a reconfirmation that bpd is an intractable and probably organic disorder

[Guest guest]

Just when I was starting to feel like maybe I was being too hard-nosed about

maintaining NO Contact with nada and feeling that maybe I should re-establish

very limited contact with her, I found out today from Sister that nada has

stabbed Sister in the heart again, out of the blue.

It seems that not only is our nada's memory deteriorating rapidly (nada accused

Sister of only seeing her once a year: nada doesn't remember the recent

out-of-state trip she and Sister took together, or their Thanksgiving visit,

among other visits) nada also accused Sister of being " a shark " and being

untrustworthy and undeserving to be the executor of nada's will. Sister was

devastated by that vitriolic and undeserved slap, and decided to break contact

with nada, again. I felt so badly for Sister. Sister had managed to maintain a

relationship with our nada with firm boundaries and limits in place since nada

completed therapy and nada seemed to be going along with the program, but

apparently, again, the seeming improvement was not genuine.

In our nada's case, it seems that the disease is intractable and is worsening

with old age. It really does appear as though our nada is on the " borderline "

between neurosis and psychosis. My nada is experiencing paranoia and delusions

(even hallucinations?) more frequently now; Sister says that nada smells smells

that aren't there and sees people that aren't there, and nada is now convinced

that Sister is neglecting her and is after her money.

It is sad, truly, but its also important for Sister and me to protect ourselves

from false claims of elder abuse, so Sister is going to inform our nada's sister

(our Auntie The Younger) of nada's recent change of heart regarding her will and

totally back away so that nada can choose her own sister or someone else to be

the executor of nada's will instead of Sister.

Bpd and the other Cluster B disorders are such horrible, horrible conditions,

its truly tragic that they cause such unhappiness for both the person who has it

and such devastating emotional damage to their loved ones, particularly to their

children.

God please help all the researchers; please help them discover a cure for this

thing.

-Annie