Guest guest Posted January 15, 2011 Report Share Posted January 15, 2011 Hi Latasha. I know what you mean about feeling like you're doing something wrong by being on this list & also feeling like you'll be found out. Boy, do I! lol. I still have weird fears about her and I have been NC with her for 20 months. My thought is if she were to be on any list, it'd be the one for people with BPD children... because don'cha know I'm the one with the problems, not her? Yes, I have my fair share of issues which stem from her abuse, but I sure as hell am not BPD. That's all nada. The gun story just shocks me. Wow, why on earth would you stay with someone who bought a gun and said they would kill you with it? Frightening. But your dad has that choice and he's got to be the one to decide if he stays or goes, just like you have to be the one to decide if you stay in her life or not. I like that you said " I cannot change that old bird (my Nada), but I'll try to see what I can do for me " I'm glad! As for the feelings of anger toward people with BPD, I think that's normal. Just take the workbook in slowly & do it at your own pace. You will get through it! Mia > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 15, 2011 Report Share Posted January 15, 2011 Hi Latasha. I know what you mean about feeling like you're doing something wrong by being on this list & also feeling like you'll be found out. Boy, do I! lol. I still have weird fears about her and I have been NC with her for 20 months. My thought is if she were to be on any list, it'd be the one for people with BPD children... because don'cha know I'm the one with the problems, not her? Yes, I have my fair share of issues which stem from her abuse, but I sure as hell am not BPD. That's all nada. The gun story just shocks me. Wow, why on earth would you stay with someone who bought a gun and said they would kill you with it? Frightening. But your dad has that choice and he's got to be the one to decide if he stays or goes, just like you have to be the one to decide if you stay in her life or not. I like that you said " I cannot change that old bird (my Nada), but I'll try to see what I can do for me " I'm glad! As for the feelings of anger toward people with BPD, I think that's normal. Just take the workbook in slowly & do it at your own pace. You will get through it! Mia > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 15, 2011 Report Share Posted January 15, 2011 You know that guilt feeling - it wasn't until I got therapy that I realized I didn't have to feel guilty for every little thing I did. My therapist taught me that I'm allowed to have positive thoughts about myself and that my life is just as important as everyone elses. Who knew? Is there a way you can get into therapy? You had a bad role model and incorrect education, and therapy really helps. XOXO girlscout > > > Hi Latasha. I know what you mean about feeling like you're doing something > wrong by being on this list & also feeling like you'll be found out. Boy, > do I! lol. I still have weird fears about her and I have been NC with her > for 20 months. My thought is if she were to be on any list, it'd be the one > for people with BPD children... because don'cha know I'm the one with the > problems, not her? Yes, I have my fair share of issues which stem from her > abuse, but I sure as hell am not BPD. That's all nada. > > The gun story just shocks me. Wow, why on earth would you stay with someone > who bought a gun and said they would kill you with it? Frightening. But > your > dad has that choice and he's got to be the one to decide if he stays or > goes, just like you have to be the one to decide if you stay in her life or > not. > > I like that you said " I cannot change that old bird (my Nada), but I'll try > to see what I can do for me " I'm glad! As for the feelings of anger toward > people with BPD, I think that's normal. Just take the workbook in slowly & > do it at your own pace. You will get through it! > > Mia > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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