I'm submerged in Oz

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So fiance's BPD ex wife kept his daughter home tonight. Why? Because she

was upset & up late after listening to her mom & dad fight last night.

Yes, they were on the phone last night... texting. There was no verbal

communication. His ex was not even in the same apartment as the kids with

their grandma. She was at her apartment up stairs.

I'm really confused how step daughter heard this argument since I didn't

hear it either! I heard about it as it was happening, but didn't hear it.

His ex is mad because he won't give her money now that their son is pretty

much done with diapers. She thinks she's entitled to it.

Between his ex & her mother, we only have gotten half truths & flat out lies

from them today regarding the situation. Fiance is wondering if he should

talk to the school & let them know things aren't great at the kids' nada's

house.

I know, again, this is not about my nada. But this is breaking my heart.

His daughter called him today just to chat and he told her, " Honey you know

mommy & I don't get along and sometimes we argue, but you know that it is

not your fault and we both love you. And that I would do anything for you. "

I heard that very same thing from my father when I was about 19. Poor

fiance was just bout in tears when they got off of the phone. I just gave

him a hug & a smile then had to excuse myself for a cigarette so I wouldn't

burst into tears myself. That was such an awful thing for me to have to

hear from my dad, I can imagine that it makes his daughter sad too.

I think his ex knows perfectly well that she's lying... like my own nada,

she uses it to manipulate, hurt & confuse & put her victim into a FOG.

I'm sorry all, I hope you don't mind me posting this here. Since it is BPD

and we're all learning how to deal with BPDs in our lives... I guess I

thought it couldn't hurt, but PLEASE correct me if I'm wrong. I guess I'm

wondering if you guys think he should talk to the school... I told him to

talk to T about it. But advice from others who have lived in the land of Oz

is always helpful.

Thank you, Mia