RE: Is it just me?

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No , its not just you.This sucks. I'm a single mom I work full time have UHC insurance. My daughter needs an ultrasound and they just informed me that it would cost 700 due to the deductible. I do not have 700. So she is not getting it. She's also suppose to get a MRI, wonder how much that costs.I think I should quit my job thus be eligble for Medicaid and then my kid can get better services.Not sure if getting a job is such a great idea, yeah you earn some income but you end up paying so much more for your kids services.Sent on the Sprint® Now Network from my BlackBerry®Date: Wed, 27 Jan 2010 14:18:26 -0800 (PST)To: <sList >Subject: Re: Is it just me? , I am not so sure that the kids needs afternoon therapy to show significant progress. Most kids with ASD on this globe go home after school to have down time. They do not get additional instruction. What prevents you from getting a job like the rest of us? I bet you most of your son's classmates (autism or not) are in aftercare, or I am wrong? Of course it would be nice to be a "stay at home" mom, but can afford that? LizFrom: ewihlborgaol <ewihlborgaol>Subject: Is it just me?To: sList Date: Tuesday, January 26, 2010, 7:58 PM Hi all I wanted your opinion on these 2 matters. Is it just me? Raising a child is hard enough. Then you a Autism and health issues and that's a whole other ball game. My wonderful son is 7 years old and in first grade. Yes, he's improving day to day. He's still so far behind from other kids his age. I hate comparing him to kids his age because he is not like kids his age. On top of he fact I do not have anyone to pick him up from school, take him to doctors appointments etc I have issues with therapy. He'll have therapy but then his insurance says that we have reached the maximum benefits for the year and we have to pay out of pocket. I can not afford it. Then when the insurance kicks in we have to WAIT for an evaluation, then WAIT for appointments to get approved, So, my son hasn't received therapy in 8 months. Also, how am I suppose to find a job? I can only work when my son is in school. And I go to school 2 days a week. Yes I can work some weekends. Is it just me in this situation? Does anyone have any advice?

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No , its not just you.This sucks. I'm a single mom I work full time have UHC insurance. My daughter needs an ultrasound and they just informed me that it would cost 700 due to the deductible. I do not have 700. So she is not getting it. She's also suppose to get a MRI, wonder how much that costs.I think I should quit my job thus be eligble for Medicaid and then my kid can get better services.Not sure if getting a job is such a great idea, yeah you earn some income but you end up paying so much more for your kids services.Sent on the Sprint® Now Network from my BlackBerry®Date: Wed, 27 Jan 2010 14:18:26 -0800 (PST)To: <sList >Subject: Re: Is it just me? , I am not so sure that the kids needs afternoon therapy to show significant progress. Most kids with ASD on this globe go home after school to have down time. They do not get additional instruction. What prevents you from getting a job like the rest of us? I bet you most of your son's classmates (autism or not) are in aftercare, or I am wrong? Of course it would be nice to be a "stay at home" mom, but can afford that? LizFrom: ewihlborgaol <ewihlborgaol>Subject: Is it just me?To: sList Date: Tuesday, January 26, 2010, 7:58 PM Hi all I wanted your opinion on these 2 matters. Is it just me? Raising a child is hard enough. Then you a Autism and health issues and that's a whole other ball game. My wonderful son is 7 years old and in first grade. Yes, he's improving day to day. He's still so far behind from other kids his age. I hate comparing him to kids his age because he is not like kids his age. On top of he fact I do not have anyone to pick him up from school, take him to doctors appointments etc I have issues with therapy. He'll have therapy but then his insurance says that we have reached the maximum benefits for the year and we have to pay out of pocket. I can not afford it. Then when the insurance kicks in we have to WAIT for an evaluation, then WAIT for appointments to get approved, So, my son hasn't received therapy in 8 months. Also, how am I suppose to find a job? I can only work when my son is in school. And I go to school 2 days a week. Yes I can work some weekends. Is it just me in this situation? Does anyone have any advice?

[Guest guest]

No , its not just you.This sucks. I'm a single mom I work full time have UHC insurance. My daughter needs an ultrasound and they just informed me that it would cost 700 due to the deductible. I do not have 700. So she is not getting it. She's also suppose to get a MRI, wonder how much that costs.I think I should quit my job thus be eligble for Medicaid and then my kid can get better services.Not sure if getting a job is such a great idea, yeah you earn some income but you end up paying so much more for your kids services.Sent on the Sprint® Now Network from my BlackBerry®Date: Wed, 27 Jan 2010 14:18:26 -0800 (PST)To: <sList >Subject: Re: Is it just me? , I am not so sure that the kids needs afternoon therapy to show significant progress. Most kids with ASD on this globe go home after school to have down time. They do not get additional instruction. What prevents you from getting a job like the rest of us? I bet you most of your son's classmates (autism or not) are in aftercare, or I am wrong? Of course it would be nice to be a "stay at home" mom, but can afford that? LizFrom: ewihlborgaol <ewihlborgaol>Subject: Is it just me?To: sList Date: Tuesday, January 26, 2010, 7:58 PM Hi all I wanted your opinion on these 2 matters. Is it just me? Raising a child is hard enough. Then you a Autism and health issues and that's a whole other ball game. My wonderful son is 7 years old and in first grade. Yes, he's improving day to day. He's still so far behind from other kids his age. I hate comparing him to kids his age because he is not like kids his age. On top of he fact I do not have anyone to pick him up from school, take him to doctors appointments etc I have issues with therapy. He'll have therapy but then his insurance says that we have reached the maximum benefits for the year and we have to pay out of pocket. I can not afford it. Then when the insurance kicks in we have to WAIT for an evaluation, then WAIT for appointments to get approved, So, my son hasn't received therapy in 8 months. Also, how am I suppose to find a job? I can only work when my son is in school. And I go to school 2 days a week. Yes I can work some weekends. Is it just me in this situation? Does anyone have any advice?

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,You are not alone in this. I have a 14yr old son w/ cerebral palsy, who has needed ot/pt/speech/behavior therapy since the time he was 8mons old, so I know what you're going thru. He's had insurance issues, medicaid given taken away, ssi provided taken away, etc., etc., etc...I can go on on, but he too has had to suffer from lack of therapies because insurance won't pay!I also went thru divorce when he was about 4 went thru all that, while working full time. I quit my job after my divorce to pursue a career in financial services, but that too was very difficult because my appts were in the evenings.The one thing I can tell you from personal experience is...there is hope if you have faith, things do work out some how.My son has come such a long way...he now reads, walks his speech is getting better. He attends Divine Academy, a private school for our kids from middle school to high school, and most of the tuition is paid for by the McKay scholarship. I remarried, I am self-employed although not wealthy, I know I'm not alone.We also have a prayer group for parents with special needs children to support one another and share our individual experiences and resources. I will be posting our next meeting in the near future.Don't lose hope, you are not alone!Sent on the Now Network™ from my Sprint® BlackBerryDate: Wed, 27 Jan 2010 18:15:00 -0500To: <sList >Subject: Re: Is it just me? Lizzie,I also did mention in my email that my son also has health issues so I'm consistently going to doctors appointments. About me and getting a job. Its hard enough finding a job but finding a job when my son is in school & them being ok if I need this day or that day off is harder. Is it just me?To: sList Date: Tuesday, January 26, 2010, 7:58 PMHi allI wanted your opinion on these 2 matters. Is it just me? Raising a child is hard enough. Then you a Autism and health issues and that's a whole other ball game. My wonderful son is 7 years old and in first grade. Yes, he's improving day to day. He's still so far behind from other kids his age. I hate comparing him to kids his age because he is not like kids his age. On top of he fact I do not have anyone to pick him up from school, take him to doctors appointments etc I have issues with therapy. He'll have therapy but then his insurance says that we have reached the maximum benefits for the year and we have to pay out of pocket. I can not afford it. Then when the insurance kicks in we have to WAIT for an evaluation, then WAIT for appointments to get approved, So, my son hasn't received therapy in 8 months.Also, how am I suppose to find a job? I can only work when my son is in school. And I go to school 2 days a week. Yes I can work some weekends. Is it just me in this situation? Does anyone have any advice?

[Guest guest]

,You are not alone in this. I have a 14yr old son w/ cerebral palsy, who has needed ot/pt/speech/behavior therapy since the time he was 8mons old, so I know what you're going thru. He's had insurance issues, medicaid given taken away, ssi provided taken away, etc., etc., etc...I can go on on, but he too has had to suffer from lack of therapies because insurance won't pay!I also went thru divorce when he was about 4 went thru all that, while working full time. I quit my job after my divorce to pursue a career in financial services, but that too was very difficult because my appts were in the evenings.The one thing I can tell you from personal experience is...there is hope if you have faith, things do work out some how.My son has come such a long way...he now reads, walks his speech is getting better. He attends Divine Academy, a private school for our kids from middle school to high school, and most of the tuition is paid for by the McKay scholarship. I remarried, I am self-employed although not wealthy, I know I'm not alone.We also have a prayer group for parents with special needs children to support one another and share our individual experiences and resources. I will be posting our next meeting in the near future.Don't lose hope, you are not alone!Sent on the Now Network™ from my Sprint® BlackBerryDate: Wed, 27 Jan 2010 18:15:00 -0500To: <sList >Subject: Re: Is it just me? Lizzie,I also did mention in my email that my son also has health issues so I'm consistently going to doctors appointments. About me and getting a job. Its hard enough finding a job but finding a job when my son is in school & them being ok if I need this day or that day off is harder. Is it just me?To: sList Date: Tuesday, January 26, 2010, 7:58 PMHi allI wanted your opinion on these 2 matters. Is it just me? Raising a child is hard enough. Then you a Autism and health issues and that's a whole other ball game. My wonderful son is 7 years old and in first grade. Yes, he's improving day to day. He's still so far behind from other kids his age. I hate comparing him to kids his age because he is not like kids his age. On top of he fact I do not have anyone to pick him up from school, take him to doctors appointments etc I have issues with therapy. He'll have therapy but then his insurance says that we have reached the maximum benefits for the year and we have to pay out of pocket. I can not afford it. Then when the insurance kicks in we have to WAIT for an evaluation, then WAIT for appointments to get approved, So, my son hasn't received therapy in 8 months.Also, how am I suppose to find a job? I can only work when my son is in school. And I go to school 2 days a week. Yes I can work some weekends. Is it just me in this situation? Does anyone have any advice?

[Guest guest]

,You are not alone in this. I have a 14yr old son w/ cerebral palsy, who has needed ot/pt/speech/behavior therapy since the time he was 8mons old, so I know what you're going thru. He's had insurance issues, medicaid given taken away, ssi provided taken away, etc., etc., etc...I can go on on, but he too has had to suffer from lack of therapies because insurance won't pay!I also went thru divorce when he was about 4 went thru all that, while working full time. I quit my job after my divorce to pursue a career in financial services, but that too was very difficult because my appts were in the evenings.The one thing I can tell you from personal experience is...there is hope if you have faith, things do work out some how.My son has come such a long way...he now reads, walks his speech is getting better. He attends Divine Academy, a private school for our kids from middle school to high school, and most of the tuition is paid for by the McKay scholarship. I remarried, I am self-employed although not wealthy, I know I'm not alone.We also have a prayer group for parents with special needs children to support one another and share our individual experiences and resources. I will be posting our next meeting in the near future.Don't lose hope, you are not alone!Sent on the Now Network™ from my Sprint® BlackBerryDate: Wed, 27 Jan 2010 18:15:00 -0500To: <sList >Subject: Re: Is it just me? Lizzie,I also did mention in my email that my son also has health issues so I'm consistently going to doctors appointments. About me and getting a job. Its hard enough finding a job but finding a job when my son is in school & them being ok if I need this day or that day off is harder. Is it just me?To: sList Date: Tuesday, January 26, 2010, 7:58 PMHi allI wanted your opinion on these 2 matters. Is it just me? Raising a child is hard enough. Then you a Autism and health issues and that's a whole other ball game. My wonderful son is 7 years old and in first grade. Yes, he's improving day to day. He's still so far behind from other kids his age. I hate comparing him to kids his age because he is not like kids his age. On top of he fact I do not have anyone to pick him up from school, take him to doctors appointments etc I have issues with therapy. He'll have therapy but then his insurance says that we have reached the maximum benefits for the year and we have to pay out of pocket. I can not afford it. Then when the insurance kicks in we have to WAIT for an evaluation, then WAIT for appointments to get approved, So, my son hasn't received therapy in 8 months.Also, how am I suppose to find a job? I can only work when my son is in school. And I go to school 2 days a week. Yes I can work some weekends. Is it just me in this situation? Does anyone have any advice?

[Guest guest]

Just to chime in, I don’t think any of us need to defend our

situation or needs…we are all different, as are our children. It is

hard to know what somebody is really experiencing unless you yourself have been

there. Many of us can relate and others not, but judgments or defending are

not needed here…after all, it is my understanding that the list serve is

here for our support of one another. Its tough both at home AND at work…I

think we all do the best we can to make our situation work for us and sometimes

we find we get stuck and need some guidance. I have found great advise,

comfort and direction from this site. I wouldn’t want anyone not to

feel they could not share their concerns, fears, and hopes here.

Cohane, LCSW

creating connections and strengthening families by providing

developmental-behavioral interventions and psychotherapy services

Cohane@...

From: sList [mailto:sList ] On Behalf Of ewihlborg@...

Sent: Wednesday, January 27, 2010

6:15 PM

To: sList

Subject: Re: Is it

just me?

Lizzie,

I also did mention in my email that my son also has health issues so I'm

consistently going to doctors appointments.

About me and getting a job. Its hard enough finding a job but finding a job

when my son is in school & them being ok if I need this day or that day off

is harder.

Is it just me?

To: sList

Date: Tuesday, January 26, 2010, 7:58 PM

Hi all

I wanted your opinion on these 2 matters. Is it just me? Raising a child is

hard enough. Then you a Autism and health issues and that's a whole other ball

game. My wonderful son is 7 years old and in first grade. Yes, he's improving

day to day. He's still so far behind from other kids his age. I hate comparing

him to kids his age because he is not like kids his age. On top of he fact I do

not have anyone to pick him up from school, take him to doctors appointments

etc I have issues with therapy. He'll have therapy but then his insurance says

that we have reached the maximum benefits for the year and we have to pay out

of pocket. I can not afford it. Then when the insurance kicks in we have to

WAIT for an evaluation, then WAIT for appointments to get approved, So, my son

hasn't received therapy in 8 months.

Also, how am I suppose to find a job? I can only work when my son is in school.

And I go to school 2 days a week. Yes I can work some weekends. Is it just me

in this situation? Does anyone have any advice?

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[Guest guest]

Just to chime in, I don’t think any of us need to defend our

situation or needs…we are all different, as are our children. It is

hard to know what somebody is really experiencing unless you yourself have been

there. Many of us can relate and others not, but judgments or defending are

not needed here…after all, it is my understanding that the list serve is

here for our support of one another. Its tough both at home AND at work…I

think we all do the best we can to make our situation work for us and sometimes

we find we get stuck and need some guidance. I have found great advise,

comfort and direction from this site. I wouldn’t want anyone not to

feel they could not share their concerns, fears, and hopes here.

Cohane, LCSW

creating connections and strengthening families by providing

developmental-behavioral interventions and psychotherapy services

Cohane@...

From: sList [mailto:sList ] On Behalf Of ewihlborg@...

Sent: Wednesday, January 27, 2010

6:15 PM

To: sList

Subject: Re: Is it

just me?

Lizzie,

I also did mention in my email that my son also has health issues so I'm

consistently going to doctors appointments.

About me and getting a job. Its hard enough finding a job but finding a job

when my son is in school & them being ok if I need this day or that day off

is harder.

Is it just me?

To: sList

Date: Tuesday, January 26, 2010, 7:58 PM

Hi all

I wanted your opinion on these 2 matters. Is it just me? Raising a child is

hard enough. Then you a Autism and health issues and that's a whole other ball

game. My wonderful son is 7 years old and in first grade. Yes, he's improving

day to day. He's still so far behind from other kids his age. I hate comparing

him to kids his age because he is not like kids his age. On top of he fact I do

not have anyone to pick him up from school, take him to doctors appointments

etc I have issues with therapy. He'll have therapy but then his insurance says

that we have reached the maximum benefits for the year and we have to pay out

of pocket. I can not afford it. Then when the insurance kicks in we have to

WAIT for an evaluation, then WAIT for appointments to get approved, So, my son

hasn't received therapy in 8 months.

Also, how am I suppose to find a job? I can only work when my son is in school.

And I go to school 2 days a week. Yes I can work some weekends. Is it just me

in this situation? Does anyone have any advice?

No virus found in this incoming message.

Checked by AVG - www.avg.com

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[Guest guest]

Just to chime in, I don’t think any of us need to defend our

situation or needs…we are all different, as are our children. It is

hard to know what somebody is really experiencing unless you yourself have been

there. Many of us can relate and others not, but judgments or defending are

not needed here…after all, it is my understanding that the list serve is

here for our support of one another. Its tough both at home AND at work…I

think we all do the best we can to make our situation work for us and sometimes

we find we get stuck and need some guidance. I have found great advise,

comfort and direction from this site. I wouldn’t want anyone not to

feel they could not share their concerns, fears, and hopes here.

Cohane, LCSW

creating connections and strengthening families by providing

developmental-behavioral interventions and psychotherapy services

Cohane@...

From: sList [mailto:sList ] On Behalf Of ewihlborg@...

Sent: Wednesday, January 27, 2010

6:15 PM

To: sList

Subject: Re: Is it

just me?

Lizzie,

I also did mention in my email that my son also has health issues so I'm

consistently going to doctors appointments.

About me and getting a job. Its hard enough finding a job but finding a job

when my son is in school & them being ok if I need this day or that day off

is harder.

Is it just me?

To: sList

Date: Tuesday, January 26, 2010, 7:58 PM

Hi all

I wanted your opinion on these 2 matters. Is it just me? Raising a child is

hard enough. Then you a Autism and health issues and that's a whole other ball

game. My wonderful son is 7 years old and in first grade. Yes, he's improving

day to day. He's still so far behind from other kids his age. I hate comparing

him to kids his age because he is not like kids his age. On top of he fact I do

not have anyone to pick him up from school, take him to doctors appointments

etc I have issues with therapy. He'll have therapy but then his insurance says

that we have reached the maximum benefits for the year and we have to pay out

of pocket. I can not afford it. Then when the insurance kicks in we have to

WAIT for an evaluation, then WAIT for appointments to get approved, So, my son

hasn't received therapy in 8 months.

Also, how am I suppose to find a job? I can only work when my son is in school.

And I go to school 2 days a week. Yes I can work some weekends. Is it just me

in this situation? Does anyone have any advice?

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Hi ,Times are tough for everyone. Its especially hard when you are alone with a child on the spectrum. Its never a sure thing but solicit as many family members as you can for afterschool help for your little guy. My son is high functioning and I am still not comfortable leaving him in aftercare (that's just me). If your family is not close by you might consider moving near to them, even if its for emergencies. (It just a thought) Right now you need support to get started so that you can make enough money to function. Anyway, keep your head up it will get better. MarvaSent on the Sprint® Now Network from my BlackBerry®Date: Wed, 27 Jan 2010 18:15:00 -0500To: <sList >Subject: Re: Is it just me? Lizzie,I also did mention in my email that my son also has health issues so I'm consistently going to doctors appointments. About me and getting a job. Its hard enough finding a job but finding a job when my son is in school & them being ok if I need this day or that day off is harder. Is it just me?To: sList Date: Tuesday, January 26, 2010, 7:58 PMHi allI wanted your opinion on these 2 matters. Is it just me? Raising a child is hard enough. Then you a Autism and health issues and that's a whole other ball game. My wonderful son is 7 years old and in first grade. Yes, he's improving day to day. He's still so far behind from other kids his age. I hate comparing him to kids his age because he is not like kids his age. On top of he fact I do not have anyone to pick him up from school, take him to doctors appointments etc I have issues with therapy. He'll have therapy but then his insurance says that we have reached the maximum benefits for the year and we have to pay out of pocket. I can not afford it. Then when the insurance kicks in we have to WAIT for an evaluation, then WAIT for appointments to get approved, So, my son hasn't received therapy in 8 months.Also, how am I suppose to find a job? I can only work when my son is in school. And I go to school 2 days a week. Yes I can work some weekends. Is it just me in this situation? Does anyone have any advice?

[Guest guest]

Hi ,Times are tough for everyone. Its especially hard when you are alone with a child on the spectrum. Its never a sure thing but solicit as many family members as you can for afterschool help for your little guy. My son is high functioning and I am still not comfortable leaving him in aftercare (that's just me). If your family is not close by you might consider moving near to them, even if its for emergencies. (It just a thought) Right now you need support to get started so that you can make enough money to function. Anyway, keep your head up it will get better. MarvaSent on the Sprint® Now Network from my BlackBerry®Date: Wed, 27 Jan 2010 18:15:00 -0500To: <sList >Subject: Re: Is it just me? Lizzie,I also did mention in my email that my son also has health issues so I'm consistently going to doctors appointments. About me and getting a job. Its hard enough finding a job but finding a job when my son is in school & them being ok if I need this day or that day off is harder. Is it just me?To: sList Date: Tuesday, January 26, 2010, 7:58 PMHi allI wanted your opinion on these 2 matters. Is it just me? Raising a child is hard enough. Then you a Autism and health issues and that's a whole other ball game. My wonderful son is 7 years old and in first grade. Yes, he's improving day to day. He's still so far behind from other kids his age. I hate comparing him to kids his age because he is not like kids his age. On top of he fact I do not have anyone to pick him up from school, take him to doctors appointments etc I have issues with therapy. He'll have therapy but then his insurance says that we have reached the maximum benefits for the year and we have to pay out of pocket. I can not afford it. Then when the insurance kicks in we have to WAIT for an evaluation, then WAIT for appointments to get approved, So, my son hasn't received therapy in 8 months.Also, how am I suppose to find a job? I can only work when my son is in school. And I go to school 2 days a week. Yes I can work some weekends. Is it just me in this situation? Does anyone have any advice?

[Guest guest]

Hi ,Times are tough for everyone. Its especially hard when you are alone with a child on the spectrum. Its never a sure thing but solicit as many family members as you can for afterschool help for your little guy. My son is high functioning and I am still not comfortable leaving him in aftercare (that's just me). If your family is not close by you might consider moving near to them, even if its for emergencies. (It just a thought) Right now you need support to get started so that you can make enough money to function. Anyway, keep your head up it will get better. MarvaSent on the Sprint® Now Network from my BlackBerry®Date: Wed, 27 Jan 2010 18:15:00 -0500To: <sList >Subject: Re: Is it just me? Lizzie,I also did mention in my email that my son also has health issues so I'm consistently going to doctors appointments. About me and getting a job. Its hard enough finding a job but finding a job when my son is in school & them being ok if I need this day or that day off is harder. Is it just me?To: sList Date: Tuesday, January 26, 2010, 7:58 PMHi allI wanted your opinion on these 2 matters. Is it just me? Raising a child is hard enough. Then you a Autism and health issues and that's a whole other ball game. My wonderful son is 7 years old and in first grade. Yes, he's improving day to day. He's still so far behind from other kids his age. I hate comparing him to kids his age because he is not like kids his age. On top of he fact I do not have anyone to pick him up from school, take him to doctors appointments etc I have issues with therapy. He'll have therapy but then his insurance says that we have reached the maximum benefits for the year and we have to pay out of pocket. I can not afford it. Then when the insurance kicks in we have to WAIT for an evaluation, then WAIT for appointments to get approved, So, my son hasn't received therapy in 8 months.Also, how am I suppose to find a job? I can only work when my son is in school. And I go to school 2 days a week. Yes I can work some weekends. Is it just me in this situation? Does anyone have any advice?

[Guest guest]

Hi You are not alone!  I am a single mom of two boys with autism and I am a full time under-graduate, determined to finish my degree, so that I can better the lives of my kids and start planning something for their future when I am not around (the biggest fear of them all).  

You definitely need to make time for yourself (take a break) to balance out your life.  Again, I know the implications, sitters etc.  I do it, even though I cannot really afford it.  Sometimes we miss out on social activities that are taken for granted by most, especially being single parents.   

Autism can be very overwhelming at times and sometimes it helps to have someone on the end of a phone just to vent. If you ever need this, you are free to call me ANYTIME:  .  I would be more than happy to get together with other single moms/dads and their kids at the weekends for a social.  Anyone interested?  We are in Weston.

Keep your chin up!Caroline.

 

Hi , I feel so bad reading your email, as do so many others, because I think at one point or another we all could have written it. Dealing with autism and all that goes along with it is extremely overwhelming at times. I don't know what your skillset is in terms of work. I work full time and it's a juggling act every day. All of my personal time and vacation time goes to doctor's appointments and therapy. I do not know where you live but I have a boy with autism in 3rd grade and a typical boy in 1st. If I can help you at all some weekends let me know.

I live in Coral Springs.

Jane

Is it just me?

 

Hi all

 

I wanted your opinion on these 2 matters. Is it just me? Raising a child is hard enough.  Then you a Autism and health issues and that's a whole other ball game.  My wonderful son is 7 years old and in first grade. Yes, he's improving day to day.  He's still so far behind from other kids his age. I hate comparing him to kids his age because he is not like kids his age.  On top of he fact I do not have anyone to pick him up from school, take him to doctors appointments etc I have issues with therapy. He'll have therapy but then his insurance says that we have reached the maximum benefits for the year and we have to pay out of pocket. I can not afford it. Then when the insurance kicks in we have to WAIT for an evaluation, then WAIT for appointments to get approved, So, my son hasn't received therapy in 8 months.

 

Also, how am I suppose to find a job? I can only work when my son is in school. And I go to school 2 days a week. Yes I can work some weekends. Is it just me in this situation? Does anyone have any advice?

 

[Guest guest]

Hi You are not alone!  I am a single mom of two boys with autism and I am a full time under-graduate, determined to finish my degree, so that I can better the lives of my kids and start planning something for their future when I am not around (the biggest fear of them all).  

You definitely need to make time for yourself (take a break) to balance out your life.  Again, I know the implications, sitters etc.  I do it, even though I cannot really afford it.  Sometimes we miss out on social activities that are taken for granted by most, especially being single parents.   

Autism can be very overwhelming at times and sometimes it helps to have someone on the end of a phone just to vent. If you ever need this, you are free to call me ANYTIME:  .  I would be more than happy to get together with other single moms/dads and their kids at the weekends for a social.  Anyone interested?  We are in Weston.

Keep your chin up!Caroline.

 

Hi , I feel so bad reading your email, as do so many others, because I think at one point or another we all could have written it. Dealing with autism and all that goes along with it is extremely overwhelming at times. I don't know what your skillset is in terms of work. I work full time and it's a juggling act every day. All of my personal time and vacation time goes to doctor's appointments and therapy. I do not know where you live but I have a boy with autism in 3rd grade and a typical boy in 1st. If I can help you at all some weekends let me know.

I live in Coral Springs.

Jane

Is it just me?

 

Hi all

 

I wanted your opinion on these 2 matters. Is it just me? Raising a child is hard enough.  Then you a Autism and health issues and that's a whole other ball game.  My wonderful son is 7 years old and in first grade. Yes, he's improving day to day.  He's still so far behind from other kids his age. I hate comparing him to kids his age because he is not like kids his age.  On top of he fact I do not have anyone to pick him up from school, take him to doctors appointments etc I have issues with therapy. He'll have therapy but then his insurance says that we have reached the maximum benefits for the year and we have to pay out of pocket. I can not afford it. Then when the insurance kicks in we have to WAIT for an evaluation, then WAIT for appointments to get approved, So, my son hasn't received therapy in 8 months.

 

Also, how am I suppose to find a job? I can only work when my son is in school. And I go to school 2 days a week. Yes I can work some weekends. Is it just me in this situation? Does anyone have any advice?

 

[Guest guest]

Hi You are not alone!  I am a single mom of two boys with autism and I am a full time under-graduate, determined to finish my degree, so that I can better the lives of my kids and start planning something for their future when I am not around (the biggest fear of them all).  

You definitely need to make time for yourself (take a break) to balance out your life.  Again, I know the implications, sitters etc.  I do it, even though I cannot really afford it.  Sometimes we miss out on social activities that are taken for granted by most, especially being single parents.   

Autism can be very overwhelming at times and sometimes it helps to have someone on the end of a phone just to vent. If you ever need this, you are free to call me ANYTIME:  .  I would be more than happy to get together with other single moms/dads and their kids at the weekends for a social.  Anyone interested?  We are in Weston.

Keep your chin up!Caroline.

 

Hi , I feel so bad reading your email, as do so many others, because I think at one point or another we all could have written it. Dealing with autism and all that goes along with it is extremely overwhelming at times. I don't know what your skillset is in terms of work. I work full time and it's a juggling act every day. All of my personal time and vacation time goes to doctor's appointments and therapy. I do not know where you live but I have a boy with autism in 3rd grade and a typical boy in 1st. If I can help you at all some weekends let me know.

I live in Coral Springs.

Jane

Is it just me?

 

Hi all

 

I wanted your opinion on these 2 matters. Is it just me? Raising a child is hard enough.  Then you a Autism and health issues and that's a whole other ball game.  My wonderful son is 7 years old and in first grade. Yes, he's improving day to day.  He's still so far behind from other kids his age. I hate comparing him to kids his age because he is not like kids his age.  On top of he fact I do not have anyone to pick him up from school, take him to doctors appointments etc I have issues with therapy. He'll have therapy but then his insurance says that we have reached the maximum benefits for the year and we have to pay out of pocket. I can not afford it. Then when the insurance kicks in we have to WAIT for an evaluation, then WAIT for appointments to get approved, So, my son hasn't received therapy in 8 months.

 

Also, how am I suppose to find a job? I can only work when my son is in school. And I go to school 2 days a week. Yes I can work some weekends. Is it just me in this situation? Does anyone have any advice?

 

[Guest guest]

I am also a divorced mom, working full time but not making enough to cover the bills, and trying to support 2 beautiful boys. I also have UHC insurance with a crazy high deductible. We have been dipping into my son's savings account to pay for his services and mri's. I hated to have to do it, b/c that was money we were saving for college, car, first apartment, etc. BUT, if he doesn't get early intervention while he is young now and get the treatments he needs then he won't function independently as a young adult and won't be able to drive, or live in his own apartment, so we think we are making the best decision.We make a financial plan for the year and set aside certain funds for his therapies and treatments. Don't get me wrong, we don't have any extra money laying around. But whenever we

get a tax return, or unexpected money (birthday and holiday checks from family as gifts) we put it aside in a high interest savings account. We have built up enough in there to at least cover the deductible for 2010.It's important to make a financial plan, and factor their treatments and dr's bills into that plan. Our kids can't afford to go without, and when we can't afford to pay the bills, we need a back up plan in place. Not providing your kids with the treatments they need to help them succeed is heartbreaking, I know. I would suggest you also call 211, the helpline for families dealing with disabilities. They provided me with a BUNCH of websites and phone numbers of different organizations that provide grants and free money for treatments of children with autism. I have just started the application process, so I can't say how successful they all are, but there is free money out there to help you, you just need to know where and how to find

it.Some kids benefit from outside private therapy, and some can fair well without it. I see first hand how important the private therapy sessions are for my son. He has a great program in school, and receives OT and speech there. But he also needs the benefit of the private therapy sessions after school. We can't afford to give him the private sessions 2-3 times per week that he needs, but at least he is getting them once a week and they are making a BIG difference.Don't beat yourself up, you are doing the best you can. And you know your child best. So if there is something out there that you truly believe your child needs, then find a way to make it happen. They depend on you.Good Luck!To: sList Sent: Wed, January 27, 2010 6:31:30 PMSubject: Re: Is it just me? No , its not just you.This sucks. I'm a single mom I work full time have UHC insurance. My daughter needs an ultrasound and they just informed me that it would cost 700 due to the deductible. I do not have 700. So she is not getting it. She's also suppose to get a MRI, wonder how much that costs.I think I should quit my job thus be eligble for Medicaid and then my kid can get better services.Not sure if getting a job is such a great idea, yeah you earn some income but you end up paying so much more for your kids services.Sent on the Sprint® Now Network from my BlackBerry®From: Lizzie Berg <floridalizzie@ yahoo.com> Date: Wed, 27 Jan 2010 14:18:26 -0800 (PST)To: <sList@ yahoogroups. com>Subject: Re: Is it just me? , I am not so sure that the kids needs afternoon therapy to show significant progress. Most kids with ASD on this globe go home after school to have down time. They do not get additional instruction. What prevents you from getting a job like the rest of us? I bet you most of your son's classmates (autism or not) are in aftercare, or I am wrong? Of course it would be nice to be a "stay at home" mom, but can afford that? Liz From: ewihlborgaol (DOT) com <ewihlborgaol (DOT) com>Subject: Is it just me?To: sList@ yahoogroups. comDate: Tuesday, January 26, 2010, 7:58 PM Hi all I wanted your opinion on these 2 matters. Is it just me? Raising a child is hard enough. Then you a Autism and health issues and that's a whole other ball game. My wonderful son is 7 years old and in first grade. Yes, he's improving day to day. He's still so far behind from other kids his age. I hate comparing him to kids his age because he is not like kids his age. On top of he fact I do not have anyone to pick him up from school, take him to doctors appointments etc I have issues with therapy. He'll have therapy but then his insurance says that we have reached the maximum benefits for the year and we have to pay out of pocket. I can not afford it. Then when the insurance kicks in we have to WAIT for an evaluation, then WAIT for appointments to get approved, So, my son hasn't

received therapy in 8 months. Also, how am I suppose to find a job? I can only work when my son is in school. And I go to school 2 days a week. Yes I can work some weekends. Is it just me in this situation? Does anyone have any advice?

[Guest guest]

It goes without say but I will say it anyways. If your children

received the appropriate services that address his individual needs in the

school you would not have to seek therapy outside of the school system. If you

accept the status quo you will get the status quo.

From:

sList [mailto:sList ] On Behalf

Of Lizzie Berg

Sent: Wednesday, January 27, 2010 5:18 PM

To: sList

Subject: Re: Is it just me?

,

I am not so sure that the kids needs afternoon

therapy to show significant progress. Most kids with ASD on this globe go

home after school to have down time. They do not get additional instruction.

What prevents you from getting a job like the rest of us?

I bet you most of your son's classmates (autism or not) are in

aftercare, or I am wrong? Of course it would be nice to be a " stay at

home " mom, but can afford that?

Liz

Subject: Is it just me?

To: sList

Date: Tuesday, January 26, 2010, 7:58 PM

Hi all

I wanted your opinion on these 2 matters. Is it just me? Raising

a child is hard enough. Then you a Autism and health issues and that's

a whole other ball game. My wonderful son is 7 years old and in first

grade. Yes, he's improving day to day. He's still so far behind from

other kids his age. I hate comparing him to kids his age because he is not

like kids his age. On top of he fact I do not have anyone to pick him

up from school, take him to doctors appointments etc I have issues with

therapy. He'll have therapy but then his insurance says that we have reached

the maximum benefits for the year and we have to pay out of pocket. I can not

afford it. Then when the insurance kicks in we have to WAIT for an

evaluation, then WAIT for appointments to get approved, So, my son hasn't

received therapy in 8 months.

Also, how am I suppose to find a job? I can only work when my

son is in school. And I go to school 2 days a week. Yes I can work some

weekends. Is it just me in this situation? Does anyone have any advice?

[Guest guest]

It goes without say but I will say it anyways. If your children

received the appropriate services that address his individual needs in the

school you would not have to seek therapy outside of the school system. If you

accept the status quo you will get the status quo.

From:

sList [mailto:sList ] On Behalf

Of Lizzie Berg

Sent: Wednesday, January 27, 2010 5:18 PM

To: sList

Subject: Re: Is it just me?

,

I am not so sure that the kids needs afternoon

therapy to show significant progress. Most kids with ASD on this globe go

home after school to have down time. They do not get additional instruction.

What prevents you from getting a job like the rest of us?

I bet you most of your son's classmates (autism or not) are in

aftercare, or I am wrong? Of course it would be nice to be a " stay at

home " mom, but can afford that?

Liz

Subject: Is it just me?

To: sList

Date: Tuesday, January 26, 2010, 7:58 PM

Hi all

I wanted your opinion on these 2 matters. Is it just me? Raising

a child is hard enough. Then you a Autism and health issues and that's

a whole other ball game. My wonderful son is 7 years old and in first

grade. Yes, he's improving day to day. He's still so far behind from

other kids his age. I hate comparing him to kids his age because he is not

like kids his age. On top of he fact I do not have anyone to pick him

up from school, take him to doctors appointments etc I have issues with

therapy. He'll have therapy but then his insurance says that we have reached

the maximum benefits for the year and we have to pay out of pocket. I can not

afford it. Then when the insurance kicks in we have to WAIT for an

evaluation, then WAIT for appointments to get approved, So, my son hasn't

received therapy in 8 months.

Also, how am I suppose to find a job? I can only work when my

son is in school. And I go to school 2 days a week. Yes I can work some

weekends. Is it just me in this situation? Does anyone have any advice?

[Guest guest]

It goes without say but I will say it anyways. If your children

received the appropriate services that address his individual needs in the

school you would not have to seek therapy outside of the school system. If you

accept the status quo you will get the status quo.

From:

sList [mailto:sList ] On Behalf

Of Lizzie Berg

Sent: Wednesday, January 27, 2010 5:18 PM

To: sList

Subject: Re: Is it just me?

,

I am not so sure that the kids needs afternoon

therapy to show significant progress. Most kids with ASD on this globe go

home after school to have down time. They do not get additional instruction.

What prevents you from getting a job like the rest of us?

I bet you most of your son's classmates (autism or not) are in

aftercare, or I am wrong? Of course it would be nice to be a " stay at

home " mom, but can afford that?

Liz

Subject: Is it just me?

To: sList

Date: Tuesday, January 26, 2010, 7:58 PM

Hi all

I wanted your opinion on these 2 matters. Is it just me? Raising

a child is hard enough. Then you a Autism and health issues and that's

a whole other ball game. My wonderful son is 7 years old and in first

grade. Yes, he's improving day to day. He's still so far behind from

other kids his age. I hate comparing him to kids his age because he is not

like kids his age. On top of he fact I do not have anyone to pick him

up from school, take him to doctors appointments etc I have issues with

therapy. He'll have therapy but then his insurance says that we have reached

the maximum benefits for the year and we have to pay out of pocket. I can not

afford it. Then when the insurance kicks in we have to WAIT for an

evaluation, then WAIT for appointments to get approved, So, my son hasn't

received therapy in 8 months.

Also, how am I suppose to find a job? I can only work when my

son is in school. And I go to school 2 days a week. Yes I can work some

weekends. Is it just me in this situation? Does anyone have any advice?

[Guest guest]

These are great suggestions. I would like to add that given your situation you

may want to spend some time identifying careers that provide maximum scheduling

flexibility before you invest any more time continuing your education.Working

Mother magazine may have info and I'm sure there's other sources out there.

Health-related careers are another avenue to consider. Good luck to you.

>First, breathe.  It will get better.  There are alot of single moms out there

that have gone through and are still going through what you are.  Not only are

we strong, but also know when we need a break and it is not a weakness.  Is

there a job you can do at a local school, preschool, church that has the same

hours?  I took a job many years ago at my daughter's school for the same

reasons.  How about going back to school?  The government is still paying I

believe (?) for higher education.  Become a therapist or get certified in

teaching or anything that will help you mentally.  Try calling Broward

Children's Center for respite care.  At least you can get a few hours a week for

your errands, or just to take a walk.

>Good luck and know that you are a good mom.

>

>

>

>

>________________________________

>

>To: sList

>Sent: Tue, January 26, 2010 2:58:20 PM

>Subject: Is it just me?

>

> 

>Hi all

>

>I wanted your opinion on these 2 matters. Is it just me? Raising a child is

hard enough.  Then you a Autism and health issues and that's a whole other ball

game.  My wonderful son is 7 years old and in first grade. Yes, he's improving

day to day.  He's still so far behind from other kids his age. I hate comparing

him to kids his age because he is not like kids his age.  On top of he fact I do

not have anyone to pick him up from school, take him to doctors appointments etc

I have issues with therapy. He'll have therapy but then his insurance says that

we have reached the maximum benefits for the year and we have to pay out of

pocket. I can not afford it. Then when the insurance kicks in we have to WAIT

for an evaluation, then WAIT for appointments to get approved, So, my son hasn't

received therapy in 8 months.

>

>Also, how am I suppose to find a job? I can only work when my son is in school.

And I go to school 2 days a week. Yes I can work some weekends. Is it just me in

this situation? Does anyone have any advice?

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

These are great suggestions. I would like to add that given your situation you

may want to spend some time identifying careers that provide maximum scheduling

flexibility before you invest any more time continuing your education.Working

Mother magazine may have info and I'm sure there's other sources out there.

Health-related careers are another avenue to consider. Good luck to you.

>First, breathe.  It will get better.  There are alot of single moms out there

that have gone through and are still going through what you are.  Not only are

we strong, but also know when we need a break and it is not a weakness.  Is

there a job you can do at a local school, preschool, church that has the same

hours?  I took a job many years ago at my daughter's school for the same

reasons.  How about going back to school?  The government is still paying I

believe (?) for higher education.  Become a therapist or get certified in

teaching or anything that will help you mentally.  Try calling Broward

Children's Center for respite care.  At least you can get a few hours a week for

your errands, or just to take a walk.

>Good luck and know that you are a good mom.

>

>

>

>

>________________________________

>

>To: sList

>Sent: Tue, January 26, 2010 2:58:20 PM

>Subject: Is it just me?

>

> 

>Hi all

>

>I wanted your opinion on these 2 matters. Is it just me? Raising a child is

hard enough.  Then you a Autism and health issues and that's a whole other ball

game.  My wonderful son is 7 years old and in first grade. Yes, he's improving

day to day.  He's still so far behind from other kids his age. I hate comparing

him to kids his age because he is not like kids his age.  On top of he fact I do

not have anyone to pick him up from school, take him to doctors appointments etc

I have issues with therapy. He'll have therapy but then his insurance says that

we have reached the maximum benefits for the year and we have to pay out of

pocket. I can not afford it. Then when the insurance kicks in we have to WAIT

for an evaluation, then WAIT for appointments to get approved, So, my son hasn't

received therapy in 8 months.

>

>Also, how am I suppose to find a job? I can only work when my son is in school.

And I go to school 2 days a week. Yes I can work some weekends. Is it just me in

this situation? Does anyone have any advice?

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

These are great suggestions. I would like to add that given your situation you

may want to spend some time identifying careers that provide maximum scheduling

flexibility before you invest any more time continuing your education.Working

Mother magazine may have info and I'm sure there's other sources out there.

Health-related careers are another avenue to consider. Good luck to you.

>First, breathe.  It will get better.  There are alot of single moms out there

that have gone through and are still going through what you are.  Not only are

we strong, but also know when we need a break and it is not a weakness.  Is

there a job you can do at a local school, preschool, church that has the same

hours?  I took a job many years ago at my daughter's school for the same

reasons.  How about going back to school?  The government is still paying I

believe (?) for higher education.  Become a therapist or get certified in

teaching or anything that will help you mentally.  Try calling Broward

Children's Center for respite care.  At least you can get a few hours a week for

your errands, or just to take a walk.

>Good luck and know that you are a good mom.

>

>

>

>

>________________________________

>

>To: sList

>Sent: Tue, January 26, 2010 2:58:20 PM

>Subject: Is it just me?

>

> 

>Hi all

>

>I wanted your opinion on these 2 matters. Is it just me? Raising a child is

hard enough.  Then you a Autism and health issues and that's a whole other ball

game.  My wonderful son is 7 years old and in first grade. Yes, he's improving

day to day.  He's still so far behind from other kids his age. I hate comparing

him to kids his age because he is not like kids his age.  On top of he fact I do

not have anyone to pick him up from school, take him to doctors appointments etc

I have issues with therapy. He'll have therapy but then his insurance says that

we have reached the maximum benefits for the year and we have to pay out of

pocket. I can not afford it. Then when the insurance kicks in we have to WAIT

for an evaluation, then WAIT for appointments to get approved, So, my son hasn't

received therapy in 8 months.

>

>Also, how am I suppose to find a job? I can only work when my son is in school.

And I go to school 2 days a week. Yes I can work some weekends. Is it just me in

this situation? Does anyone have any advice?

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

I had to throw my 2 cents into this mix. I run into mommies that go to the same

school as my daughter, at therapy AFTER school. My daughter has additional

therapy 4 days a week, again, AFTER school. I know a couple of moms that

literally cannot work due to their child's disability. I actually tried working

while the kids were in school, and I made myself sick. Between running them to

school, running to work, running to pick them up (and they're at seperate

schools across town), then running to therapy and then home to do more

caretaking and keeping up the house and cooking dinner....you get the picture.

It's incredibly difficult and I couldn't do it. I don't know how most mommies

with special needs kids do it. Lizzie, please don't judge another mommy

(especially a special needs mommy) until you've walked in her shoes.

>

>

> >From: ewihlborgaol (DOT) com <ewihlborgaol (DOT) com>

> >Subject: Is it just me?

> >To: sList@ yahoogroups. com

> >Date: Tuesday, January 26, 2010, 7:58 PM

> >

> >

> > 

> >Hi all

> >

> >I wanted your opinion on these 2 matters. Is it just me? Raising a child is

hard enough.  Then you a Autism and health issues and that's a whole other ball

game.  My wonderful son is 7 years old and in first grade. Yes, he's improving

day to day.  He's still so far behind from other kids his age. I hate comparing

him to kids his age because he is not like kids his age.  On top of he fact I

do not have anyone to pick him up from school, take him to doctors appointments

etc I have issues with therapy. He'll have therapy but then his insurance says

that we have reached the maximum benefits for the year and we have to pay out of

pocket. I can not afford it. Then when the insurance kicks in we have to WAIT

for an evaluation, then WAIT for appointments to get approved, So, my son hasn't

received therapy in 8 months.

> >

> >Also, how am I suppose to find a job? I can only work when my son is in

school. And I go to school 2 days a week. Yes I can work some weekends. Is it

just me in this situation? Does anyone have any advice?

> >

> >

> >

> >

>

[Guest guest]

I had to throw my 2 cents into this mix. I run into mommies that go to the same

school as my daughter, at therapy AFTER school. My daughter has additional

therapy 4 days a week, again, AFTER school. I know a couple of moms that

literally cannot work due to their child's disability. I actually tried working

while the kids were in school, and I made myself sick. Between running them to

school, running to work, running to pick them up (and they're at seperate

schools across town), then running to therapy and then home to do more

caretaking and keeping up the house and cooking dinner....you get the picture.

It's incredibly difficult and I couldn't do it. I don't know how most mommies

with special needs kids do it. Lizzie, please don't judge another mommy

(especially a special needs mommy) until you've walked in her shoes.

>

>

> >From: ewihlborgaol (DOT) com <ewihlborgaol (DOT) com>

> >Subject: Is it just me?

> >To: sList@ yahoogroups. com

> >Date: Tuesday, January 26, 2010, 7:58 PM

> >

> >

> > 

> >Hi all

> >

> >I wanted your opinion on these 2 matters. Is it just me? Raising a child is

hard enough.  Then you a Autism and health issues and that's a whole other ball

game.  My wonderful son is 7 years old and in first grade. Yes, he's improving

day to day.  He's still so far behind from other kids his age. I hate comparing

him to kids his age because he is not like kids his age.  On top of he fact I

do not have anyone to pick him up from school, take him to doctors appointments

etc I have issues with therapy. He'll have therapy but then his insurance says

that we have reached the maximum benefits for the year and we have to pay out of

pocket. I can not afford it. Then when the insurance kicks in we have to WAIT

for an evaluation, then WAIT for appointments to get approved, So, my son hasn't

received therapy in 8 months.

> >

> >Also, how am I suppose to find a job? I can only work when my son is in

school. And I go to school 2 days a week. Yes I can work some weekends. Is it

just me in this situation? Does anyone have any advice?

> >

> >

> >

> >

>

[Guest guest]

,

Hi I just want you to know that you are not alone & I am sorry that on a group like this people can still judge. I am a mom of 3 my oldest 17) has PDD amongst many other Dx I had him @ the young age of 18 & was a sinlge mom myself for many years prior to meeting my husband I then had my beautiful twin girls who are now 4 and one also one the spectrum. I have yet to return to the work field because it was just impossible to juggle 3 children sports, therapies 6 days a week not to mention the ongoing daily tasks of keeping up w/the house. I have attempted to work out of the house on several occasions & just wasn't able to keep up with the demands, hours, etc. not to mention that my husband is out of the country for 2 weeks a month so I feel like a single mother 90% of the time. I am hoping that once they enter Kindergarten this fall I may be able to find a p/t during school hours so that we can then focus on therapy after school which is

very much needed to keep these kids on track... I pray that you will find something that works for you and your schedule but know tha tyou are NOT alone and just disregard what others say. BEcause until you are in those shoes you can't imagine what it can possible be like..

Aileen

To: sList Sent: Thu, January 28, 2010 8:49:37 AMSubject: Re: Is it just me?

I had to throw my 2 cents into this mix. I run into mommies that go to the same school as my daughter, at therapy AFTER school. My daughter has additional therapy 4 days a week, again, AFTER school. I know a couple of moms that literally cannot work due to their child's disability. I actually tried working while the kids were in school, and I made myself sick. Between running them to school, running to work, running to pick them up (and they're at seperate schools across town), then running to therapy and then home to do more caretaking and keeping up the house and cooking dinner....you get the picture. It's incredibly difficult and I couldn't do it. I don't know how most mommies with special needs kids do it. Lizzie, please don't judge another mommy (especially a special needs mommy) until you've walked in her shoes.> > > >From: ewihlborgaol (DOT) com <ewihlborgaol (DOT) com>>

>Subject: Is it just me?> >To: sList@ yahoogroups. com> >Date: Tuesday, January 26, 2010, 7:58 PM> >> >> > > >Hi all> >> >I wanted your opinion on these 2 matters. Is it just me? Raising a child is hard enough. Then you a Autism and health issues and that's a whole other ball game. My wonderful son is 7 years old and in first grade. Yes, he's improving day to day. He's still so far behind from other kids his age. I hate comparing him to kids his age because he is not like kids his age. On top of he fact I do not have anyone to pick him up from school, take him to doctors appointments etc I have issues with therapy. He'll have therapy but then his insurance says that we have reached the maximum benefits for the year and we have to pay out of pocket. I can not afford it. Then when the insurance kicks in we have to

WAIT for an evaluation, then WAIT for appointments to get approved, So, my son hasn't received therapy in 8 months.> >> >Also, how am I suppose to find a job? I can only work when my son is in school. And I go to school 2 days a week. Yes I can work some weekends. Is it just me in this situation? Does anyone have any advice?> >> >> >> >>