Guest guest Posted January 15, 2011 Report Share Posted January 15, 2011 Hi Em. You know your sister better than I do, but I'm not sure I would read too much into this. Maybe she just thinks your nada looks sad? Maybe she finds nursing homes depressing places (I think they are and we do most of our clinicals at them for nursing school). I don't know. Maybe she's having some fleas of her own and feeling guilty that your nada is in a home. But, No matter what, she chose to not help with difficult situations and frankly, I think that a nursing home really is the best place for her. They can give her the care she needs there. It shouldn't be up to you or your sister to do that unless you absolutely wanted to. Keep in mind even with families that do rearrange their lives to take care of an elderly parent it is often very exhausting & draining. I would try not to read too much into it. Even if she is being a flying monkey, which would be hard since nada couldn't put her up to it if she doesn't even know her anymore... well, it's her issue, not yours m'dear! Like I said, I could be completely wrong but that's just my take on it. If it is her trying to guilt you into something, well, doesn't mean that you have to at all. You're a grown woman who has the right to make her own decisions =) And if she is trying to get you to do something she wants done, bounce that responsibility back at her and tell her if she wants it done, she should do it. Hang in there. I know with situations like this it can get to us. I had my own version of this feeling last week when my step sister contacted me out of the blue before my surgery. Mia Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 15, 2011 Report Share Posted January 15, 2011 See, there you go Em. You have SO MUCH on your shoulders, I think you ought to say " Gee, if you're so concerned about mom, I will make sure I send you <insert something> so you can take care of it! Thanks! " Yeah, I'd be angry too. Mia Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 15, 2011 Report Share Posted January 15, 2011 See, there you go Em. You have SO MUCH on your shoulders, I think you ought to say " Gee, if you're so concerned about mom, I will make sure I send you <insert something> so you can take care of it! Thanks! " Yeah, I'd be angry too. Mia Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 15, 2011 Report Share Posted January 15, 2011 See, there you go Em. You have SO MUCH on your shoulders, I think you ought to say " Gee, if you're so concerned about mom, I will make sure I send you <insert something> so you can take care of it! Thanks! " Yeah, I'd be angry too. Mia Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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