Guest guest Posted January 21, 2011 Report Share Posted January 21, 2011 Sorry guys, I'm prolific today. I wonder why I have so much to say. So my T and I have been working on what she calls " finding my voice. " My job is to learn to speak up for myself. She thinks when I do learn to do that, i won't have as many physical health problems. She says that chronic pain is often due to never saying what you think and stuffing or swallowing your words and opinions. So, the main place where I need to do this is at work. I've worked in the same job for 4 years. I have become extremely comfortable with my responsabilities, even bored. To tell you the truth, I'm always aout 3 steps ahead of my boss, I can out do and out work her without even trying. My job has become easy for me. I've been ready for a promotion and more responsability for a long time. However, the economic downturn has hit our industry very very hard. I've done the work of 2 or 3 people for 3 month long stretches over the last 3 years. Things are looking up. the company has signed new clients. I've brought a lot of them in myself. So someone in my department is transferring to another department. They are looking to replace him. I don't really care, but my boss isn't great at choosing employees if you want to know the truth. So I fully expect her to hire someone who is lazy or feels entitled. I am a little bugged that they are hiring without taking care of me at all. I work damn hard. No raise in 3 years. I asked for one 2 years ago and it turned into a huge drama with everyone upset because they said I did it wrong. i decided that I would rather find a new job than go through that drama again. I applied to 3 PhD programs and I'm fully invested in finding not just a new job, but a new field. So yesterday, our office manager said " we posted the job, do you know anyone? " I said (I'd been rehersing this in my head for about 3 weeks), " Are you really going to hire someone when I haven't had a raise in 3 years? " ha ha she was a little surprised. I then told her I'd like an upgrade in title. She of course said no that this was a replacement job not an upgrade (whatever, people are getting promoted right and left at that company). She said she herself hasn't had a raise in 5 years. I said, you should give yourself a raise. then we started giggling (we are good friends) about people who behave badly whose money we could hijack to give her a raise. She said that my direct boss needs to ask for a raise for me. I said that will never happen (she has jealousy and competition issues). So the office manager said she will bring it up. So funny - I don't look at it like its life and death. or like their opinions of me matter to the utmost anymore. I look at it like a game. People who play the game better get raises. I don't really care because I've already moved most of my eggs to another basket. I have applied for 4 other opportunities that would begin in September. If any of them come through I will leave and not look back. So color me proud of myself! That was damn hard for me to do! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 21, 2011 Report Share Posted January 21, 2011 Yeah, pretty sick of the same crap with the competitiveness etc. My aim is to become a therapist, establish my own practice and have a LOT more autonomy. . . Blah people are so dumb and driven by pack order and not much else. On Fri, Jan 21, 2011 at 12:19 PM, yp_lynnette_cameron_park < h_l_maston@...> wrote: > > > Way to go on the raise... > > Handing you a bit of advice re: The Ph.D. crowd... same crap, better > outfits. > > I was asked to submit my CV to teach in a newly developing Communications & > Distance Education program at a large state university. The Head of the > Dept. is a friend and wants me as his Co. Ok, great... I put it in thinking, > why not? I " m more than qualified, blahblahblah... > > It's been 4 months. Brought it up yesterday. He said, " I've brought this > issue up SIX times in 4 months to the Lead on this... she finally said she > REFUSED to move your CV to the interview pile because you know more than she > does and she doesn't want to lose her job. " > > Um.... > > So - there ya have it... ego, competition, snottiness... sure glad some > Universities create programs with the STUPID PEOPLE teaching them! Good luck > students! > > LYnnette > > > > > > > Sorry guys, I'm prolific today. I wonder why I have so much to say. > > > > So my T and I have been working on what she calls " finding my voice. " My > job > > is to learn to speak up for myself. She thinks when I do learn to do > that, i > > won't have as many physical health problems. She says that chronic pain > is > > often due to never saying what you think and stuffing or swallowing your > > words and opinions. > > > > So, the main place where I need to do this is at work. I've worked in the > > same job for 4 years. I have become extremely comfortable with my > > responsabilities, even bored. To tell you the truth, I'm always aout 3 > steps > > ahead of my boss, I can out do and out work her without even trying. My > job > > has become easy for me. I've been ready for a promotion and more > > responsability for a long time. > > > > However, the economic downturn has hit our industry very very hard. I've > > done the work of 2 or 3 people for 3 month long stretches over the last 3 > > years. Things are looking up. the company has signed new clients. I've > > brought a lot of them in myself. > > > > So someone in my department is transferring to another department. They > are > > looking to replace him. I don't really care, but my boss isn't great at > > choosing employees if you want to know the truth. So I fully expect her > to > > hire someone who is lazy or feels entitled. I am a little bugged that > they > > are hiring without taking care of me at all. I work damn hard. No raise > in 3 > > years. I asked for one 2 years ago and it turned into a huge drama with > > everyone upset because they said I did it wrong. i decided that I would > > rather find a new job than go through that drama again. I applied to 3 > PhD > > programs and I'm fully invested in finding not just a new job, but a new > > field. > > > > So yesterday, our office manager said " we posted the job, do you know > > anyone? " I said (I'd been rehersing this in my head for about 3 weeks), > " Are > > you really going to hire someone when I haven't had a raise in 3 years? " > > > > ha ha she was a little surprised. I then told her I'd like an upgrade in > > title. She of course said no that this was a replacement job not an > upgrade > > (whatever, people are getting promoted right and left at that company). > She > > said she herself hasn't had a raise in 5 years. I said, you should give > > yourself a raise. then we started giggling (we are good friends) about > > people who behave badly whose money we could hijack to give her a raise. > > > > She said that my direct boss needs to ask for a raise for me. I said that > > will never happen (she has jealousy and competition issues). So the > office > > manager said she will bring it up. > > > > So funny - I don't look at it like its life and death. or like their > > opinions of me matter to the utmost anymore. I look at it like a game. > > People who play the game better get raises. I don't really care because > I've > > already moved most of my eggs to another basket. I have applied for 4 > other > > opportunities that would begin in September. If any of them come through > I > > will leave and not look back. > > > > So color me proud of myself! That was damn hard for me to do! > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 21, 2011 Report Share Posted January 21, 2011 Yeah, pretty sick of the same crap with the competitiveness etc. My aim is to become a therapist, establish my own practice and have a LOT more autonomy. . . Blah people are so dumb and driven by pack order and not much else. On Fri, Jan 21, 2011 at 12:19 PM, yp_lynnette_cameron_park < h_l_maston@...> wrote: > > > Way to go on the raise... > > Handing you a bit of advice re: The Ph.D. crowd... same crap, better > outfits. > > I was asked to submit my CV to teach in a newly developing Communications & > Distance Education program at a large state university. The Head of the > Dept. is a friend and wants me as his Co. Ok, great... I put it in thinking, > why not? I " m more than qualified, blahblahblah... > > It's been 4 months. Brought it up yesterday. He said, " I've brought this > issue up SIX times in 4 months to the Lead on this... she finally said she > REFUSED to move your CV to the interview pile because you know more than she > does and she doesn't want to lose her job. " > > Um.... > > So - there ya have it... ego, competition, snottiness... sure glad some > Universities create programs with the STUPID PEOPLE teaching them! Good luck > students! > > LYnnette > > > > > > > Sorry guys, I'm prolific today. I wonder why I have so much to say. > > > > So my T and I have been working on what she calls " finding my voice. " My > job > > is to learn to speak up for myself. She thinks when I do learn to do > that, i > > won't have as many physical health problems. She says that chronic pain > is > > often due to never saying what you think and stuffing or swallowing your > > words and opinions. > > > > So, the main place where I need to do this is at work. I've worked in the > > same job for 4 years. I have become extremely comfortable with my > > responsabilities, even bored. To tell you the truth, I'm always aout 3 > steps > > ahead of my boss, I can out do and out work her without even trying. My > job > > has become easy for me. I've been ready for a promotion and more > > responsability for a long time. > > > > However, the economic downturn has hit our industry very very hard. I've > > done the work of 2 or 3 people for 3 month long stretches over the last 3 > > years. Things are looking up. the company has signed new clients. I've > > brought a lot of them in myself. > > > > So someone in my department is transferring to another department. They > are > > looking to replace him. I don't really care, but my boss isn't great at > > choosing employees if you want to know the truth. So I fully expect her > to > > hire someone who is lazy or feels entitled. I am a little bugged that > they > > are hiring without taking care of me at all. I work damn hard. No raise > in 3 > > years. I asked for one 2 years ago and it turned into a huge drama with > > everyone upset because they said I did it wrong. i decided that I would > > rather find a new job than go through that drama again. I applied to 3 > PhD > > programs and I'm fully invested in finding not just a new job, but a new > > field. > > > > So yesterday, our office manager said " we posted the job, do you know > > anyone? " I said (I'd been rehersing this in my head for about 3 weeks), > " Are > > you really going to hire someone when I haven't had a raise in 3 years? " > > > > ha ha she was a little surprised. I then told her I'd like an upgrade in > > title. She of course said no that this was a replacement job not an > upgrade > > (whatever, people are getting promoted right and left at that company). > She > > said she herself hasn't had a raise in 5 years. I said, you should give > > yourself a raise. then we started giggling (we are good friends) about > > people who behave badly whose money we could hijack to give her a raise. > > > > She said that my direct boss needs to ask for a raise for me. I said that > > will never happen (she has jealousy and competition issues). So the > office > > manager said she will bring it up. > > > > So funny - I don't look at it like its life and death. or like their > > opinions of me matter to the utmost anymore. I look at it like a game. > > People who play the game better get raises. I don't really care because > I've > > already moved most of my eggs to another basket. I have applied for 4 > other > > opportunities that would begin in September. If any of them come through > I > > will leave and not look back. > > > > So color me proud of myself! That was damn hard for me to do! > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 21, 2011 Report Share Posted January 21, 2011 Yeah, pretty sick of the same crap with the competitiveness etc. My aim is to become a therapist, establish my own practice and have a LOT more autonomy. . . Blah people are so dumb and driven by pack order and not much else. On Fri, Jan 21, 2011 at 12:19 PM, yp_lynnette_cameron_park < h_l_maston@...> wrote: > > > Way to go on the raise... > > Handing you a bit of advice re: The Ph.D. crowd... same crap, better > outfits. > > I was asked to submit my CV to teach in a newly developing Communications & > Distance Education program at a large state university. The Head of the > Dept. is a friend and wants me as his Co. Ok, great... I put it in thinking, > why not? I " m more than qualified, blahblahblah... > > It's been 4 months. Brought it up yesterday. He said, " I've brought this > issue up SIX times in 4 months to the Lead on this... she finally said she > REFUSED to move your CV to the interview pile because you know more than she > does and she doesn't want to lose her job. " > > Um.... > > So - there ya have it... ego, competition, snottiness... sure glad some > Universities create programs with the STUPID PEOPLE teaching them! Good luck > students! > > LYnnette > > > > > > > Sorry guys, I'm prolific today. I wonder why I have so much to say. > > > > So my T and I have been working on what she calls " finding my voice. " My > job > > is to learn to speak up for myself. She thinks when I do learn to do > that, i > > won't have as many physical health problems. She says that chronic pain > is > > often due to never saying what you think and stuffing or swallowing your > > words and opinions. > > > > So, the main place where I need to do this is at work. I've worked in the > > same job for 4 years. I have become extremely comfortable with my > > responsabilities, even bored. To tell you the truth, I'm always aout 3 > steps > > ahead of my boss, I can out do and out work her without even trying. My > job > > has become easy for me. I've been ready for a promotion and more > > responsability for a long time. > > > > However, the economic downturn has hit our industry very very hard. I've > > done the work of 2 or 3 people for 3 month long stretches over the last 3 > > years. Things are looking up. the company has signed new clients. I've > > brought a lot of them in myself. > > > > So someone in my department is transferring to another department. They > are > > looking to replace him. I don't really care, but my boss isn't great at > > choosing employees if you want to know the truth. So I fully expect her > to > > hire someone who is lazy or feels entitled. I am a little bugged that > they > > are hiring without taking care of me at all. I work damn hard. No raise > in 3 > > years. I asked for one 2 years ago and it turned into a huge drama with > > everyone upset because they said I did it wrong. i decided that I would > > rather find a new job than go through that drama again. I applied to 3 > PhD > > programs and I'm fully invested in finding not just a new job, but a new > > field. > > > > So yesterday, our office manager said " we posted the job, do you know > > anyone? " I said (I'd been rehersing this in my head for about 3 weeks), > " Are > > you really going to hire someone when I haven't had a raise in 3 years? " > > > > ha ha she was a little surprised. I then told her I'd like an upgrade in > > title. She of course said no that this was a replacement job not an > upgrade > > (whatever, people are getting promoted right and left at that company). > She > > said she herself hasn't had a raise in 5 years. I said, you should give > > yourself a raise. then we started giggling (we are good friends) about > > people who behave badly whose money we could hijack to give her a raise. > > > > She said that my direct boss needs to ask for a raise for me. I said that > > will never happen (she has jealousy and competition issues). So the > office > > manager said she will bring it up. > > > > So funny - I don't look at it like its life and death. or like their > > opinions of me matter to the utmost anymore. I look at it like a game. > > People who play the game better get raises. I don't really care because > I've > > already moved most of my eggs to another basket. I have applied for 4 > other > > opportunities that would begin in September. If any of them come through > I > > will leave and not look back. > > > > So color me proud of myself! That was damn hard for me to do! > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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