Re: Flying Monkeys - I get it!

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I think the children of high-functioning bpds/npds have it really hard because

to the outside world it looks like nada is a lovely, normal person. Only the

kids (and the enmeshed, enabling dads) see the real nada underneath the mask.

That's why I'm a proponent of educating children beginning in Kindergarten to

recognize what normal, mentally healthy behaviors look like and sound like vs

what abusive, mentally ill behaviors sound like and look like, using short films

to enact typical family-type situations.

(For example, the film shows 5-year-old Suzy accidentally tipping over her small

glass of milk at the breakfast table. Version 1 mommy says, " Uh-oh! Quick,

Suzy, grab a paper towel, let's mop this up. " and the two of them quickly take

care of the mess. Version 2 mommy jumps up, screams at Suzy, calls her a

stupid, clumsy idiot, grabs Suzy's arm, shoves a paper towel into Suzy's hand

and uses Suzy's arm like a scrubbing brush to wipe up the spill, yelling at her

the whole time. Now, class, which is the mentally healthy way to handle the

problem of a messy spill? Version 1 or Version 2?)

Then children could have some perspective, they could see for themselves what is

a healthy way to handle a messy spill, and what is an abnormal, abusive way to

handle it. It might encourage children to take parental abuse less personally

and even report emotional, physical, or sexual abuse they're receiving at home.

Maybe.

That would be the goal, anyway.

-Annie

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> My nada was high functioning. Fiance's ex is what I would say is middle

> functioning. If she wasn't an alcoholic she'd probably be high functioning.

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> Mia

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