indicators of BPD in childhood

[Guest guest]

I wanted to add that I think my mother falls into the category of an

invalidating environment in childhood and not abuse. She was never abused

physically or sexually (although she did go through periods where she claimed

she was, then she wasn't, then she was, then she wasn't). My grandmother was

HELL.ON.WHEELS (which other family members have verified), though, and had a

baby when my mom was 10 years old. She used to say (even to me) that she had

two families because my mother and her brother were so far apart in age. I

think this set the stage.

My mother had a mother who was doting on the brother and was really emotionally

absent from her.

She had a father who spoiled her like crazy and it was told that my mother had a

baby bottle until she was 10 years old, that she was allowed to " tap dance " on

their furniture until it was ruined...things like that.

My mother first claimed my grandmother's brother molested her. Then it was a

photographer my grandmother supposedly dropped her off with when she did child

modeling. Then she wasn't molested...she had a fantastic childhood according to

her and nobody had a better family than we did...everyone else was 'trash.' --

ignoring the fact that the entire family was a load of pediphiles and

alcoholics.

My mother told my father she was pregnant so he'd married her. He did and she

claimed she had a miscarriage.

My sister had a different father (she's older than me and my mother was married

before) who went to the grave thinking my mother had an illegal abortion and

never had her. When my mother died, my sister looked for her natural father and

found out he had died and she found his family.

After the supposed miscarriage, she told my dad she had leukemia -- total lie.

She then forged my sister's birth certificate, got 2 social security numbers and

illegally married my father (she never divorced her first husband).

And yet when I was a teenager, I never had a single normal teenage experience

because I was forced to tow the line, make straight A's and never go out of the

house except to school.

What a crazy life.