Message from step sister

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Sigh, where do I start?

So when I went NC with nada after moving out of state (long story), my step

sister (nada's husband's daughter) kept sending me messages on facebook that

I should call nada, blah blah blah. I tried to set my boundaries and asked

her not to bring up nada because I didn't want to talk about it.

Well, she sent a few more, one which I think was most likely a lie based on

manipulation by nada, I don't know. Something about, " Just thought you'd

want to know that your mom had surgery & is doing fine " . I simply replied

along the lines of " glad she's ok " . If you knew my nada and how she'd

probably never go to the doctor unless she was bleeding out her eyes, you'd

know why this raises a red flag for me.

Well I continued to have step sister on my facebook for quite a while.

However, in the end before I removed her, she was becoming very

nada-like... very negative. She wasn't commenting on any of the positive

messages I was posting in regards to school & being a 4.0 student, but would

take the time to comment on a little rant about people in my house not

picking up after themselves with something like " Looks like it's time to

find a new place to live " . Really? She doesn't even have the first clue

about my situation. Anyway, it was after that " dig " that I removed her.

Well, it took her a while to realize that I had and I got a message from her

asking why I took her off. I didn't reply. Now she's messaged me again.

She was having some health issues last I knew about which I do totally feel

for her about having health issues of my own. But this message just strikes

up that fear feeling in my gut and makes me feel like... well, like a kid.

And being a KO I'm sure you all have a pretty good idea of how great that

was (not).

Her message says:

" Just wanted to say Hello....Im sorry please dont think I was stalking, just

been thinking of you and finally decided why not..hope you had a nice

holiday..I had a really bad accident and ended up having a major surgery had

to get a spinal cord stimulator placed on my spine, still hoping they can

save my leg but thats day to day..well just know I still think of you hope

your well and happy! take care Love, [her name] "

I knew about the stimulator and the problems she was having. Again, I feel

for her but I just don't feel comfortable with her after she violated my

clear boundaries of not wanting to talk about nada with her and then had a

very nada-like negativity in regards to my posts.

I just read it to fiance who just looked at me puzzled & said, " that's

weird " .

Is it? Am I blowing this out of proportion or am I justified? I just don't

know. I would love to NOT blow her off but again, I can't help but get that

gut feeling of red flags going up all over the place.

Didn't need this right now.

Mia