Never trust Fada/Nada alone with...

[Guest guest]

cHi Folks, I came home yesterday after fighting the terrible blizzard that was

dropping 2 inches of snow an hour up and down the eastern half of the U.S. and

discovered Fada had broken the cordless land line phone. Yes I have a cell, but

hubby has been in business for 25+ years and all of his patients call that

number, and the school board calls that number and my sons call that number. So

every time the phone rang last night which it does at least 2 to 3 times an hour

we had to get up and leave the family room and go to the kitchen. We finally

gave up and went to bed because there is a phone at bedside. Anyway when the CNA

got here today I warned her " Never, ever, ever trust Fada alone with the phone "

but I got to thinking that there are other things we could stick in there

humorous or heart wrenching.

I guess for me it is " Never trust Fada with your feelings, because he'll make

it about him every time. "

Just curious to see what you all come up with.

Kay

[Guest guest]

Never trust Fada with yourself when you are alone, because he'll make you

cry. Always be in the company of a friend.

Never trust Fada with your littlest siblings, because they're still learning

how to walk on eggshells around him.

Never trust fada to understand that my hard of hearing brother and I are

just that--hard of hearing. He will get mad because you didn't respond right

away to his hollering across the house.

never trust fada with the dogs, because you may come home to find them more

neurotic than ever.

never trust fada with your plans for the day, because he will pout that

you're not staying home, and claim you hate him.

never trust your mom with your musings or secrets, because she will tell

fada, and fada will get mad.

never trust your fada to keep his promises that he'll support your school

decisions, because he will yell and yell, wondering why you're switching

majors from English to History.

never trust fada alone with your boyfriend, because he will make remarks

about how expensive I am in a way your boyfriend will feel creeped out.

(He's now my husband )

never trust fada to be reasonable when you're making a remark, because he

will take it out of context and blame you and you'll be in trouble with him

for weeks.

never trust your fada to be " normal " on holidays and major occasions,

because he will think he has to do everything, and will have a meltdown,

making it yet another Christmas on eggshells

never trust your fada to give you something without strings attached. There

are always strings attached, and he will bring it up any chance he gets in

order to guilt you to do something for him.

never tell your fada about health concerns. He will always think you're

faking it, doing it for the attention, and won't take it seriously.

never tell your fada that you think you're depressed, because he will say

you have no reason to be depressed, because he spent all his perfectly good

money on your cochlear implant, on your graduation, on the wonderful house

and dogs and clothes that he doesn't have to do, and if you think you're

depressed, he'll find a way to give you a reason to be depressed and will

punish you until you're happy.

never trust your fada with your childhood, because you will find you can

hardly remember anything before age 16, leading you to feel as if you're

missing a huge part of yourself.

never trust your fada's advice on how to handle money.

never trust your fada to be reasonable when you create your own bank account

at a different bank and start transferring money so that fada can't see it

or access it anymore. he will hit the roof and be hurt and take it as proof

that you hate him.

never trust your fada to not gaslight you when you're instating boundaries,

making you constantly question whether or not you imagined the abuse at his

hands, and wonder if you're the one who's sick, not fada.

I could go on...wow. Thanks for sharing that thought. It's actually quite

helpful. I need to write these down in my journal...

Holly

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> cHi Folks, I came home yesterday after fighting the terrible blizzard that

> was dropping 2 inches of snow an hour up and down the eastern half of the

> U.S. and discovered Fada had broken the cordless land line phone. Yes I have

> a cell, but hubby has been in business for 25+ years and all of his patients

> call that number, and the school board calls that number and my sons call

> that number. So every time the phone rang last night which it does at least

> 2 to 3 times an hour we had to get up and leave the family room and go to

> the kitchen. We finally gave up and went to bed because there is a phone at

> bedside. Anyway when the CNA got here today I warned her " Never, ever, ever

> trust Fada alone with the phone " but I got to thinking that there are other

> things we could stick in there humorous or heart wrenching.

> I guess for me it is " Never trust Fada with your feelings, because he'll

> make it about him every time. "

>

> Just curious to see what you all come up with.

> Kay

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Never trust Fada with yourself when you are alone, because he'll make you

cry. Always be in the company of a friend.

Never trust Fada with your littlest siblings, because they're still learning

how to walk on eggshells around him.

Never trust fada to understand that my hard of hearing brother and I are

just that--hard of hearing. He will get mad because you didn't respond right

away to his hollering across the house.

never trust fada with the dogs, because you may come home to find them more

neurotic than ever.

never trust fada with your plans for the day, because he will pout that

you're not staying home, and claim you hate him.

never trust your mom with your musings or secrets, because she will tell

fada, and fada will get mad.

never trust your fada to keep his promises that he'll support your school

decisions, because he will yell and yell, wondering why you're switching

majors from English to History.

never trust fada alone with your boyfriend, because he will make remarks

about how expensive I am in a way your boyfriend will feel creeped out.

(He's now my husband )

never trust fada to be reasonable when you're making a remark, because he

will take it out of context and blame you and you'll be in trouble with him

for weeks.

never trust your fada to be " normal " on holidays and major occasions,

because he will think he has to do everything, and will have a meltdown,

making it yet another Christmas on eggshells

never trust your fada to give you something without strings attached. There

are always strings attached, and he will bring it up any chance he gets in

order to guilt you to do something for him.

never tell your fada about health concerns. He will always think you're

faking it, doing it for the attention, and won't take it seriously.

never tell your fada that you think you're depressed, because he will say

you have no reason to be depressed, because he spent all his perfectly good

money on your cochlear implant, on your graduation, on the wonderful house

and dogs and clothes that he doesn't have to do, and if you think you're

depressed, he'll find a way to give you a reason to be depressed and will

punish you until you're happy.

never trust your fada with your childhood, because you will find you can

hardly remember anything before age 16, leading you to feel as if you're

missing a huge part of yourself.

never trust your fada's advice on how to handle money.

never trust your fada to be reasonable when you create your own bank account

at a different bank and start transferring money so that fada can't see it

or access it anymore. he will hit the roof and be hurt and take it as proof

that you hate him.

never trust your fada to not gaslight you when you're instating boundaries,

making you constantly question whether or not you imagined the abuse at his

hands, and wonder if you're the one who's sick, not fada.

I could go on...wow. Thanks for sharing that thought. It's actually quite

helpful. I need to write these down in my journal...

Holly

>

>

> cHi Folks, I came home yesterday after fighting the terrible blizzard that

> was dropping 2 inches of snow an hour up and down the eastern half of the

> U.S. and discovered Fada had broken the cordless land line phone. Yes I have

> a cell, but hubby has been in business for 25+ years and all of his patients

> call that number, and the school board calls that number and my sons call

> that number. So every time the phone rang last night which it does at least

> 2 to 3 times an hour we had to get up and leave the family room and go to

> the kitchen. We finally gave up and went to bed because there is a phone at

> bedside. Anyway when the CNA got here today I warned her " Never, ever, ever

> trust Fada alone with the phone " but I got to thinking that there are other

> things we could stick in there humorous or heart wrenching.

> I guess for me it is " Never trust Fada with your feelings, because he'll

> make it about him every time. "

>

> Just curious to see what you all come up with.

> Kay

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Never trust Fada with yourself when you are alone, because he'll make you

cry. Always be in the company of a friend.

Never trust Fada with your littlest siblings, because they're still learning

how to walk on eggshells around him.

Never trust fada to understand that my hard of hearing brother and I are

just that--hard of hearing. He will get mad because you didn't respond right

away to his hollering across the house.

never trust fada with the dogs, because you may come home to find them more

neurotic than ever.

never trust fada with your plans for the day, because he will pout that

you're not staying home, and claim you hate him.

never trust your mom with your musings or secrets, because she will tell

fada, and fada will get mad.

never trust your fada to keep his promises that he'll support your school

decisions, because he will yell and yell, wondering why you're switching

majors from English to History.

never trust fada alone with your boyfriend, because he will make remarks

about how expensive I am in a way your boyfriend will feel creeped out.

(He's now my husband )

never trust fada to be reasonable when you're making a remark, because he

will take it out of context and blame you and you'll be in trouble with him

for weeks.

never trust your fada to be " normal " on holidays and major occasions,

because he will think he has to do everything, and will have a meltdown,

making it yet another Christmas on eggshells

never trust your fada to give you something without strings attached. There

are always strings attached, and he will bring it up any chance he gets in

order to guilt you to do something for him.

never tell your fada about health concerns. He will always think you're

faking it, doing it for the attention, and won't take it seriously.

never tell your fada that you think you're depressed, because he will say

you have no reason to be depressed, because he spent all his perfectly good

money on your cochlear implant, on your graduation, on the wonderful house

and dogs and clothes that he doesn't have to do, and if you think you're

depressed, he'll find a way to give you a reason to be depressed and will

punish you until you're happy.

never trust your fada with your childhood, because you will find you can

hardly remember anything before age 16, leading you to feel as if you're

missing a huge part of yourself.

never trust your fada's advice on how to handle money.

never trust your fada to be reasonable when you create your own bank account

at a different bank and start transferring money so that fada can't see it

or access it anymore. he will hit the roof and be hurt and take it as proof

that you hate him.

never trust your fada to not gaslight you when you're instating boundaries,

making you constantly question whether or not you imagined the abuse at his

hands, and wonder if you're the one who's sick, not fada.

I could go on...wow. Thanks for sharing that thought. It's actually quite

helpful. I need to write these down in my journal...

Holly

>

>

> cHi Folks, I came home yesterday after fighting the terrible blizzard that

> was dropping 2 inches of snow an hour up and down the eastern half of the

> U.S. and discovered Fada had broken the cordless land line phone. Yes I have

> a cell, but hubby has been in business for 25+ years and all of his patients

> call that number, and the school board calls that number and my sons call

> that number. So every time the phone rang last night which it does at least

> 2 to 3 times an hour we had to get up and leave the family room and go to

> the kitchen. We finally gave up and went to bed because there is a phone at

> bedside. Anyway when the CNA got here today I warned her " Never, ever, ever

> trust Fada alone with the phone " but I got to thinking that there are other

> things we could stick in there humorous or heart wrenching.

> I guess for me it is " Never trust Fada with your feelings, because he'll

> make it about him every time. "

>

> Just curious to see what you all come up with.

> Kay

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