Guest guest]

I suppose I should throw in the following facts:

Nada is a very successful and well-respected principal within the very small,

remote town where they live. In fact, she has her degree in counseling. Irony

at it's best.

I am sure the aforementioned fact is why the cops didn't do much when they came.

My idea was to threaten both nada and step-father with the police if they didn't

let her come to live with me. Damage to nada's career is the only valid threat

I had. Now that I know police were involved, I feel as though my hands are

tied.

Everyone on the outside thinks my sister is the one with the issues. She is

adopted, you know. Sister came to live with my nada at age 1. Since nada had

no control over first year, she cannot be held accountable for sister's

behavior.

My view: sister is a normal kid with a crazy living situation. When she comes

to stay with us, she is fine. Not perfect, but fine. What kid is perfect?