Re: Privacy Issue

[Guest guest]

:

I wish there were more people in the world like your MIL!! If it really

bothers you, you can always pull her aside and express this to her. Ask

her to quit bugging you. I also think that you should try breastfeeding

in front of a mirror. You will see that there is not a lot of skin

exposed. You can practice and feel more comfortable to feed in public.

It is so inconvenient to keep going inside to feed the baby, isn't it? I

usually lift my shirt so the baby can latch on and let the shirt come

around his face. The baby hides my belly and you can't see anything if

you are looking at me straight on or from the sides. With my first I was

very shy about feeding in public and that was probably one of the

reasons I weaned him so early.

~ M. ~ BestFedBaby@...

Wife to Demetrios

SAHMommy to Elijah (4/2/98)

and (11/20/99)

[Guest guest]

This is what I was thinking too! My MIL always uses obnoxious humor.

~ M. ~ BestFedBaby@...

Wife to Demetrios

SAHMommy to Elijah (4/2/98)

and (11/20/99)

[Guest guest]

This is what I was thinking too! My MIL always uses obnoxious humor.

~ M. ~ BestFedBaby@...

Wife to Demetrios

SAHMommy to Elijah (4/2/98)

and (11/20/99)

[Guest guest]

This is what I was thinking too! My MIL always uses obnoxious humor.

~ M. ~ BestFedBaby@...

Wife to Demetrios

SAHMommy to Elijah (4/2/98)

and (11/20/99)

[Guest guest]

As related to you all last weekend, I tried the public bf thing at the mall and

it went ok.....i'm sure i'll get used to it. But how does everyone feel about

bf in front of older children in the house? I have an 18 yr old, a 16 yr old

and a 12 yr old son and i'm bf'ing Dean......I don't feel funny at all about

carefully getting Dean to latch on under the cover of whatever shirt I have on

at the time, but afterwards if i need to walk around or do something while i'm

bf'ing, they see my breast but no nipple and i don't

cover up. The boys were alittle squeamish about seeing " MOMS BOOBS! OH MY GOD! "

*laughing* but are now comfy with it and don't even try to hide from me or get

me to cover up.....they seem completely comfy with it now like its the natural

thing that it was always intended to be. :-)

Rene'

[Guest guest]

I think I started to become less self-conscious about BFIP with my first

after I learned how to nurse him in a sling. It took us months (two at

least) to be able to nurse at home without looking like a circus act.

With my second (born last February) I was determined that she wouldn't slow

me down in keeping up with the two year old, so I came home from the

hospital and started wearing stretch pants and nursing shirts as my uniform.

In this comfortable apparel I felt confident to get out and meet my DD needs

while keeping DS from driving me bananas. In addition I had multiple drs

appts in those first six weeks (post-partum complications) and my " uniform "

was easy to get in and out of there as well.

I am no longer a very modest person--used to be though--so I don't worry too

much about who sees what, most of the time. I would say that the more

formal the setting that I am in the less apt to nurse in public I am. If I

am at the park or campground with friends and the baby needs to eat, I can

be wearing the least nursing friendly outfit I own, and I will just do what

I have to to get the baby latched-on for her meal, so that I can continue to

enjoy the outing.

If you are more comfortable being modest then it is your own privilege, and

I do mean privilege, since you will be able to enjoy private moments with

your nursing baby that no one else will know about. As for what to say to

your MIL, I think many possibilities for that have already been thrown out.

My family (and ILs) don't say anything since I would ignore it anyhow.

Amy Lynn M.

[Guest guest]

I think I started to become less self-conscious about BFIP with my first

after I learned how to nurse him in a sling. It took us months (two at

least) to be able to nurse at home without looking like a circus act.

With my second (born last February) I was determined that she wouldn't slow

me down in keeping up with the two year old, so I came home from the

hospital and started wearing stretch pants and nursing shirts as my uniform.

In this comfortable apparel I felt confident to get out and meet my DD needs

while keeping DS from driving me bananas. In addition I had multiple drs

appts in those first six weeks (post-partum complications) and my " uniform "

was easy to get in and out of there as well.

I am no longer a very modest person--used to be though--so I don't worry too

much about who sees what, most of the time. I would say that the more

formal the setting that I am in the less apt to nurse in public I am. If I

am at the park or campground with friends and the baby needs to eat, I can

be wearing the least nursing friendly outfit I own, and I will just do what

I have to to get the baby latched-on for her meal, so that I can continue to

enjoy the outing.

If you are more comfortable being modest then it is your own privilege, and

I do mean privilege, since you will be able to enjoy private moments with

your nursing baby that no one else will know about. As for what to say to

your MIL, I think many possibilities for that have already been thrown out.

My family (and ILs) don't say anything since I would ignore it anyhow.

Amy Lynn M.

[Guest guest]

I think I started to become less self-conscious about BFIP with my first

after I learned how to nurse him in a sling. It took us months (two at

least) to be able to nurse at home without looking like a circus act.

With my second (born last February) I was determined that she wouldn't slow

me down in keeping up with the two year old, so I came home from the

hospital and started wearing stretch pants and nursing shirts as my uniform.

In this comfortable apparel I felt confident to get out and meet my DD needs

while keeping DS from driving me bananas. In addition I had multiple drs

appts in those first six weeks (post-partum complications) and my " uniform "

was easy to get in and out of there as well.

I am no longer a very modest person--used to be though--so I don't worry too

much about who sees what, most of the time. I would say that the more

formal the setting that I am in the less apt to nurse in public I am. If I

am at the park or campground with friends and the baby needs to eat, I can

be wearing the least nursing friendly outfit I own, and I will just do what

I have to to get the baby latched-on for her meal, so that I can continue to

enjoy the outing.

If you are more comfortable being modest then it is your own privilege, and

I do mean privilege, since you will be able to enjoy private moments with

your nursing baby that no one else will know about. As for what to say to

your MIL, I think many possibilities for that have already been thrown out.

My family (and ILs) don't say anything since I would ignore it anyhow.

Amy Lynn M.

[Guest guest]

Shelby, this is the *best*! I've always found it easier for me to counter

things with a bit of sarcastic humor.

> You should ask her why she wants to see your boobs so badly. Or tell her

> you'll " whip it out " if she does.

> S.

[Guest guest]

Shelby, this is the *best*! I've always found it easier for me to counter

things with a bit of sarcastic humor.

> You should ask her why she wants to see your boobs so badly. Or tell her

> you'll " whip it out " if she does.

> S.

[Guest guest]

Shelby, this is the *best*! I've always found it easier for me to counter

things with a bit of sarcastic humor.

> You should ask her why she wants to see your boobs so badly. Or tell her

> you'll " whip it out " if she does.

> S.

[Guest guest]

Our older kids are 11, 6.5 and 5. When first came home from the

hospital, I was really self-conscious about breastfeeding in front of them

because I figured the older 2 would not remember my nursing the 5 year old

and he certainly doesn't remember anything. It had been so long and quite

frankly, I never prepared them, figuring it's a natural thing so they'll

just accept it.

At first, they said nothing. Then a couple of weeks into it, they started

asking questions, which I answered gladly. Now, I'd say I have 3 little

breastfeeding advocates running around!

I don't cover up, generally, because I'm a big fan of walking around in this

hot weather in my nursing bra (looks like a sport bra) and shorts. They will

come talk to while she's nursing and it doesn't phase them.

My youngest is the funniest because he never actually uses the term

" breastfeeding. " One time we were getting ready to go out to dinner and he

asked what the baby was going to have to eat. I explained again that she

can't eat regular food. He said, " Oh, yeah, she eats your boobies. " Close

enough.

It was a bit hard to put away my shyness but I think I'm doing them a favor

by exposing them to breastfeeding. My hope is that when my sons get older,

if they have kids, they'll encourage their wives to breastfeed and my

daughters will do it if they have kids.

(who really needs to make sure she drinks her coffee before posting,

otherwise has a tendancy to go *on* sheesh)

> As related to you all last weekend, I tried the public bf thing at the

mall and it went ok.....i'm sure i'll get used to it. But how does

everyone feel about bf in front of older children in the house? I have an

18 yr old, a 16 yr old and a 12 yr old son and i'm bf'ing Dean......I don't

feel funny at all about carefully getting Dean to latch on under the cover

of whatever shirt I have on at the time, but afterwards if i need to walk

around or do something while i'm bf'ing, they see my breast but no nipple

and i don't

> cover up. The boys were alittle squeamish about seeing " MOMS BOOBS! OH MY

GOD! " *laughing* but are now comfy with it and don't even try to hide from

me or get me to cover up.....they seem completely comfy with it now like its

the natural thing that it was always intended to be. :-)

>

> Rene'

[Guest guest]

Our older kids are 11, 6.5 and 5. When first came home from the

hospital, I was really self-conscious about breastfeeding in front of them

because I figured the older 2 would not remember my nursing the 5 year old

and he certainly doesn't remember anything. It had been so long and quite

frankly, I never prepared them, figuring it's a natural thing so they'll

just accept it.

At first, they said nothing. Then a couple of weeks into it, they started

asking questions, which I answered gladly. Now, I'd say I have 3 little

breastfeeding advocates running around!

I don't cover up, generally, because I'm a big fan of walking around in this

hot weather in my nursing bra (looks like a sport bra) and shorts. They will

come talk to while she's nursing and it doesn't phase them.

My youngest is the funniest because he never actually uses the term

" breastfeeding. " One time we were getting ready to go out to dinner and he

asked what the baby was going to have to eat. I explained again that she

can't eat regular food. He said, " Oh, yeah, she eats your boobies. " Close

enough.

It was a bit hard to put away my shyness but I think I'm doing them a favor

by exposing them to breastfeeding. My hope is that when my sons get older,

if they have kids, they'll encourage their wives to breastfeed and my

daughters will do it if they have kids.

(who really needs to make sure she drinks her coffee before posting,

otherwise has a tendancy to go *on* sheesh)

> As related to you all last weekend, I tried the public bf thing at the

mall and it went ok.....i'm sure i'll get used to it. But how does

everyone feel about bf in front of older children in the house? I have an

18 yr old, a 16 yr old and a 12 yr old son and i'm bf'ing Dean......I don't

feel funny at all about carefully getting Dean to latch on under the cover

of whatever shirt I have on at the time, but afterwards if i need to walk

around or do something while i'm bf'ing, they see my breast but no nipple

and i don't

> cover up. The boys were alittle squeamish about seeing " MOMS BOOBS! OH MY

GOD! " *laughing* but are now comfy with it and don't even try to hide from

me or get me to cover up.....they seem completely comfy with it now like its

the natural thing that it was always intended to be. :-)

>

> Rene'

[Guest guest]

Our older kids are 11, 6.5 and 5. When first came home from the

hospital, I was really self-conscious about breastfeeding in front of them

because I figured the older 2 would not remember my nursing the 5 year old

and he certainly doesn't remember anything. It had been so long and quite

frankly, I never prepared them, figuring it's a natural thing so they'll

just accept it.

At first, they said nothing. Then a couple of weeks into it, they started

asking questions, which I answered gladly. Now, I'd say I have 3 little

breastfeeding advocates running around!

I don't cover up, generally, because I'm a big fan of walking around in this

hot weather in my nursing bra (looks like a sport bra) and shorts. They will

come talk to while she's nursing and it doesn't phase them.

My youngest is the funniest because he never actually uses the term

" breastfeeding. " One time we were getting ready to go out to dinner and he

asked what the baby was going to have to eat. I explained again that she

can't eat regular food. He said, " Oh, yeah, she eats your boobies. " Close

enough.

It was a bit hard to put away my shyness but I think I'm doing them a favor

by exposing them to breastfeeding. My hope is that when my sons get older,

if they have kids, they'll encourage their wives to breastfeed and my

daughters will do it if they have kids.

(who really needs to make sure she drinks her coffee before posting,

otherwise has a tendancy to go *on* sheesh)

> As related to you all last weekend, I tried the public bf thing at the

mall and it went ok.....i'm sure i'll get used to it. But how does

everyone feel about bf in front of older children in the house? I have an

18 yr old, a 16 yr old and a 12 yr old son and i'm bf'ing Dean......I don't

feel funny at all about carefully getting Dean to latch on under the cover

of whatever shirt I have on at the time, but afterwards if i need to walk

around or do something while i'm bf'ing, they see my breast but no nipple

and i don't

> cover up. The boys were alittle squeamish about seeing " MOMS BOOBS! OH MY

GOD! " *laughing* but are now comfy with it and don't even try to hide from

me or get me to cover up.....they seem completely comfy with it now like its

the natural thing that it was always intended to be. :-)

>

> Rene'

[Guest guest]

<<My hope is that when my sons get older,if they have kids, they'll encourage their wives to breastfeed and mydaughters will do it if they have kids.>>

You know, I think this is why I have had such good success with it. I saw my mom do it so successfully...it just come so naturally to me.

I don't mind at all nursing in front of my kids and usually other family members...but I do get a bit "conscious" I guess out in public. But hey...there isn't hardly any place you can't find at least a little privacy.

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<<My hope is that when my sons get older,if they have kids, they'll encourage their wives to breastfeed and mydaughters will do it if they have kids.>>

You know, I think this is why I have had such good success with it. I saw my mom do it so successfully...it just come so naturally to me.

I don't mind at all nursing in front of my kids and usually other family members...but I do get a bit "conscious" I guess out in public. But hey...there isn't hardly any place you can't find at least a little privacy.

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>To: breastfeedingegroups

>Subject: Re: privacy issue

>Date: Thu, 13 Jul 2000 07:27:44 -0700

>

>Hi ,

> I am with you. I would ignore the woman myself. I don't

>breastfeed in public. I only do it in front of close family out of

>necessity and only then in front of certain family. I find it hard to

>latch on without a blanket and nearly impossible with a blanket

>draped. I won't just " whip it out " except in front of my mom and

>sisters and husband. My Adam Dean Zorko (DOB: 5-9-00)

>http://home.earthlink.net/~gzorko

Carla my alycin is almost the same age as your adam she was born on the

17th!!how cool,you have to tell me his stats!!

cindy

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>Reply-To: breastfeedingegroups

>To: breastfeedingegroups

>Subject: Re: privacy issue

>Date: Thu, 13 Jul 2000 07:27:44 -0700

>

>Hi ,

> I am with you. I would ignore the woman myself. I don't

>breastfeed in public. I only do it in front of close family out of

>necessity and only then in front of certain family. I find it hard to

>latch on without a blanket and nearly impossible with a blanket

>draped. I won't just " whip it out " except in front of my mom and

>sisters and husband. My Adam Dean Zorko (DOB: 5-9-00)

>http://home.earthlink.net/~gzorko

Carla my alycin is almost the same age as your adam she was born on the

17th!!how cool,you have to tell me his stats!!

cindy

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>From: BestFedBaby@...

>Reply-To: breastfeedingegroups

>To: breastfeedingegroups

>Subject: Re: privacy issue

>Date: Thu, 13 Jul 2000 18:41:38 -0400 (EDT)

>

>:

>

>I wish there were more people in the world like your MIL!! If it really

>bothers you, you can always pull her aside and express this to her. Ask

>her to quit bugging you. I also think that you should try breastfeeding

>in front of a mirror. You will see that there is not a lot of skin

>exposed. You can practice and feel more comfortable to feed in public.

>It is so inconvenient to keep going inside to feed the baby, isn't it? I

>usually lift my shirt so the baby can latch on and let the shirt come

>around his face. The baby hides my belly and you can't see anything if

>you are looking at me straight on or from the sides. With my first I was

>very shy about feeding in public and that was probably one of the

>reasons I weaned him so early.

>

>~ M. ~ BestFedBaby@...

>Wife to Demetrios

>SAHMommy to Elijah (4/2/98)

>and (11/20/99)

>HI ,

thanks for your suggestions i will have to try the mirror,yes it does get

very tiring feeding the baby in private,i hate hate hate feeding her in

public restrooms!!!!if i am in the mall i sometimes ask to use the dressing

rooms and one lady at tj maxx got mad at me because i wasnt trying anything

on!!!no one else was using the rooms at the time,and i felt what business of

hers is it!!she actually asked me what i was going to do in there!!well duh

moran i am holding an infant in my arms and nothing else so i wonder

!!!!lol.....

cindy

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>From: BestFedBaby@...

>Reply-To: breastfeedingegroups

>To: breastfeedingegroups

>Subject: Re: privacy issue

>Date: Thu, 13 Jul 2000 18:41:38 -0400 (EDT)

>

>:

>

>I wish there were more people in the world like your MIL!! If it really

>bothers you, you can always pull her aside and express this to her. Ask

>her to quit bugging you. I also think that you should try breastfeeding

>in front of a mirror. You will see that there is not a lot of skin

>exposed. You can practice and feel more comfortable to feed in public.

>It is so inconvenient to keep going inside to feed the baby, isn't it? I

>usually lift my shirt so the baby can latch on and let the shirt come

>around his face. The baby hides my belly and you can't see anything if

>you are looking at me straight on or from the sides. With my first I was

>very shy about feeding in public and that was probably one of the

>reasons I weaned him so early.

>

>~ M. ~ BestFedBaby@...

>Wife to Demetrios

>SAHMommy to Elijah (4/2/98)

>and (11/20/99)

>HI ,

thanks for your suggestions i will have to try the mirror,yes it does get

very tiring feeding the baby in private,i hate hate hate feeding her in

public restrooms!!!!if i am in the mall i sometimes ask to use the dressing

rooms and one lady at tj maxx got mad at me because i wasnt trying anything

on!!!no one else was using the rooms at the time,and i felt what business of

hers is it!!she actually asked me what i was going to do in there!!well duh

moran i am holding an infant in my arms and nothing else so i wonder

!!!!lol.....

cindy

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>From: BestFedBaby@...

>Reply-To: breastfeedingegroups

>To: breastfeedingegroups

>Subject: Re: privacy issue

>Date: Thu, 13 Jul 2000 18:41:38 -0400 (EDT)

>

>:

>

>I wish there were more people in the world like your MIL!! If it really

>bothers you, you can always pull her aside and express this to her. Ask

>her to quit bugging you. I also think that you should try breastfeeding

>in front of a mirror. You will see that there is not a lot of skin

>exposed. You can practice and feel more comfortable to feed in public.

>It is so inconvenient to keep going inside to feed the baby, isn't it? I

>usually lift my shirt so the baby can latch on and let the shirt come

>around his face. The baby hides my belly and you can't see anything if

>you are looking at me straight on or from the sides. With my first I was

>very shy about feeding in public and that was probably one of the

>reasons I weaned him so early.

>

>~ M. ~ BestFedBaby@...

>Wife to Demetrios

>SAHMommy to Elijah (4/2/98)

>and (11/20/99)

>HI ,

thanks for your suggestions i will have to try the mirror,yes it does get

very tiring feeding the baby in private,i hate hate hate feeding her in

public restrooms!!!!if i am in the mall i sometimes ask to use the dressing

rooms and one lady at tj maxx got mad at me because i wasnt trying anything

on!!!no one else was using the rooms at the time,and i felt what business of

hers is it!!she actually asked me what i was going to do in there!!well duh

moran i am holding an infant in my arms and nothing else so i wonder

!!!!lol.....

cindy

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In a message dated 7/14/00 8:11:45 PM Central Daylight Time,

cynthialabbe@... writes:

<< i am in the mall i sometimes ask to use the dressing

rooms and one lady at tj maxx got mad at me because i wasnt trying anything

on!!!no one else was using the rooms at the time,and i felt what business of

hers is it!!she actually asked me what i was going to do in there!!well duh

moran i am holding an infant in my arms and nothing else so i wonder >>

--I've done this too, asked to use a dressing room with nothing in my

hands but a baby (and now a toddler!). Sometimes I get a strange look, like

'what ever for?' to which I proudly say " I need a place to nurse the baby " .

Most always I've had positive responses and smiles. If I had encountered the

lady at TJ Maxx I think I would have had to just grab the closest garment and

say " Ok, now give me a dressing room " .

Fawn

**oh, it's also funny when the attendant is busily working and asks " how

many? " (meaning how many items to be tried on) and I smile and motion to

Drake and say " oh, just this one! " This is also usually followed by some

strange look as the thought occurs to them.........

[Guest guest]

In a message dated 7/14/00 8:11:45 PM Central Daylight Time,

cynthialabbe@... writes:

<< i am in the mall i sometimes ask to use the dressing

rooms and one lady at tj maxx got mad at me because i wasnt trying anything

on!!!no one else was using the rooms at the time,and i felt what business of

hers is it!!she actually asked me what i was going to do in there!!well duh

moran i am holding an infant in my arms and nothing else so i wonder >>

--I've done this too, asked to use a dressing room with nothing in my

hands but a baby (and now a toddler!). Sometimes I get a strange look, like

'what ever for?' to which I proudly say " I need a place to nurse the baby " .

Most always I've had positive responses and smiles. If I had encountered the

lady at TJ Maxx I think I would have had to just grab the closest garment and

say " Ok, now give me a dressing room " .

Fawn

**oh, it's also funny when the attendant is busily working and asks " how

many? " (meaning how many items to be tried on) and I smile and motion to

Drake and say " oh, just this one! " This is also usually followed by some

strange look as the thought occurs to them.........

[Guest guest]

In a message dated 7/14/00 8:11:45 PM Central Daylight Time,

cynthialabbe@... writes:

<< i am in the mall i sometimes ask to use the dressing

rooms and one lady at tj maxx got mad at me because i wasnt trying anything

on!!!no one else was using the rooms at the time,and i felt what business of

hers is it!!she actually asked me what i was going to do in there!!well duh

moran i am holding an infant in my arms and nothing else so i wonder >>

--I've done this too, asked to use a dressing room with nothing in my

hands but a baby (and now a toddler!). Sometimes I get a strange look, like

'what ever for?' to which I proudly say " I need a place to nurse the baby " .

Most always I've had positive responses and smiles. If I had encountered the

lady at TJ Maxx I think I would have had to just grab the closest garment and

say " Ok, now give me a dressing room " .

Fawn

**oh, it's also funny when the attendant is busily working and asks " how

many? " (meaning how many items to be tried on) and I smile and motion to

Drake and say " oh, just this one! " This is also usually followed by some

strange look as the thought occurs to them.........

[Guest guest]

In a message dated 7/14/00 6:11:45 PM Pacific Daylight Time,

cynthialabbe@... writes:

<< thanks for your suggestions i will have to try the mirror,yes it does get

very tiring feeding the baby in private,i hate hate hate feeding her in

public restrooms!!!!if i am in the mall i sometimes ask to use the dressing

rooms and one lady at tj maxx got mad at me because i wasnt trying anything

on!!!no one else was using the rooms at the time,and i felt what business of

hers is it!!she actually asked me what i was going to do in there!!well duh

moran i am holding an infant in my arms and nothing else so i wonder

!!!!lol.....

cindy >>

DO you have a sling? If so you could feed her anywhere and people couldn't

even tell what you are doing! I love my OTSBH. It works wonders!