Guest guest Posted January 17, 2003 Report Share Posted January 17, 2003 oh no! jacquie H oh joy! oh bliss! My little angel has done a brand-new thing! A milestone! When he got frustrated in school today.............. HE PULLED OUT BIG CLUMPS OF HAIR! <sigh> Jacquie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 17, 2003 Report Share Posted January 17, 2003 oh no! jacquie H oh joy! oh bliss! My little angel has done a brand-new thing! A milestone! When he got frustrated in school today.............. HE PULLED OUT BIG CLUMPS OF HAIR! <sigh> Jacquie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 17, 2003 Report Share Posted January 17, 2003 oh no! jacquie H oh joy! oh bliss! My little angel has done a brand-new thing! A milestone! When he got frustrated in school today.............. HE PULLED OUT BIG CLUMPS OF HAIR! <sigh> Jacquie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 17, 2003 Report Share Posted January 17, 2003 Oh joy...NOT! Frustration in our kids sucks! Sue Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 17, 2003 Report Share Posted January 17, 2003 Oh joy...NOT! Frustration in our kids sucks! Sue Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 17, 2003 Report Share Posted January 17, 2003 Oh joy...NOT! Frustration in our kids sucks! Sue Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 17, 2003 Report Share Posted January 17, 2003 > Now, he is fully capable of stomping his foot and emoting: " I AM SO > FRUSTRATED! " > > More mature? I have no frigging clue. LOL. But a lot less self-abusive > and a little less a flashing neon " strange boy " sign. My test is if I can easily imagine Sophie doing it at that age and I can. So I think your choice was pretty good. Salli Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 17, 2003 Report Share Posted January 17, 2003 > Now, he is fully capable of stomping his foot and emoting: " I AM SO > FRUSTRATED! " > > More mature? I have no frigging clue. LOL. But a lot less self-abusive > and a little less a flashing neon " strange boy " sign. My test is if I can easily imagine Sophie doing it at that age and I can. So I think your choice was pretty good. Salli Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 17, 2003 Report Share Posted January 17, 2003 > Now, he is fully capable of stomping his foot and emoting: " I AM SO > FRUSTRATED! " > > More mature? I have no frigging clue. LOL. But a lot less self-abusive > and a little less a flashing neon " strange boy " sign. My test is if I can easily imagine Sophie doing it at that age and I can. So I think your choice was pretty good. Salli Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 17, 2003 Report Share Posted January 17, 2003 When starts that shit, (sorry, I mean self abuse, it makes me mad when he does that) I hold him down. If he's that out of control, I give him alot of " deep pressure " (sigh, sarcastic roll of eyes......I believe in that stuff really, but you know what I mean here) More like, I hold him until he quits it. When he starts the headbanging against his bed, I just go in and calmly wrap a towel around the bedposts to soften the blow, then I tell him to go for it " knock yourself out " no pun intended. He usually quits it. Most of the time however I " restrain him " (hold him firmly on my lap) until he calms down. He hates it not being in control so he usually stops after a while. He'll say ok, and I know that's my cue that I can let him up. Sometimes he does because of sensory overload, sometimes he does this because he's just pitching a fit.......like when it's clean up time. Sorry for rambling, I don't make any sense at all! Kris Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 17, 2003 Report Share Posted January 17, 2003 When starts that shit, (sorry, I mean self abuse, it makes me mad when he does that) I hold him down. If he's that out of control, I give him alot of " deep pressure " (sigh, sarcastic roll of eyes......I believe in that stuff really, but you know what I mean here) More like, I hold him until he quits it. When he starts the headbanging against his bed, I just go in and calmly wrap a towel around the bedposts to soften the blow, then I tell him to go for it " knock yourself out " no pun intended. He usually quits it. Most of the time however I " restrain him " (hold him firmly on my lap) until he calms down. He hates it not being in control so he usually stops after a while. He'll say ok, and I know that's my cue that I can let him up. Sometimes he does because of sensory overload, sometimes he does this because he's just pitching a fit.......like when it's clean up time. Sorry for rambling, I don't make any sense at all! Kris Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 17, 2003 Report Share Posted January 17, 2003 When starts that shit, (sorry, I mean self abuse, it makes me mad when he does that) I hold him down. If he's that out of control, I give him alot of " deep pressure " (sigh, sarcastic roll of eyes......I believe in that stuff really, but you know what I mean here) More like, I hold him until he quits it. When he starts the headbanging against his bed, I just go in and calmly wrap a towel around the bedposts to soften the blow, then I tell him to go for it " knock yourself out " no pun intended. He usually quits it. Most of the time however I " restrain him " (hold him firmly on my lap) until he calms down. He hates it not being in control so he usually stops after a while. He'll say ok, and I know that's my cue that I can let him up. Sometimes he does because of sensory overload, sometimes he does this because he's just pitching a fit.......like when it's clean up time. Sorry for rambling, I don't make any sense at all! Kris Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 17, 2003 Report Share Posted January 17, 2003 Totally serious here, this is quality education. Replace a really bad behavior with a better one, now why didn't the damn teacher think of that! Geez........ > > > ROTFLMAO! > > I taught him a slightly more mature response - I think - although it's not > MUCH more mature... > > We finally got to the emotion he was feeling when he did it. Frustrated. > Because no one was helping him pick them up. I told him that I understand > that need to DO something when you're frustrated, and told him, " Next time, > don't grab your hair. Next time, just stamp your foot really hard and say, > " I AM SO FRUSTRATED. " And then ask someone to help. " So we practiced. > First, he tapped his toes on the floor and said, " iamsofrustrated " . " No, " I > said, " REALLY show it. " And so we practiced some more. > > Now, he is fully capable of stomping his foot and emoting: " I AM SO > FRUSTRATED! " > > More mature? I have no frigging clue. LOL. But a lot less self- abusive > and a little less a flashing neon " strange boy " sign. > > Jacquie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 17, 2003 Report Share Posted January 17, 2003 Totally serious here, this is quality education. Replace a really bad behavior with a better one, now why didn't the damn teacher think of that! Geez........ > > > ROTFLMAO! > > I taught him a slightly more mature response - I think - although it's not > MUCH more mature... > > We finally got to the emotion he was feeling when he did it. Frustrated. > Because no one was helping him pick them up. I told him that I understand > that need to DO something when you're frustrated, and told him, " Next time, > don't grab your hair. Next time, just stamp your foot really hard and say, > " I AM SO FRUSTRATED. " And then ask someone to help. " So we practiced. > First, he tapped his toes on the floor and said, " iamsofrustrated " . " No, " I > said, " REALLY show it. " And so we practiced some more. > > Now, he is fully capable of stomping his foot and emoting: " I AM SO > FRUSTRATED! " > > More mature? I have no frigging clue. LOL. But a lot less self- abusive > and a little less a flashing neon " strange boy " sign. > > Jacquie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 17, 2003 Report Share Posted January 17, 2003 Oh goody. Isn't that just wonderful. Yuck! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 17, 2003 Report Share Posted January 17, 2003 Oh goody. Isn't that just wonderful. Yuck! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 17, 2003 Report Share Posted January 17, 2003 Oh goody. Isn't that just wonderful. Yuck! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 17, 2003 Report Share Posted January 17, 2003 Jacquie, I think it's a great response if he can do it in the heat of the moment! It's giving him the words to express the feeling without hurting anyone and ending with him asking for the help he needs. It's a great idea! Sue Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 17, 2003 Report Share Posted January 17, 2003 Jacquie, I think it's a great response if he can do it in the heat of the moment! It's giving him the words to express the feeling without hurting anyone and ending with him asking for the help he needs. It's a great idea! Sue Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 17, 2003 Report Share Posted January 17, 2003 > > HE PULLED OUT BIG CLUMPS OF HAIR! > His or someone else's? Raena (former " someone else " ) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 17, 2003 Report Share Posted January 17, 2003 > > HE PULLED OUT BIG CLUMPS OF HAIR! > His or someone else's? Raena (former " someone else " ) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 17, 2003 Report Share Posted January 17, 2003 > > HE PULLED OUT BIG CLUMPS OF HAIR! > His or someone else's? Raena (former " someone else " ) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 17, 2003 Report Share Posted January 17, 2003 > > His or someone else's? Never mind...kept reading the thread and found out. And, I do think rehearsing that scenario with him is a great idea; gives him a tool for the next time...even if it takes a few tries on his part. Other choice...teach him to recognize when he is STARTING to get frustrated by noting when it you see it at home and telling him what he is feeling so he can catch it before it gets out of control? Raena Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 17, 2003 Report Share Posted January 17, 2003 oh shit! ( michelle mg Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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