Potty-training Regression

[Guest guest]

Hi All:

We started potty-training my 4 year old daughter right after Christmas break.

We had lots of encouragement from her teacher, therapists and other mommies. At

the 2 week mark, we just wanted to give up. Everyone told me, " Don't you dare! "

and to hang in there. Well, we're glad we listened because she got the hang of

going in the potty, for #2 as well (most of the time!). Lately, though, she's

been peeing everywhere except the toilet! She's ruined an 8 x 10 rug, peed on

our chaise lounge, her bed (numerous times), etc. What is going on?!! She gets

annoyed when I take her, arches her back when she's on the potty, and fights us

when made to sit (books don't work anymore, re-inforcers are mostly uselss).

We'll take her and she'll sit, but won't go. Then, literally, 2 minutes later,

pees in the living room. I want to pull my hair out! Any hints, tips, or ideas

out there? Help!!

[Guest guest]

there is a behavioral plan for toileting. Every time she pees somewhere other than the potty, you calmly take her to the potty, pull down pants, sit her on pot, pull up pants, wash hands, go back to where she peed, have her help clean up, verbal support with "pee in potty, not on ___" then back to potty, go through routine all over again for at least 5x. It is exhausting and the behaviorist wanted me to do it 10x but I compromised at 5. It took a day or two with tantrums etc but it did work and my child learned consequences. When she peed in the potty she got a verbal positive reinforcer. The trick is to stay calm & neutral while the child is kicking, screaming etc. I had friends over when I had to do this with my child and they were trying to say "it was just an accident" but I just put up my hand to stop them from saying anything to deter from what we were trying to do. To this day, 14 yrs later, one

of my friends who was there and also witnessed other meltdowns etc has told me that she admires the consistency and calmness displayed during that training time as well as others and doesn't know if she could have done it, how she thinks my child is doing so well because of it - yada yada etc. All I know is that my spouse could not do it so as a mom that didn't want a 17 yr old not toilet trained etc I had to do it. This was part of the Lovaas training way back then. Good luck.

To: sList Sent: Wed, March 31, 2010 4:07:37 PMSubject: Potty-training Regression

Hi All:We started potty-training my 4 year old daughter right after Christmas break. We had lots of encouragement from her teacher, therapists and other mommies. At the 2 week mark, we just wanted to give up. Everyone told me, "Don't you dare!" and to hang in there. Well, we're glad we listened because she got the hang of going in the potty, for #2 as well (most of the time!). Lately, though, she's been peeing everywhere except the toilet! She's ruined an 8 x 10 rug, peed on our chaise lounge, her bed (numerous times), etc. What is going on?!! She gets annoyed when I take her, arches her back when she's on the potty, and fights us when made to sit (books don't work anymore, re-inforcers are mostly uselss). We'll take her and she'll sit, but won't go. Then, literally, 2 minutes later, pees in the living room. I want to pull my hair out! Any hints, tips, or ideas out there? Help!!

[Guest guest]

there is a behavioral plan for toileting. Every time she pees somewhere other than the potty, you calmly take her to the potty, pull down pants, sit her on pot, pull up pants, wash hands, go back to where she peed, have her help clean up, verbal support with "pee in potty, not on ___" then back to potty, go through routine all over again for at least 5x. It is exhausting and the behaviorist wanted me to do it 10x but I compromised at 5. It took a day or two with tantrums etc but it did work and my child learned consequences. When she peed in the potty she got a verbal positive reinforcer. The trick is to stay calm & neutral while the child is kicking, screaming etc. I had friends over when I had to do this with my child and they were trying to say "it was just an accident" but I just put up my hand to stop them from saying anything to deter from what we were trying to do. To this day, 14 yrs later, one

of my friends who was there and also witnessed other meltdowns etc has told me that she admires the consistency and calmness displayed during that training time as well as others and doesn't know if she could have done it, how she thinks my child is doing so well because of it - yada yada etc. All I know is that my spouse could not do it so as a mom that didn't want a 17 yr old not toilet trained etc I had to do it. This was part of the Lovaas training way back then. Good luck.

To: sList Sent: Wed, March 31, 2010 4:07:37 PMSubject: Potty-training Regression

Hi All:We started potty-training my 4 year old daughter right after Christmas break. We had lots of encouragement from her teacher, therapists and other mommies. At the 2 week mark, we just wanted to give up. Everyone told me, "Don't you dare!" and to hang in there. Well, we're glad we listened because she got the hang of going in the potty, for #2 as well (most of the time!). Lately, though, she's been peeing everywhere except the toilet! She's ruined an 8 x 10 rug, peed on our chaise lounge, her bed (numerous times), etc. What is going on?!! She gets annoyed when I take her, arches her back when she's on the potty, and fights us when made to sit (books don't work anymore, re-inforcers are mostly uselss). We'll take her and she'll sit, but won't go. Then, literally, 2 minutes later, pees in the living room. I want to pull my hair out! Any hints, tips, or ideas out there? Help!!

[Guest guest]

there is a behavioral plan for toileting. Every time she pees somewhere other than the potty, you calmly take her to the potty, pull down pants, sit her on pot, pull up pants, wash hands, go back to where she peed, have her help clean up, verbal support with "pee in potty, not on ___" then back to potty, go through routine all over again for at least 5x. It is exhausting and the behaviorist wanted me to do it 10x but I compromised at 5. It took a day or two with tantrums etc but it did work and my child learned consequences. When she peed in the potty she got a verbal positive reinforcer. The trick is to stay calm & neutral while the child is kicking, screaming etc. I had friends over when I had to do this with my child and they were trying to say "it was just an accident" but I just put up my hand to stop them from saying anything to deter from what we were trying to do. To this day, 14 yrs later, one

of my friends who was there and also witnessed other meltdowns etc has told me that she admires the consistency and calmness displayed during that training time as well as others and doesn't know if she could have done it, how she thinks my child is doing so well because of it - yada yada etc. All I know is that my spouse could not do it so as a mom that didn't want a 17 yr old not toilet trained etc I had to do it. This was part of the Lovaas training way back then. Good luck.

To: sList Sent: Wed, March 31, 2010 4:07:37 PMSubject: Potty-training Regression

Hi All:We started potty-training my 4 year old daughter right after Christmas break. We had lots of encouragement from her teacher, therapists and other mommies. At the 2 week mark, we just wanted to give up. Everyone told me, "Don't you dare!" and to hang in there. Well, we're glad we listened because she got the hang of going in the potty, for #2 as well (most of the time!). Lately, though, she's been peeing everywhere except the toilet! She's ruined an 8 x 10 rug, peed on our chaise lounge, her bed (numerous times), etc. What is going on?!! She gets annoyed when I take her, arches her back when she's on the potty, and fights us when made to sit (books don't work anymore, re-inforcers are mostly uselss). We'll take her and she'll sit, but won't go. Then, literally, 2 minutes later, pees in the living room. I want to pull my hair out! Any hints, tips, or ideas out there? Help!!