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[Guest guest]

Irene,

I'm just curious, I've noticed a lot of newcomers to the list, and was

wondering how many list members we have on our list now. Also, I hope Duff

is doing better.

Well, I finally should be getting my referral to the pain Dr. soon, so that

is a definite help, and also they are working on my referral for my

Neurologist. My Rheumatologist feels that my numbness is not typical of

Fibro, and wants me to be check by a Neurologist for MS. Something funny

that did happen from all this, though, is that when I called my GP to ask if

they had the information on the Neurologist, she thought I said Urologist,

and I very quickly corrected that one! Don't need any help there, thank-you

very much! We got a good laugh out of it.

On one other note, and I know we've talked about this many times, last night

it the gal that I had become best friends with, came over, and made it very

clear that she didn't want to be my friend anymore. She felt that I was

being manipulative regarding my " illness " , and also told my husband so.

Funny though, we just celebrated our 19 wedding anniversary this week, and

he's never seen this ugly quality in me. I know I shouldn't feel this way,

but it does hurt!

Later,

Carol

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Carol Lugg wrote:

> On one other note, and I know we've talked about this many times, last night

> it the gal that I had become best friends with, came over, and made it very

> clear that she didn't want to be my friend anymore. She felt that I was

> being manipulative regarding my " illness " , and also told my husband so.

> Funny though, we just celebrated our 19 wedding anniversary this week, and

> he's never seen this ugly quality in me. I know I shouldn't feel this way,

> but it does hurt!

I'm sorry to hear about what this woman did. I had a " friend " that did

something similar. Long story of why we had been best friends for years

and then broke off being friends. I was really hurt by what she did,

and not ready to make up when she was. When I refused to go back to

being friends when she wanted to, she told me that I was being ugly and

selfish, and if I kept on going the way I way going, one day I'd wake up

and find myself all alone without even my husband since eventually he'd

see the " true " me. Funny, he still doesn't see that, and I still have

friends. She was mad and hurt that I didn't want to be friends and

since she was convinced she was right, she took her anger out on me. I

think you have every right to be hurt and upset! What she has done was

basically a betrayal of your friendship, she turned from someone who was

a trusted and good friend to an enemy that attacked you. You were blind

sided by someone you felt would protect you. It took me a long time to

work past my feelings of hurt when this same thing happened to me.

Hugs

Darcy

[Guest guest]

Carol Lugg wrote:

> On one other note, and I know we've talked about this many times, last night

> it the gal that I had become best friends with, came over, and made it very

> clear that she didn't want to be my friend anymore. She felt that I was

> being manipulative regarding my " illness " , and also told my husband so.

> Funny though, we just celebrated our 19 wedding anniversary this week, and

> he's never seen this ugly quality in me. I know I shouldn't feel this way,

> but it does hurt!

I'm sorry to hear about what this woman did. I had a " friend " that did

something similar. Long story of why we had been best friends for years

and then broke off being friends. I was really hurt by what she did,

and not ready to make up when she was. When I refused to go back to

being friends when she wanted to, she told me that I was being ugly and

selfish, and if I kept on going the way I way going, one day I'd wake up

and find myself all alone without even my husband since eventually he'd

see the " true " me. Funny, he still doesn't see that, and I still have

friends. She was mad and hurt that I didn't want to be friends and

since she was convinced she was right, she took her anger out on me. I

think you have every right to be hurt and upset! What she has done was

basically a betrayal of your friendship, she turned from someone who was

a trusted and good friend to an enemy that attacked you. You were blind

sided by someone you felt would protect you. It took me a long time to

work past my feelings of hurt when this same thing happened to me.

Hugs

Darcy

[Guest guest]

Carol Lugg wrote:

> On one other note, and I know we've talked about this many times, last night

> it the gal that I had become best friends with, came over, and made it very

> clear that she didn't want to be my friend anymore. She felt that I was

> being manipulative regarding my " illness " , and also told my husband so.

> Funny though, we just celebrated our 19 wedding anniversary this week, and

> he's never seen this ugly quality in me. I know I shouldn't feel this way,

> but it does hurt!

I'm sorry to hear about what this woman did. I had a " friend " that did

something similar. Long story of why we had been best friends for years

and then broke off being friends. I was really hurt by what she did,

and not ready to make up when she was. When I refused to go back to

being friends when she wanted to, she told me that I was being ugly and

selfish, and if I kept on going the way I way going, one day I'd wake up

and find myself all alone without even my husband since eventually he'd

see the " true " me. Funny, he still doesn't see that, and I still have

friends. She was mad and hurt that I didn't want to be friends and

since she was convinced she was right, she took her anger out on me. I

think you have every right to be hurt and upset! What she has done was

basically a betrayal of your friendship, she turned from someone who was

a trusted and good friend to an enemy that attacked you. You were blind

sided by someone you felt would protect you. It took me a long time to

work past my feelings of hurt when this same thing happened to me.

Hugs

Darcy

[Guest guest]

How rotten and how RUDE! Sounds like this " friend " has some issues

regarding guilt and they don't exactly know how to treat or react to you

& your illnesses.

I sure do know how you feel. It was really horrible of her to do this to

you.

I hate to say it but at least you found out now and not at a critical

time when you really needed her. I guess she feels she doesn't have the

courage/strength to fight it with you. anyway it's her loss. I am sorry

and I hope you don't take it to hard. It's not you it's her.

~~~~~CJ

Irene,

I'm just curious, I've noticed a lot of newcomers to the list, and was

wondering how many list members we have on our list now. Also, I hope

Duff

is doing better.

Well, I finally should be getting my referral to the pain Dr. soon, so

that

is a definite help, and also they are working on my referral for my

Neurologist. My Rheumatologist feels that my numbness is not typical of

Fibro, and wants me to be check by a Neurologist for MS. Something

funny

that did happen from all this, though, is that when I called my GP to

ask if

they had the information on the Neurologist, she thought I said

Urologist,

and I very quickly corrected that one! Don't need any help there,

thank-you

very much! We got a good laugh out of it.

On one other note, and I know we've talked about this many times, last

night

it the gal that I had become best friends with, came over, and made it

very

clear that she didn't want to be my friend anymore. She felt that I was

being manipulative regarding my " illness " , and also told my husband so.

Funny though, we just celebrated our 19 wedding anniversary this week,

and

he's never seen this ugly quality in me. I know I shouldn't feel this

way,

but it does hurt!

Later,

Carol

[Guest guest]

How rotten and how RUDE! Sounds like this " friend " has some issues

regarding guilt and they don't exactly know how to treat or react to you

& your illnesses.

I sure do know how you feel. It was really horrible of her to do this to

you.

I hate to say it but at least you found out now and not at a critical

time when you really needed her. I guess she feels she doesn't have the

courage/strength to fight it with you. anyway it's her loss. I am sorry

and I hope you don't take it to hard. It's not you it's her.

~~~~~CJ

Irene,

I'm just curious, I've noticed a lot of newcomers to the list, and was

wondering how many list members we have on our list now. Also, I hope

Duff

is doing better.

Well, I finally should be getting my referral to the pain Dr. soon, so

that

is a definite help, and also they are working on my referral for my

Neurologist. My Rheumatologist feels that my numbness is not typical of

Fibro, and wants me to be check by a Neurologist for MS. Something

funny

that did happen from all this, though, is that when I called my GP to

ask if

they had the information on the Neurologist, she thought I said

Urologist,

and I very quickly corrected that one! Don't need any help there,

thank-you

very much! We got a good laugh out of it.

On one other note, and I know we've talked about this many times, last

night

it the gal that I had become best friends with, came over, and made it

very

clear that she didn't want to be my friend anymore. She felt that I was

being manipulative regarding my " illness " , and also told my husband so.

Funny though, we just celebrated our 19 wedding anniversary this week,

and

he's never seen this ugly quality in me. I know I shouldn't feel this

way,

but it does hurt!

Later,

Carol

[Guest guest]

There are 399. For some reason, people subscribe to the list and them often

unsubscribe in the same day. I would like to know why they decide to

unsubscribe.

Take care,

Irene

co-moderator

> I'm just curious, I've noticed a lot of newcomers to the list, and was

> wondering how many list members we have on our list now. Also, I hope Duff

>

[Guest guest]

There are 399. For some reason, people subscribe to the list and them often

unsubscribe in the same day. I would like to know why they decide to

unsubscribe.

Take care,

Irene

co-moderator

> I'm just curious, I've noticed a lot of newcomers to the list, and was

> wondering how many list members we have on our list now. Also, I hope Duff

>

[Guest guest]

There are 399. For some reason, people subscribe to the list and them often

unsubscribe in the same day. I would like to know why they decide to

unsubscribe.

Take care,

Irene

co-moderator

> I'm just curious, I've noticed a lot of newcomers to the list, and was

> wondering how many list members we have on our list now. Also, I hope Duff

>

[Guest guest]

True friends are so rare, and your " best friend " apparently wasn't very

" true. " I have been blessed with a wonderful friend, someone I've known

for forty years. We have lived in different towns (about 2 hours away)

since high school, and usually only see each other about once or twice a

year. However, she's always been there when I've needed her and vice

versa. Although she didn't really understand my FM, she knew me well

enough to accept the fact that I was in real pain. About a year ago, she

began to have severe pain, and was diagnosed with degenerative rheumatoid

arthritis . . . my turn to be there for her. All this has given her a

better understanding of what I have been going through, and it has brought

us even closer together.

There are wonderful, caring, sympathetic people out there who can love us

and accept us just the way we are. It's just a matter of finding them! I

know I often sound like a Pollyanna, but I truly believe that a positive

attitude is the best weapon against FM. When I do get down is when I hurt

the most . . . and when I hurt the most is when I get down!

Well, here I go rambling again . . . hugs and happy faces . . .

Jeane

>Carol Lugg wrote:

>

> > On one other note, and I know we've talked about this many times, last

> night

> > it the gal that I had become best friends with, came over, and made it very

> > clear that she didn't want to be my friend anymore. She felt that I was

> > being manipulative regarding my " illness " , and also told my husband so.

> > Funny though, we just celebrated our 19 wedding anniversary this week, and

> > he's never seen this ugly quality in me. I know I shouldn't feel this way,

> > but it does hurt!

>

>I'm sorry to hear about what this woman did. I had a " friend " that did

>something similar. Long story of why we had been best friends for years

>and then broke off being friends. I was really hurt by what she did,

>and not ready to make up when she was. When I refused to go back to

>being friends when she wanted to, she told me that I was being ugly and

>selfish, and if I kept on going the way I way going, one day I'd wake up

>and find myself all alone without even my husband since eventually he'd

>see the " true " me. Funny, he still doesn't see that, and I still have

>friends. She was mad and hurt that I didn't want to be friends and

>since she was convinced she was right, she took her anger out on me. I

>think you have every right to be hurt and upset! What she has done was

>basically a betrayal of your friendship, she turned from someone who was

>a trusted and good friend to an enemy that attacked you. You were blind

>sided by someone you felt would protect you. It took me a long time to

>work past my feelings of hurt when this same thing happened to me.

>

>Hugs

>Darcy

>

>

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[Guest guest]

True friends are so rare, and your " best friend " apparently wasn't very

" true. " I have been blessed with a wonderful friend, someone I've known

for forty years. We have lived in different towns (about 2 hours away)

since high school, and usually only see each other about once or twice a

year. However, she's always been there when I've needed her and vice

versa. Although she didn't really understand my FM, she knew me well

enough to accept the fact that I was in real pain. About a year ago, she

began to have severe pain, and was diagnosed with degenerative rheumatoid

arthritis . . . my turn to be there for her. All this has given her a

better understanding of what I have been going through, and it has brought

us even closer together.

There are wonderful, caring, sympathetic people out there who can love us

and accept us just the way we are. It's just a matter of finding them! I

know I often sound like a Pollyanna, but I truly believe that a positive

attitude is the best weapon against FM. When I do get down is when I hurt

the most . . . and when I hurt the most is when I get down!

Well, here I go rambling again . . . hugs and happy faces . . .

Jeane

>Carol Lugg wrote:

>

> > On one other note, and I know we've talked about this many times, last

> night

> > it the gal that I had become best friends with, came over, and made it very

> > clear that she didn't want to be my friend anymore. She felt that I was

> > being manipulative regarding my " illness " , and also told my husband so.

> > Funny though, we just celebrated our 19 wedding anniversary this week, and

> > he's never seen this ugly quality in me. I know I shouldn't feel this way,

> > but it does hurt!

>

>I'm sorry to hear about what this woman did. I had a " friend " that did

>something similar. Long story of why we had been best friends for years

>and then broke off being friends. I was really hurt by what she did,

>and not ready to make up when she was. When I refused to go back to

>being friends when she wanted to, she told me that I was being ugly and

>selfish, and if I kept on going the way I way going, one day I'd wake up

>and find myself all alone without even my husband since eventually he'd

>see the " true " me. Funny, he still doesn't see that, and I still have

>friends. She was mad and hurt that I didn't want to be friends and

>since she was convinced she was right, she took her anger out on me. I

>think you have every right to be hurt and upset! What she has done was

>basically a betrayal of your friendship, she turned from someone who was

>a trusted and good friend to an enemy that attacked you. You were blind

>sided by someone you felt would protect you. It took me a long time to

>work past my feelings of hurt when this same thing happened to me.

>

>Hugs

>Darcy

>

>

>HOME PAGE:http://www.geocities.com/Heartland/Oaks/7127/fibromyalgia-cfs.html

>SEND POST TO: fibromyalgia-cfs

>

[Guest guest]

True friends are so rare, and your " best friend " apparently wasn't very

" true. " I have been blessed with a wonderful friend, someone I've known

for forty years. We have lived in different towns (about 2 hours away)

since high school, and usually only see each other about once or twice a

year. However, she's always been there when I've needed her and vice

versa. Although she didn't really understand my FM, she knew me well

enough to accept the fact that I was in real pain. About a year ago, she

began to have severe pain, and was diagnosed with degenerative rheumatoid

arthritis . . . my turn to be there for her. All this has given her a

better understanding of what I have been going through, and it has brought

us even closer together.

There are wonderful, caring, sympathetic people out there who can love us

and accept us just the way we are. It's just a matter of finding them! I

know I often sound like a Pollyanna, but I truly believe that a positive

attitude is the best weapon against FM. When I do get down is when I hurt

the most . . . and when I hurt the most is when I get down!

Well, here I go rambling again . . . hugs and happy faces . . .

Jeane

>Carol Lugg wrote:

>

> > On one other note, and I know we've talked about this many times, last

> night

> > it the gal that I had become best friends with, came over, and made it very

> > clear that she didn't want to be my friend anymore. She felt that I was

> > being manipulative regarding my " illness " , and also told my husband so.

> > Funny though, we just celebrated our 19 wedding anniversary this week, and

> > he's never seen this ugly quality in me. I know I shouldn't feel this way,

> > but it does hurt!

>

>I'm sorry to hear about what this woman did. I had a " friend " that did

>something similar. Long story of why we had been best friends for years

>and then broke off being friends. I was really hurt by what she did,

>and not ready to make up when she was. When I refused to go back to

>being friends when she wanted to, she told me that I was being ugly and

>selfish, and if I kept on going the way I way going, one day I'd wake up

>and find myself all alone without even my husband since eventually he'd

>see the " true " me. Funny, he still doesn't see that, and I still have

>friends. She was mad and hurt that I didn't want to be friends and

>since she was convinced she was right, she took her anger out on me. I

>think you have every right to be hurt and upset! What she has done was

>basically a betrayal of your friendship, she turned from someone who was

>a trusted and good friend to an enemy that attacked you. You were blind

>sided by someone you felt would protect you. It took me a long time to

>work past my feelings of hurt when this same thing happened to me.

>

>Hugs

>Darcy

>

>

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>

[Guest guest]

patidu@... wrote:

>

> There are 399. For some reason, people subscribe to the list and them often

> unsubscribe in the same day. I would like to know why they decide to

> unsubscribe.

I know that I've subscribed to groups and then left in a short time when

I realized that the tone of group isn't what I like or it's something

different then I thought it was going to be. It isn't anything against

those groups, just that they weren't a good fit for me.

Darcy

[Guest guest]

Hi Carol,

I recently had a close friend pretty much tell me the same thing - being

manipulative about my illness. I have to say I don't think they were as

close as we thought they were, true friends accept us as we are and don't

try to find reasons not to be friends anymore. You are probably better off

without her.

I own my own business and I had a really bad flare when the weather changed

drastically in Cincinnati. I called my partner to say I would not be able to

come in that day due to the pain and overall flu like symptoms and she said

I was taking advantage of her for asking her to stay the rest of the day.

Never mind the fact that I work usually 12 hours a day and she doesn't. I

just don't get people, if the shoe were on the other foot I would have

gladly filled in for her. People can hurt us very badly sometimes.

Bernadette

Digest Number 962

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[Guest guest]

Hi Carol,

I recently had a close friend pretty much tell me the same thing - being

manipulative about my illness. I have to say I don't think they were as

close as we thought they were, true friends accept us as we are and don't

try to find reasons not to be friends anymore. You are probably better off

without her.

I own my own business and I had a really bad flare when the weather changed

drastically in Cincinnati. I called my partner to say I would not be able to

come in that day due to the pain and overall flu like symptoms and she said

I was taking advantage of her for asking her to stay the rest of the day.

Never mind the fact that I work usually 12 hours a day and she doesn't. I

just don't get people, if the shoe were on the other foot I would have

gladly filled in for her. People can hurt us very badly sometimes.

Bernadette

Digest Number 962

>

> HOME

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>

[Guest guest]

Hi Carol,

I recently had a close friend pretty much tell me the same thing - being

manipulative about my illness. I have to say I don't think they were as

close as we thought they were, true friends accept us as we are and don't

try to find reasons not to be friends anymore. You are probably better off

without her.

I own my own business and I had a really bad flare when the weather changed

drastically in Cincinnati. I called my partner to say I would not be able to

come in that day due to the pain and overall flu like symptoms and she said

I was taking advantage of her for asking her to stay the rest of the day.

Never mind the fact that I work usually 12 hours a day and she doesn't. I

just don't get people, if the shoe were on the other foot I would have

gladly filled in for her. People can hurt us very badly sometimes.

Bernadette

Digest Number 962

>

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