Triangulation Boundary with Dad's Illness

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Hi,

Thank you for your advice regarding my dad's terminal illness and setting

boundaries with my mother, his ex-wife, who is constantly fishing for details

about his terminal illness. I just had a talk with her. After a quick hello, she

immediately asked for an update on my father's health. I repeated my boundary.

She insisted she only wanted to know so that she could support me. I said if

your goal is to support me, then please accept as your answer that I'm doing

fine. I changed the subject and she didn't resist. Let's see if she remembers

this the next time we speak. The thing with an alcoholic is they can't remember

any conversations. Makes you feel like you're in the movie Groundhog Day.