FOG in action

[Guest guest]

Many of you old timers, and I don t mean your age ladies, are

familiar with the concept of FOG : Fear Obligation Guilt that BP parents

used or use to control and manipulate us.

Some of you are also aware that I m writing a book with a working title

Orphans of the FOG, about the experience and effect of being the child

of a BP.

I m working currently on a section about manipulation and control. I

would love to hear from you guys examples of FOG in your life and

relationship with nada. Ways in which she guilts or scares you, forces

you to do what you don t want to, or forces you to do what you would do

anyway, and thus take the joy from it.

This can be current, when you were growing up, or fleas that still drive

you today, which you realize were from FOG used by nada all your life,

or years ago. Even if Nada is dead, as some of us have come to find

out, it ceases to be about her and what she does, but about us and what

we will choose to do, or not. The FOG stays with us KO s, long after

we are orphans.

Look forward to hearing your FOG stories.

Doug